Ilja Abbattista

03/12/2025

Getting ready for the awards tonight ✨
ADHD brain in full spin mode.
Autistic system doing the very serious comfort-check on outfits.
And of course… a last-minute panic run for tights. Arghhhh 😅

No idea what the outcome will be, but I already know this:

Being in the room is the win.
Being heard is the win.
Representing lived experience is the win.

Whatever happens tonight, I’m proud of myself for getting here 🤍

01/12/2025

If I have one important thing later in the day, my entire day quietly reorganises itself around it.

I can’t fully relax.
I can’t start anything big.
I’m already “there” in my body.

And when plans change suddenly, I don’t just feel disappointed, I freeze.

This isn’t about time management.
It’s about how a nervous system prepares for what’s coming.

The next podcast episode is about this exact pattern, and I know so many of you will recognise yourselves in it.

Until next spiral. 💛

28/11/2025

Little life update from the middle of absolute chaos 😅

The back door is finally in, and finally, the warmth has made such a difference already 🙌
The kitchen floor is currently… all over the place.
There’s dust everywhere.
The new floor was meant to arrive today.
The sofa arrives in 8 weeks.
And I’m quietly manifesting a finished kitchen before Christmas. No more setbacks, please 🤞

My autistic side is completely overwhelmed by the mess and lack of order.
My ADHD side keeps placing more orders like this is all part of some grand master plan.

If you’re neurodivergent and trying to function inside disruption while craving calm, I see you. This is driving me slightly insane, but we keep going 😂

27/11/2025

There was a time I couldn’t imagine standing in rooms like this. Not because I lacked ability… but because I’d been taught to doubt myself.

Today I’m reminded that ADHD, autism, and PTSD don’t get to decide our future, we do.

Nothing about this journey was easy. Nothing was handed to me. It was built through belief, discipline, setbacks, courage, and relentless self-trust.

If this resonates with you today, let this be your reminder:
Your story is not your ceiling. And other people’s opinions are not your limits. 💛

26/11/2025

26/11/2025

So proud and privileged to be part of something that makes a difference to those who need it! Feeling grateful.

25/11/2025

✨ International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women ✨

Today is a reminder of why survivor voices matter.

I survived childhood abuse, life in care, and trafficking across Europe. For years, silence felt safer than truth. But telling my story helps others recognise the signs sooner, reach support sooner, and know they’re not alone.

Lived experience isn’t just powerful, it changes outcomes.

I speak because I want fewer women to fall through the cracks I did.

If you’d like to support my work, I’d be grateful for your vote:
https://www.womensbusiness.club/u/Ilja

24/11/2025

There are some conversations we never hear out loud… especially as neurodivergent women.

But Episode 13 is the one I knew I needed to make.

We’re talking about the moments we hide:
the risky s*x, the fast decisions, the “how did I get here?” situations, the survival yeses, the alcohol blurring boundaries, the travelling too soon, the trusting too fast…
all the things people judge us for without ever understanding the wiring underneath.

It’s not recklessness.
It’s trauma.
It’s ADHD.
It’s survival.
It’s your nervous system acting before your mind has a chance to catch up.

If you’ve ever looked back at a moment in your dating life and thought:
“Why did I do that?”
this episode will make you feel seen, not judged.

🎧 Episode 13 is out now.
https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/podcast-dating-on-high-alert/

23/11/2025

Episode 13 of the podcast is LIVE! 🔥

This one is for every woman who feels deeply, loves intensely,
and sometimes finds herself emotionally sprinting in relationships
before she’s even tied her metaphorical shoelaces.

Inside this episode, we explore:

💛 Why ADHD, autism & trauma make us fall fast
💛 Why we confuse intensity for intimacy
💛 Why calm can feel uncomfortable
💛 Why red flags sparkle (and why it’s not your fault!)
💛 And how to slow down without losing the spark

It’s warm, real, relatable, and full of practical tools
that genuinely help you stay connected to yourself
while you’re dating.

🎧 Listen here: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/podcast-dating-on-high-alert/

If this episode speaks to you, let me know, I love hearing your stories.

21/11/2025

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