09/06/2024
I got divorced about a year ago just so I could enjoy my peace but it seems my husband doesn't want me to. The only reason I haven't involved the police is because of our kids. They are not too young and I don't want their marriages to fail like mine.
After we got married, hubby became so controlling and jealous. I put up with it. I wasn’t fooling around — he just didn’t want me to talk to any man or even go out to lunch with girlfriends. Our marriage was really falling apart.
Then I fell in love with a guy I was working with, about eight years into the marriage. The affair made me feel more loved and more confident. I didn’t feel good about it at the time, but in retrospect, I don’t have any regrets. We had sexual affairs and went out on dates. We even travelled together for a month using work as an excuse. I was married and he wasn't. I dated this guy for nine years. He married during the third year of our affair but, we both chose to keep on even after he marries. For the entire nine years I was dating him, hubby only suspected but never caught me. The guy understood so we make no calls or send texts. We discuss our intentions at the office and meet wherever we intend to execute them.
At a point, hubby became even more controlling that he wanted me to quit my job. C'mon, we are both adults here and we can decide for ourselves (He was 42 while I was 39) . I thought we could exhibit some maturity yet, he proved to be extremely puerile. So I opted for a divorce and after long days, weeks and months of argument, it was finally granted.
I never dated the man I was having the affair with after the marriage ended because I was only dating him to overcome hubby's madness. My ex-husband asked me after the divorce if I had an affair and I said yes, but I didn’t tell him who with.
I’m single now and I’m fine with that. I’m happy to be out of the marriage. I don’t think I would have done anything differently. Maybe I would have ended my marriage sooner but the guy kept me going plus, I was concerned about my children.
It's been like a year after the divorce and hubby is stalking me around town. He wants us back but I'm not interested. I want to move out of the country for a long time but I'm scared I may lose the bond I've with my kids. I don't wanna go back nor involve the police, the kids may see me to be heartless. What do I do? !!!Copy
