12/15/2025
Welp. Here I thought my baseball reels that went kinda viral brought out the worst in people. But then the interwebs said "naaaah, hold my beer"
I mean, I fully expected some noise with that oilfield appreciation post. I'm not naive.
The "it isn't that hard" crowd.
The stereotyping.
The green-energy saviours.
THOSE were predictable. Yawn.
0% of me is bothered by comments like that. We can agree to disagree.
What I did absolutely NOT expect was needing to block over a dozen adults (with several more still auditioning as we speak...)
In the last 48hrs, I have been called fat, toxic, disgusting, useless, waste of skin, old, fake, saggy, r*tarded, a "rig pig's wife" (countless times), a cesspool, I look like I take a lot of 🍆 (ok, not wrong 🤣 my husband will attest) and - truly a standout and my personal favorite - transgender?! 🤔
One guy even took it upon himself to slide into my personal Facebook DMs after I deleted his comments just to keep the trash talk flowing, until my husband stepped in and ended it (not nicely...)
GROWN ASS MEN did this. But I was also berated by 2 women because I "must really hate women to not even mention them" (maybe I'll unpack my thoughts on that another day...or maybe not 🙈)
Blocked. Banned. Banned. Aaand blocked. I'm not even someone who usually resorts to blocking but it became SO much that I just started automatically doing it without even engaging.
Here's what I know:
It's a damn good thing I have thick skin. Like…industrial grade. Because imagine someone softer. Quiet. Timid. Someone just posting what they believed a heartfelt appreciation for the people they love and admire and then being blasted with this level of cruelty and audacity.
These aren't "opinions"
They aren't "debates"
They aren't "jokes"
They're the exact kinds of comments that can chip away at certain personality types. The kind that could make someone cry. The kind that lingers in your head long after the apps are closed. The kind that makes people question their value, their body, their voice or whether they should speak up again at all. Even the strongest personalities like mine who generally DGAF about haters will at very least be left wondering WTAF is going on here.
I gotta ask. Are we (collective) ok?
Like…actually ok?!
Would you be comfortable if your words were read out loud to your employer?
Or at your family dinner table, in front of your spouse and children?
Would you say this to someone standing in front of you? Would you repeat it if their partner was beside them? Their mother? Their daughter?
Better yet...how would you react if someone said these things to YOUR wife, YOUR Mother, YOUR sister, YOUR daughter? Honest question. Please sit with it. Chew on it. Taste it. Is it bitter?
Are we only this bold because the internet gives us distance, anonymity, and an invisible shield. Rhetorical, no need for a question mark. Because I refuuuuse to believe you're speaking to people like this face-to-face. And if you are…that's an even bigger conversation. Wow.
Somewhere along the way, society has dangerously lost sight of the fact that there are actual people on the other side of these little plastic (oil derived 😉) boxes we hold in our hot little hands.
Real lives.
Real emotions.
REAL FKN HUMAN BEINGS.
And I'm just here to say...I think it's time to remember that before you hit "send"
Happy Monday ✌️
Your fat, old, saggy, 🍆 loving, block button happy friend,
Amanda Marie
XO 🎤⬇️
Ps. I was wearing this lounge shirt without thought...oh the irony...
Pps. Thank you to those of you who also stepped in while this was happening. Even though your replies are deleted, I did read and appreciate them all ♥️
