30/11/2024
Do you need or want a paid Coach or do you want to be your own Coach!?
Self-coaching is a practice where you learn to become your own mentor, guiding you towards your goals and providing clarity in moments of confusion. It is a journey of self-discovery and personal development, and I can tell you how began this process in my life, what questions I asked myself, and how I created an effective framework for working with it.
Why start with self-coaching anyway?
Self-coaching helps you to
• Clarify your personal goals and values.
• Develop an objective perspective on your situations.
• Identify solutions and concrete steps to progress.
• Develop your autonomy and confidence in your own decisions.
It all starts with a dose of curiosity and a desire to learn more about yourself.
Than I took the first steps:
Step One: Create a Self-Coaching Framework
1. Establish a space for reflection: Find a quiet place where you can focus. It could be your office, a quiet coffee shop, or even a park.
2. Choose a journal: Writing helps you organize your thoughts and see your progress over time.
3. Establish a dedicated time: Set aside 15-30 minutes a day or week for this practice.
The First Question: “What do I really want?”
This question is the starting point in any self-coaching process. It gives you a moment of deep introspection and helps you clearly define what matters most to you.
To answer:
• Write down what comes to mind without judging the answers.
• Ask yourself why each answer is important to you.
• Be honest and specific. For example, instead of saying “I want to be happy,” ask yourself what makes you feel fulfilled.
Essential Questions for Beginners
After you’ve answered the first question, you can continue with:
1. Where am I now?
• Analyze your current situation: career, relationships, health, emotional state.
• Be objective. Write down both your strengths and challenges.
2. What’s stopping me from moving forward?
• Identify internal and external barriers.
• Think about the fears, habits, or limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
3. What are my resources?
• Think about your strengths, past experiences, and the support you have.
• Don’t underestimate yourself – everyone has valuable resources.
Create Your SMART Goals
After exploring the questions above, set goals using the SMART method:
• Specific: What exactly do you want to achieve?
• Measurable: How will you know you’ve achieved the goal?
• Attainable: Is it realistic for you?
• Relevant: Is it important to your long-term goals?
• Time-bound: When do you want to complete this goal?
Example: “I want to run 5 km three times a week for 2 months to improve my health.”
Self-coaching is not a linear process and it never stops. It’s normal to experience moments of hesitation or confusion. The important thing is to keep asking yourself relevant questions, be gentle with yourself, and focus on progress, not perfection.
Start right now with the question: “What do I really want?” and notice how the answers guide you towards a more authentic and fulfilled version of yourself.
If you feel overwhelmed at some point in your journey always remember: you are not alone and there is help from a Coach who got through all of IT, the shadows work, the stuck moments, the poverty, the abundance, the fine line between physical and non-physical. I am here just a message away.
Get curios, get better, get answers!
To ♾️ and beyond,
Yours,
GalSoul