Dear Ate Chai

11/06/2025

“Ilang beses na nangakong magbabago, pero wala namang pagbabago!”

Magbabagong taon na naman.
At ayan na naman tayo, lahat may new year, new me moment.

Gym memberships, vision boards, journaling, detox, cut toxic people, focus sa sarili, hustle mode on.

Pero honestly, ilang taon na rin ba natin ‘to sinasabi?
“Magbabago na ako.”
“Hindi na ako magpapakatanga.”
“Mas magiging mabait na ako.”
“Mag-iipon na ako this time.”
“Mas magiging consistent na ako.”

Pero pagdating ng February, balik ulit sa dati.
Yung mga pangakong binitawan sa ilalim ng fireworks, natunaw din sa init ng realidad.

Maybe the problem isn’t the promise, maybe it’s how we think change happens overnight.
Hindi kasi magic ang pagbabago. Hindi siya dahil lang January 1.

Change happens quietly. On random Tuesdays. In the middle of breakdowns.
When no one’s clapping, and you’re just tired of your own excuses.

So this year, baka hindi natin kailangang magpanggap na “magbabago.”
Baka kailangan lang natin magsimula kahit maliit.
Unti-unti. Totoo. Hindi para sa likes, hindi para sa trend.
Para sa sarili.

Kasi minsan, hindi mo kailangan ng bagong taon.. ang kailangan mo, totoong desisyon.

10/18/2025

🌟 New Podcast Alert: Episode 1 | Bagong Simula ✨🌟

Not everything starts perfect. Sometimes what’s behind the highlight reel is messy, real, and filled with unexpected twists.

In this debut episode ng Not So “IT Girl”, ibabahagi ko kung ang storya ni Belinda, ang bagong Pinay na dumating sa Amerika para magbagong buhay na may halong pretensyon.

🔥 Kung naranasan mo na ring ma-stuck sa pagitan ng kung sino ka dati at kung sino ka gustong maging…
🎧 Kung gusto mo ng kwento na hindi puro highlight reel kundi totoo, raw, at relatable…

This one’s for you.

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10/18/2025

Classic na galawan na to.

Pero may kakilala ka bang todo-flex na mayaman, todo post ng mamahaling gamit sa social media, pero behind all that, di makabayad?

Yung tipong sa feed nila at bungad sa mga tao na madami daw pera, parang walang problema, may mga bagong gamit na alam mong di kayang bayaran (minsan gagamit pa ng credit card ng magulang o ng kaibigan, para lang mabili ang luho) at kung anu-ano pang kayabangan?

Pero kapag usapang bayaran na, biglang naglalaho. Kapag due date na, may pa-“next week na lang, nalimutan ko”, "ay di pa dumadating ung sweldo" o kaya may pa-drama na “nagka-emergency kasi.”

Nakakatawa at nakakalungkot isipin, ang bilis mag-post, pero ang bagal magbayad. Sa online world at sa madla, mukha siyang goals, pero sa totoong buhay, lugmok at lubog sa utang, tapos stress pa ang dala niya sa mga nagpa-utang.

At minsan, mapapaisip ka: mas mahalaga ba talaga ang ipakita sa mundo na “mayaman ka” kahit na sa likod nun, may mga utang pa rin ang hindi nababayaran?

Kaya reminder: Bago mag-yabang, siguraduhi mong marunong kang rumespeto at managutan. At kung lugmok ka, wag mo ng pilitin ipamukang mayaman ka, mas lalo kang nagmumukang social climber.

10/17/2025

The Night I Found My Answer

We were both adults who knew what is right and what is wrong. He was married and I was too, but my marriage had already fallen apart. I knew he loved his family and I never wanted to take that away from him. Maybe he just wanted a moment while I was looking for answers to my what ifs, what it feels like to be loved again, to be held, and to feel someone’s warmth after such a long time.

That night I realized something. The love I thought I still had for my husband was already gone. And for the first time I admitted to myself that I also deserve to be loved, to be seen, and to be reminded that I still matter.

That night I cried my heart out in his arms but he did not ask why. He just hugged me tight. Walang salita pero ramdam ko sa yakap niya ang mga salitang gusto kong marinig. He gently caressed my back, wiped my tears, and stayed quiet. And in that silence I made a promise to myself that I would be stronger, that I would let go of the pain, tell the truth to the world that the marriage they once envied and admired was already broken despite me giving and doing everything to keep it, accept their judgments, and choose peace and happiness again.

At first I thought that night was just closure, a way to end my curiosity and finally set myself free. Pero after that night I started to feel something I did not expect. Unti unti ko siyang naiisip, not because I wanted to take someone’s place in his life, but because he made me feel cared for when I needed it most.

It was not love but it was real, a moment that reminded me that even in my brokenness I was still capable of feeling something true. Maybe it was wrong but it was also the night I found myself again.

That night will always remind me that some experiences are not meant to be repeated. They exist to wake you up, teach you lessons, and lead you back to peace. ❤

- 𝙼𝚊'𝚊𝚖 𝙹𝚘.

And to that man, this will be my last letter, not out of anger, but out of acceptance. This will serve as my closure, the final page to a chapter I was never meant to keep open. I will carry the memory of that night, not as a wound, but as a reminder that I am capable of being seen, cared for, and reminded of my worth. But from here on, I must let go. This letter is my goodbye, my thank you, and my promise to myself that I will walk forward with peace.

10/14/2025

Hello mga friends and followers, ako naman ang kakatok sa inyo.

Alam kong lahat tayo may kanya-kanyang pinagdadaanan, pero ngayon gusto kong humingi ng kaunting tulong para kay kuya. Hindi ko siya kayang tulungan ng malaki financially, kaya naisip ko na baka sa pamamagitan ng pagbabahagi ng kwento niya, mas marami tayong makakalap na suporta.

🤲 Minsan hindi natin alam kung saan kukuha ng lakas, pero sa pagtutulungan, nagiging mas magaan. Kahit maliit na halaga, malaking bagay na para kay kuya. Ang importante ay bukal sa loob at galing sa puso ang pagtulong.

👉 Kung hindi man kayo makapagbigay ng donasyon, malaking tulong na rin kung maibahagi ninyo ang post na ito. Malay natin, sa dami ng makakabasa, may makakarating na grasya at makakatulong sa kanya.

🌟 Sabi nga nila, “sharing is caring.” Bawat share at bawat dasal ay dagdag lakas para sa kanya at sa pamilya.

Maraming salamat po sa inyong lahat in advance. 🙏
Kung may sobra, tulungan natin si kuya. Kung wala, ipagdasal natin siya at i-share ang kwento niya.

Any amount will do, and every share counts!

Direcho na po sa gcash ni Kuya ang funds na maido-donate ninyo and his gcash is in this album na din.

Yakap ng mahigpit. 🫂

Love,
Chai.

10/14/2025

Not so "IT Girl" by yours truly.

Sundan ang kwento ni Belinda at ang inggit na naka-dikit sa kanyang buhay.

When sixteen-year-old Belinda migrates from Manila to a small American town called Evergrove, she thinks blending in wi...

10/11/2025

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10/11/2025

May kakilala ka bang kakaibiganin ka para sirain ang mga nabuo mong friendship sa ibang tao?

Sa una, Mabait ang entrada, minsan humble pa nga kuno. Laging nakangiti, laging handang makinig. Para bang sila ang kakampi mo sa lahat ng bagay. Mag-aalok ng payo, ng balikat na masasandalan, at magpaparamdam na hindi ka tataramtaduhin. Kuhang-kuha na agad ang tiwala mo.

Pero habang tumatagal, unti-unting lumalabas ang tunay na kulay. May mga bulong silang isinisiksik sa tenga mo.
Mahirap kaaway ‘yan, sisiraan ka.
“Alam mo ba, inggit ‘yan sakin, kaya pag may sinabi ‘yan tungkol sakin… alam mo na.”

At doon nagsisimula ang bitak. Ang mga matatag na samahan, nagiging marupok. Ang mga kaibigang dati mong maaasahan, unti-unting napupuno ng duda at tampuhan. Hindi dahil may tunay na kasalanan, kundi dahil may lason na idinulot ng dila ng ahas.

Habang nagkakawatak-watak ang iba, siya naman ang pumapagitna. Kunwari tagapamagitan, kunwari tagapagtanggol. Ngunit sa totoo, Magaling syang magpa-ikot at magmanipula ng tao. Isa-isa niyang kinukuha ang tiwala ng lahat. Unti-unti niyang hinihila ang mga sikreto ng bawat isa. At kapag buo na ang hawak niya, Saka iya isisiwalat isa-isa. Ilalaglag ka niya. At bandang huli, siya pa ang magpapaka-biktima, sasabihin: “Ako kasi ang pinagtutulungan, ako kasi ang hindi nila maintindihan.”

Walang sinasanto ang mga ganitong klase ng tao. Basta may makilala at makasama, sisiraan. Basta may makuhang pakinabang, gagamitin. Basta may makitang butas, lalakihan ang butas.

Ngunit tandaan natin: hindi nagtatagal ang kasinungalingan. Hindi habangbuhay na nakakapanlinlang ang ahas. Dahil sa huli, nahuhubaran din ng maskara. Ang iniwang tiwala? Para lamang salamin, kapag nabasag, hindi na muling maibabalik gaya ng dati.

Aral: Hindi lahat ng nakangiti ay tunay. Hindi lahat ng nakikinig ay totoo. At hindi lahat ng gustong maging bida, mabuti ang intensyon. Kaya’t mag-ingat kayo palagi sa taong pipiliin nyong pagkatiwalaan, at ang iyong kakaibiganin. Dahil ang taong tunay na kaibigan, hindi sisira, hindi gagamit, at lalong hindi magtatanim ng lason.

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05/04/2025

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05/04/2025

PANGIT MAGBUNTIS | First Episode of Dear ate Chai.

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