Holly Smee, RCC

Holly Smee, RCC Licensed Psychotherapist, Author, Artist, Oracle Deck Creator, and Publisher. lnk.bio/hollysmee

05/28/2026

Weiner life ❤️

Save the date!I'm pretty excited about this one
05/24/2026

Save the date!

I'm pretty excited about this one

05/22/2026

Thank you, happy little hibiscus for your medicine 🌺❤️

05/22/2026

Happy birthday, 4th Dash! 💚✨️

The word "birthday" is a big deal in this house.

They know the word AND the song, and the concept that the word belongs to only one person every once in a while, and that on that day, that being or person gets spoiled, taken into the pet store alone to pick out treats and toys, with a party to follow.

He just KNEW it was HIS day. He ran into the pet store 🤣🤣

What he didn't love is having to go for a walk before his party lmao

Happy 4th birthday to my little Burrito ❤️✨️❤️ you are the sweetest of the sweet.

Guilt is often easier for the nervous system to carry than helplessness.Because guilt whispers the illusion that maybe, ...
05/18/2026

Guilt is often easier for the nervous system to carry than helplessness.
Because guilt whispers the illusion that maybe, somehow, we could have changed the outcome.

That if we had said the right thing, noticed sooner, loved harder, stayed longer, left earlier, called one more time… maybe things would be different.
Guilt gives us imagined agency.
It creates the feeling of movement in a situation that left us powerless.
But helplessness?

Helplessness asks us to sit with one of the hardest truths a human being can face: that sometimes terrible things happen even when we loved deeply.

Even when we tried.

Even when we would have done absolutely anything to save someone.

In grief work, I often see people punish themselves because self-blame feels more tolerable than accepting how little control we truly had.

The mind searches for reasons because reasons feel safer than randomness. Safer than loss. Safer than the unbearable ache of not being able to fix what cannot be fixed.

Sometimes healing begins when we gently loosen our grip on the story that it was all our fault.

Not to avoid accountability where it belongs — but to stop carrying responsibility for things that were never ours to hold alone.

Grief is heavy enough already.
You do not have to add self-cruelty to the weight of it.

©️ Holly Smee

When you find your boss' book in your mom's prized collection of treasures ❤️My mom loved She later told me that SARK w...
05/16/2026

When you find your boss' book in your mom's prized collection of treasures ❤️

My mom loved

She later told me that SARK was the first person to teach her about self-love, a concept she had never learned being raised in the Mormon church.

My mom loved her creative expression, her confidence, her wild abandon and authentic nature.

As a teenager, I was intrigued by this most colorful and unique book sitting on my mom's shelf, with rainbow text and wavy writing - a book that looked like no other conventional library book on any shelf in any school.

What was this thing?

I knew the book made my mom most happy 🌈

Little did i know then, in surprising and mysteries twists, my mom was leading me to my future, in ways that none of us could foretell.

Thanks, mama. This one will always be my favorite copy because it was yours 🤍🪽

05/10/2026

I wish you a peaceful Mother’s Day, not necessarily a happy one.

Not every Mother’s Day is happy.
For many, it is a day of sadness, conflict, longing, or mourning.

If today feels heavy for you, this song is for you.

I learned it this week for my mom, who passed away two weeks ago. She loved this song and all broadway musicals, in general.

Losing your mother just before Mother’s Day feels like its own particular kind of heartbreak. Its own kind of cruelty.

My tears started flowing as soon as my eyes opened today and i realized it was the "Happy Mother's Day" day - a day i often find confusing. I know I'm not the only one who finds these packaged Hallmark holidays dichotomous.

So if today is difficult, you do not have to force happiness onto it.

I simply wish you a peaceful day.
A gentle day.
And the strength to move through it, one breath at a time.

I'm sending my love to the bruised hearts today, knowing the happy hearted don't need the extra love today ❤️‍🩹

Thank you for the love and support. ❤️One thing I know for sure is that life can be impossibly hard and heartbreakingly ...
05/06/2026

Thank you for the love and support. ❤️

One thing I know for sure is that life can be impossibly hard and heartbreakingly beautiful at the very same time. It can hold grief and love in the same breath.

Thank you for holding me so gently in my grief. For the messages, the kindness, the meals, the flowers, the prayers, the memories, the quiet check-ins, and the love wrapped around me and my family. I love you all!

I am blessed to be connected to the very best team. Thank you, SARK and David, Amber, Erika, Lorie, Jen and Anna for the beautiful flowers. I love you guys so much. 🤍

I feel it all. And it matters more than I can say 🌠🌟✨️

Thank you so much to Tammy Mandel and the Castle Theatre for remembering my mom, my family, and for showing your suppo...
04/28/2026

Thank you so much to Tammy Mandel and the Castle Theatre for remembering my mom, my family, and for showing your support and love to us right now ❤️

I immediately started 😭😭😭 when my sister sent this to me today ⚡️

Rest in paradise, mum 🤍🪽 the whole community adored you and misses you 🌠

Her funeral is May 1st at 11AM at the Brilliant Cultural Center with a 2pm burial at Park Memorial Cemetery to follow 🪽

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