01/24/2026
This was one of the questions I would get asked most often, “how do you do it all?”
I would sometimes answer “day by day”, but the people I could really open up with I would share with them “I don’t know any other way”. When I speak to other racialized first-born daughters from immigrants families we quickly come to the conclusion that our 30% is someone else’s 100%. Others who can’t identify the ways that we do and the way we perform in our everyday lives would never understand our natural-born hustle. It’s survival on another level and they just wouldn’t understand esa p**a vibra.
On another note…. What do you mean that becoming a mother means I have to leave who I am behind, my dreams, my aspirations, my goals and more before I was callled “mama”. I am leading by example so that my child know her wildest dreams can also come true, regardless of whether she chooses to become a mother or not. With read wife culture in full force currently, we also have to apply the same level of resistance to our role at wife/partner - no relationship or marriage is going to hold me back from achieving my dreams. In fact, make sure you get yourself a partner who will support them and be your biggest cheerleader, or else it just won’t work out, papo.
So yeah, my life is busy and I’m often hella tired. Even in these pockets of free time, I truly don’t know what to do with myself cause I’m still learning to simply rest. But all this is wrapped in my and my ancestors’ wildest dreams, I am la niña rebelde that’s dismantling barriers, I am the black sheep that they thought wouldn’t be able to do it; so yeah, I’m tired. But just watch… ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
