24/07/2025
"I want to get married, but every time someone proposes, I get scared. I startWhere I live, most men marry for the wrong reasons—and that makes me hesitate.
Every time someone approaches me, I find flaws to push them away. Then regret hits me hard later.
Now I’m getting closer to 30, and I haven’t had a proposal in a while. I’m scared I’ll keep saying no—even if the right person comes along. I know marriage is a beautiful sunnah, and I want it… but fear, shyness, and self-doubt keep holding me back. What should I do?"*
Here is what the counselor says:
You’re not alone. Many people battle with these same fears.
The first step? Start with yourself.
Write a list of everything you love about yourself: your character, your deen, your strengths, your passions.
Then, write a second list: things you want to improve—not because you’re not enough, but because you deserve growth.
If your “love list” feels short, that’s a sign: you might be struggling with low self-esteem. And here’s the truth—if you don’t love and value yourself, it becomes harder to believe anyone else truly will.
Building confidence is a journey, but it starts with recognizing your own worth. You’re already valuable. Marriage won’t give you value—it will reflect what you already carry inside.
Now we want to hear from you:
Have you ever turned someone down—not because they weren’t right, but because you didn’t feel ready or worthy?
Drop your advice or story below.