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Julie Fernandes, Cala Millor (2026)

18/07/2022

Hmmm are you parenting from fear?

Do you even realize it?

When last did you have a day that wasn’t one with worry? Where you could say yes to your kids more than your “no’s” or “don’t touch that” or “you can’t do that, it’s not safe”..

Society has raised us moms to operate in a helicopter parenting type of paradigm which means we shut off our intuition “our gut” and don’t trust ourselves to know our kids the best.

How much energy are you leaking worrying all the time?

The bridge to go from fearful to trusting yourself is layered.

It begins with acknowledging that that you as a mom are worthy and are able to trust yourself (remember your kids do what you do - not necessarily what you say 😉) and then doing small things every day showing yourself that your gut instinct was correct. Yes it can involve taking some risks and leaping before the net appears but it’s the only way we are humans grow.

We see this in our babies. They reach out and launch themselves at us and they know we’ll catch them even if we weren’t “ready”. They believe in us, when will we start?

Sometimes it’s hard to hear our intuition or know where to go next. If this is you, reach out and let’s get chatting about how we can re instill your confidence and daring that you were born with!

Remember mama, you’re got this 💪🏽

14/07/2022

I realized a few things after I posted these pics the other day.

They say a picture speaks a 1000 words and I think that’s true.

A lot of my parenting philosophy is in this picture..

1) we are traveling in Spain with our 3 young kids including a baby for a whole month - same shizz different location but it’s so much more than that. So many people are too afraid to travel with their kids because it’s not really a “vacation” when you are with your kids 24/7. You don’t have the comforts of home & it always takes time to get adjusted to a new place. I hear you. This is true. And.. showing our kids the world is the best education in my mind as well as trusting in our abilities as parents to be able to handle the transitions and know that our kids can too (plus I want to travel and they go where I go! No real choice in that - can’t very well leave them behind and I wouldn’t want to for a month!)

2) there are no iPads, phones or electronic devices at the dinner tables.. whilst it is often easier in the short term to whip out coco melon, in the long term you create an expectation that at every meal out (or in?) in flight entertainment will be provided. Yes this avoids public meltdowns and allows you to eat your meal in peace but it robs your kids of learning to eat socially, learn from you and have conversations and enjoy their environment.. which would you rather?

3) using glass cups/real knives/real utensils etc.. from a young age - say 3, I let me kids use real cutlery (we’re not talking steak knives people) like water glasses and ceramic plates and I talk to them about using two hands, being focused on what they are doing and being gentle. so far no glasses have been injured! Kids know their capabilities better than we do and it is our job as parents to provide them with the opportunities to develop this self-trust. How will they believe in themselves if we first don’t believe in them?

So.. am I a crazy risk taker? Have you been listening to your intuition when it comes to your parenting? And do you believe your kids capable of doing the harder things?

I would love to know your thoughts..

And always remember mama, you got this! 💪🏽

09/07/2022

Do you agree? And does this give you anxiety when you think about it?

I keep reminding myself that when things feel overwhelming or hard or I have a decision that involves being away from my kids in a way that makes me feel icky that our time together is short.

It’s short and it’s fleeting and being stressed by your environment and by things that don’t really matter in the long run is just not worth it.

I want to spend my time making memories and connecting with my kids not feeling stressed about how my home looks when guests come over.

Yes I’m a recovering control freak/perfectionist (is there really a difference?!) so I definitely have my moments and I KNOW how it feels when your home looks out if control and the stress radiates on you. Or your kids have too many toys and then are just magically frozen when it comes to cleaning up and helping out (part of this is because they actually are stuck and don’t know where to begin - as grown ups we get like this too).

So if you feel stuck on where to even start when it comes to your home and organizing your life and resetting and how to even go about this, send me a message and let’s tackle it together.

Having fresh 👀 on a problem with someone who can be objective makes all the difference when dealing with an overwhelming problem such as organizing and decluttering your home when you have kids.

My Organized mom course is currently on sale and will never be this affordable again so make sure you grab your program before the prices increases next week - link in bio.

And remember mama you’ve got this 💪🏽

06/07/2022

Oh boy. 🎤 drop.

Because whilst I believe this to be true, the action it requires on my part is not always easy.

I struggle to be the “perfect role model” because perfection doesn’t exist. I also struggle with the guilt for teaching them things I don’t want always them to do..

So if this is true and children do in fact learn by watching and recording in their minds all that’s around them, I know that having a clean, organized and tidy environment makes being a calm mom a heck of lot easier for me to be. Coming from a place of chaos, stress and mess means my “behavior” is likely to be far from stellar and my kids are going to be learning from that version of me.

Instead once I managed to reign in my overwhelmed, messy self, I was able to lead my family from a much calmer place, much more often, resulting in kids that are more likely to clean up after themselves, listen and play independently. They inherently feel more secure and calm which means I can trust they will be better behaved which makes my life so much easier.

So what do you think? Are children listening to what we say or watching what we do?

If you need support in “reigning” it in, make sure you send me a message and let’s chat about how we can work together to help you move away from feeling overwhelmed to calm and patient mom who role models the type of behavior you want your kids to pick up on!

Remember mama, you’ve got this 💪🏽

05/07/2022

I was never able to fully enjoy these moments..

Until I got my *life* together.

Here we are on an island in the middle of the Mediterranean (the Balearic sea but who’s paying attention really?!) with my sweet loves on a beach having the time of their lives. Simple, not flashy, just being.

And I’m telling you the me of only a few years ago would have had a really hard time enjoying & appreciating these moments.

I was stressed, burnt out, overwhelmed and frankly ungrateful for what I had right in front of me because the chaos and craziness of life with a full time job, trying to run a household, trying to be perfect clouded my view as to what was right in front of me. And that’s when I only had two kids and now I have three! 😝🤯

It took stripping away the “stuff”, creating boundaries about what I said yes and more importantly what I said no to, and taking responsibility for my own happiness to realize that there is a better way.

Using specific strategies, mindset principles and organizational techniques I was able to start afresh and go from overwhelmed hot mess to a mom that gets to enjoy spending time with her kids, feels calm in her home and doesn’t waste time managing her worldly belongings.

Because here, in this picture, is what it’s all about and what I want my kids to remember when they look back on their childhood.

I could never dream of this with my cluttered mind. Stripping all the excess away gives us room to visualize and grow in our minds so we can turn the imaginary life into reality. ✨

If you are feeling called, I am opening up 3 1-1 spots for coaching with me. I feel so aligned with helping moms go from overwhelmed and utterly exhausted to calm, confident parents who love their homes and are able to fully enjoy their kids. Remember childhood has a time limit and the clock ⏰ is ticking.

For a limited time my signature course (free with coaching) The Organized Mom is on sale for just $197 ($300+ saving!!). If I had to describe it, it’s like me in a course: my philosophy, my parenting strategies and environmental design all packaged neatly in easy to absorb lessons. The link is in my bio.

Remember mama you’ve got this 💪🏽

29/06/2022

Wait… whaaaaattt?!

Uh. Yes.

A while back I asked you what it looks like for you to “thrive” in life. Now I know this word can be a trigger for some people. So just hear me out if you are tempted to click away…

When you are a busy mom doing all the doings and trying to live for everyone else, you don’t get enough time for yourself and you are on the fastest track to burn out.

When you start to recognize what is holding you back in your own behavior as well as implement systems and strategies to help you organize your day and your space more intentionally you actually start to regain your time. YOUR time where you can do WHATEVER you want!!

What would you do with an EXTRA HOUR in every day? Let me know in the comments!

And if you are curious as to HOW to get that extra hour well this is part of what I do with my clients. We take an audit of how your day is currently looking and we see how we can do the same better. Having someone to coach you and keep you accountable could be the missing piece in the puzzle to help go from surviving to thriving..

I am now accepting 1-1 and group coaching clients (!!!!!!!!!!!! Dream come true) and I would love to help you gain back more time in your day. It’s your most precious resource - let’s be intentional about how we spend it.

DM me for more info.

And remember mama you’ve got this 💪🏽

27/06/2022

Can you relate?

There are so many reasons why you may not have the village you need or want or expected.

Whether you moved countries or your family are estranged or perhaps your parents work and can’t take care of your kids. Or maybe your family would love to help but they are ill or too frail, it really doesn’t matter - the result is the same.

You have moments of feeling alone, abandoned, overwhelmed and thoughts of how can I do this, everyone says you need a village to raise your kids.

Im hear to tell you that villages come in all shapes and sizes AND that you don’t need a village to thrive. So much of this comes down to making the decision to be in gratitude for what you do have and to moving forward with your life a step at a time.

Yes it can feel lonely. Yes it is overwhelming at times and all you want is a break. And yes you can overcome this and have a beautiful, happy, THRIVING family life filled with rest, meaning, JOY and laughter.

There are systems and routines and ways to get your time back, sleep again, have an organized clean home where you don’t spend all day cleaning up after mini tornados 🌪 and where you can find your way back to YOU again!

Curious?

I have been through all those feelings and I have realized that this is an opportunity for me to help other mamas out there who may be struggling.

Let me show you how to get your time back, enjoy your kids and maintain a neat and tidy home so you can be present with your family and yourself ❤️

I am currently accepting 1-1 clients and clients for my group coaching programs. Send me a message and let’s connect and see how we can help you mother the way you always wanted to: no village needed.

And remember mama you’ve got this 💪🏽

25/06/2022

Feeling grateful to be able to feed my baby and others. Neve gets to wear her one year Tee to celebrate! Scroll to see her cute swag!

Considering the power of breastmilk, the shortage of formula and the state of motherhood right now, donating breastmilk is one small (but mighty) way you can help other mamas in need.

If you are at all in a position to donate milk search for a local milk donation center (mine is Austin Milk Bank who are awesome btw) and see how you can get started.

I am also more than happy to share my experience of becoming a donor so please feel free to DM me so I can answer any questions. It’s probably easier than you think and literally life changing for so many babies and families ❤️.

In our tumultuous world affecting our most vulnerable this was something I could do from the comfort of my own home to make a small, positive difference in someone else’s life and so can you.

23/06/2022

Insert *your language* here!

For many years your kids will not fully understand what you are saying with your words. They haven’t developed their complex language centers yet. But they are fluent in *energy*.

When a baby is born (and in the womb actually) they understand and “speak” energy.

If you have multiple children you may notice this in the difference between your eldest child and your next. Does your first born children take on more responsibility, are they more serious? Perhaps a little more anxious or even bossy?

They behave this way because they read the energy of needing to be responsible for their siblings or they feel your anxiety as a first time parent that your other kids just don’t experience in the same way.

Recognizing how powerful this energy expression is means you have to take responsibility for how you are showing up for your kids from the moment they are born.

So ask yourself are you mostly calm, patient, in control of your emotions, able to distance yourself from tense situations or are you reactive, impatient and perhaps at times impulsive in how you react?

We are all, all of the above but I think we can all agree on which ways we want to show up more often.

If you are finding yourself overwhelmed, stressed, snappy and just unhappy more times than you would like when it comes to your home, your space, how you show up for your kids, then reach out and let’s see how we can help you. No mom should be doing this alone and investing time and energy into yourself is the absolute best thing you can do your kids.

Remember mama, you’ve got this 💪🏽 especially when you ask for help.

21/06/2022

Not your neighbor.. not your sister.. not your colleague.. YOU!

Not sure?

I’ll go first.

For me, thriving means being in charge of my own time and choosing how to fill it.

It means putting my family first and others second.

It means having a career AROUND my child not the other way around.

Childhood has an expiration date after all.

Thriving means being able to serve my clients and my community from anywhere in the world.

It also means I have time for me. Time to workout, sleep, listen to podcasts and audio books, connect with my husband, have deep conversations with my dearest friends - those soul sisters that I feel connected to on a cosmic level, here on earth.

And what does thriving not mean? No longer rushing, stressing, worrying, lying awake at night not sleeping and being chained to a situation in which I am miserable.

So I’ll ask you again… what does thriving mean for you?

15/06/2022

Agree or disagree??

This post was inspired by a reel that shared on her IG and it’s SO true.

If anyone else has to look after your kids you would need to hire them and PAY them!

So why aren’t we valuing motherhood like a paying job or career?!?

I know it sounds kind of depressing to label motherhood as a “job” but let’s call a spade a spade.

And just because it’s a “job” doesn’t mean it’s has to be something you dread. I think when people think of the word “job” they are not excited but how about we turn this into something different.

Motherhood can be a job and still be:
✔️meaningful
✔️the most important legacy you have
✔️filled with boundaries
✔️honoring your as a person

So let me know.. do you think “motherhood” is a job or is it something else?

It’s no surprise that we are parenting on our own and I have talked about this many, many times.

I am now someone who treats my mothering journey as a job in order to create healthy boundaries and “off” time (my kids know at 8pm I am “off-duty”!).

I have recognized over the years how valuing this role I have as a mom is so important for my long term success at this job 😜

I’m in it for the long haul which means I need to be fighting fit to keep up with all of them!

Taking time for myself, for my marriage, nurturing my home and environment, making time for healthy cooking, developing my own night time routine so I can rest! All of these things are so crucial if you want to be good at this motherhood thang 😝

If you are feeling overwhelmed, like you’re constantly trying to catch up, your home is not how you want it to be and you are struggling to be present and patient with your kids I would love to chat to YOU and understand where you are at.

Send me a DM and let’s see how I can help you feel calm, more in control and able to enjoy your family so much more. ❤️

Remember mama, you’ve got this 💪🏽

13/06/2022

Trust me.

Your environment is SO powerful.

As an occupational therapist we actually STUDY this stuff and the impact someone’s space has on their mental health.

Everyone’s environment speaks to them differently but for me having a clean and tidy home at the end of the night so I can wake up with a reset is KEY 🔑! I feel the difference when I start the day on the back foot 🦶.

So will you try this tip? The classic bait and switch.. once you get really into an audio book or podcast you will be LOOKING 👀 for things to clean! TRUST me! And your home will never have looked this good!

Even if you have professional help to clean your home, unless it’s every day 24/7, you will need to do a quick tidy and wipe at the end of the day. So this tip is GOLDEN and I use it every day!

How about you? How do you keep your home clean and organized?

A reminder that if you are needing more support and have a specific dilemma in mind, get on my calendar (link in the bio) or send me a DM and let’s strategize how to make you feel more calm and in control of your environment, and your life!

Remember mama you’ve got this 💪🏽

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