Christiana Acha Okoeguale

22/08/2025

21/08/2025

Let me share a little secret about myself. 🤫

I'm super picky about the vibes I allow in my life!

If anything smells like negativity, I'm out of there! 😴

Because my peace of mind and joy are non-negotiable.

Life already comes with its own set of stressors, so why add more to the mix? 🤷‍♀️

We already have to deal with things like traffic, bills, and difficult people, so why tolerate drama or negativity?

Abeg oo 😩😩

Don't play with your peace! It's too precious. Learn to sieve out the negativity and hold on to what makes you happy.

Your mental health will thank you!

By the way, that was me some 5 years ago 😁😁

🥳🥳

18/08/2025

There’s this Facebook influencer I really enjoy following.
He writes the most wholesome posts about his wife, family life, and marriage.

The other day, he shared how a lot of men have been asking him:
"Bro, how can I find a wife like yours?"

And he started listing all the sacrifices he makes for his wife — the intentional things he does that make her go above and beyond in return.

And it hit me:

A lot of people want amazing results… with zero effort.

You want a beautiful, long-lasting, healthy marriage — but you’re not willing to sow anything into it.
No patience.
No sacrifice.
No intentionality.
No maturity.

Let me be the first to break it to you:

If you see anything that’s working — a business, a relationship, a career, a marriage — best, believe that something is going on behind the scenes.

People are making sacrifices, going out of their way to make it work.
Because nothing comes from nothing.

The question is, are you ready to pay the price to have the life that you so desire?

Now, back to our gist.

The influencer ended his post by telling the “good wife finders” that amongst the women they are ignoring — one of them is probably a wife material.

I mean, how can you be with 10 different girls and still say not find one who
is fit to be called a wife?

Even scientists make a breakthrough after 10 tries.

Maybe the real problem with all those men is that they are not ready to put in the work.

Because again — if anything is going to work, sacrifices must be made.
Efforts must be invested.

Take the lesson and apply where necessary!!

08/08/2025

I was chatting with my husband a few days ago — as usual, we can talk for Africa! 😄 Our conversations go from deep to random in seconds.

But somewhere in the middle of all that gist, I shared something that’s been on my heart lately… and I’d love to share it with you too.

I’ve heard people say things like:

“I just say my own hoo-haa, I don’t use to hide mouth. A.k.a. I don’t have filters — I am not diplomatic.”

Or

"Don't mind my tone, oh, I might sound harsh, but just listen to what I have to say."

But aunty, your shouting and rude delivery is getting in the way of my understanding. 🙍‍♀️

Honestly, your delivery matters.

It’s not enough to have good intentions — your mode of communication matters just as much as your motive.

You can’t speak harshly and expect people to applaud you. You can’t be reckless with your words and expect people to only see your heart.

Your motive and your mode need to align.
How you say something is just as powerful as what you’re trying to say.

Please, always pass your message with grace.

It matters.

08/08/2025

Before you judge someone who says, “I don’t do church anymore,” pause and ask:
Why? What happened?

You might be surprised by the answer.

You see, many are not running from God — they’re running from the trauma they experienced in His name, in the hands of religious people.

If you’ve never experienced it, thank God.
But please don’t dismiss it just because it’s not your story.

And if it is your story?
I'm truly sorry

You’re not crazy.
You’re not alone.
But here's the hard truth

Giving up on God because of people? That’s like giving up on food because you once got food poisoning.

Or refusing to love again because someone broke your heart.

The church is full of broken flawed people.
People who are healing, people who are hurting, and this runs from the pulpit to te pew.

God didn’t hurt you, people did, and people are not perfect but he is.

You don’t need to run away, you just need to heal, and draw the line between GOD and the ones who misrepresent him.

You are loved
You belong
And, God still wants you.

Now let’s talk — have you or someone you know experienced church hurt before?
Drop a comment. Your story could help someone else realize they’re not mad… they’re just healing. 👇💛

02/08/2025

It's 2025, and everybody is “doing something"

Somebody starts a YouTube channel today. Tomorrow, five people go and open theirs.

One person drops a song, and suddenly, everybody is a gospel artist.

You see someone’s business blowing, and you rush to copy without knowing the backstory.

Missy, before you jump into anything — business, relationship, career, even ministry — please calm down and ask yourself: Why am I doing this?

Because if your only motivation is money, fame, or validation…
You’ll burn out. You’ll get frustrated.

Results don’t come cheap, and life will test your determination and resilience.

So if your WHY is not strong enough, you’ll quit

That’s why before you start anything — business, ministry, relationship, brand, podcast, YouTube, whatever — you need to sit down and ask yourself:

Why am I doing this?

If your only answer is:
“I want to blow”
“I want them to see I’m doing something too”
“I want to pepper my ex”

Please… perish that idea.

You won’t stand the test of time.

Because the truth is, there’ll be seasons when nothing is working.

There’ll be days when no one claps.

There’ll be moments where giving up will look sweeter than consistency.

But your WHY — your deep, personal, purpose-driven reason — is what will keep you going when everything else says stop.

So take your time.
Before you launch, post, or start that thing… have a solid pep talk with yourself.

And if your answer doesn’t even convince you, don’t expect it to convince the rest of us. 😒😒

21/07/2025

Can never be me 🤣🤣🤣

21/07/2025

Half the year is gone…

“God, what have I even achieved?”

Everyone else seems to be making progress.
Getting married. Launching businesses. Moving forward.

And here I am, doing my best just to keep it together.

If that’s how you feel right now, I want you to know:

You’re not behind. You’re not forgotten. And you’re not a failure.

And just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t.

Don’t cancel your year just yet.
A lot can happen in 5 months.

And honestly?

With God, a lot can change in 5 minutes.

So rest!
This year will still end in praise.

10/07/2025

There’s something powerful about gathering in worship and prayer.
Join us this weekend as we press in together under the theme “The Sword of the Spirit."
Let’s grow, pray, and encounter God afresh.

🗓️ 11th–13th July
📍Kubwa, Abuja
Come expectant. Come ready.

02/07/2025

I’ve heard people say things like:
“I know I should be doing more with my life, but..........I’m shy.”
🙃🙃🙃

I get it, I really do.

Once upon a time, I was so shy, too. I could barely look people in the eyes, let alone speak in public or share anything meaningful.

But guess who is courageous now 🤭

After going through the school of hard knocks and getting a second chance at life, I realized that I couldn't afford to be shy about my purpose and destiny.

You see, when life hits you hard enough, you wake up and realize that destiny matters are serious business.

That dream, that podcast, that ...(fill in the gap)
It’s not just about you.

It’s about the people God has assigned to you.

So why let shyness become the thief that would stop you from doing what heaven is depending on you to do?

Shyness sounds innocent, but if you’re not careful, it becomes the perfect excuse to stay small.

So if you’ve been hiding behind “I’m shy”… this is your wake-up call....

Courage is not a personality trait. It's a choice.

Start small.
Speak up.
Show up.
Nobody feels 100% ready. They just decide it’s time.

26/05/2025

They say it's not easy to chase your dreams.
It is not easy to be consistent.
It is not easy to grow a business or stick to your purpose.

They’re right.

But guess what?

It's also not easy to be lazy.
It's not easy to be idle.
It is not easy to ignore purpose.
It is not easy to live carelessly or without vision.

Because even that comes with consequences.

Nothing in life is truly easy.
Discipline is hard, but regret is harder.
Consistency is tough, but confusion is tougher.
Responsibility is demanding, but irresponsibility is destructive.

So the question is: which "hard" will you choose?

Life will always require something from you — whether it’s growth or decay, purpose, or passivity.

But as a child of God, you were not created to drift through life. You were made to rise, to build, and to become.

Grace is available, but choices must still be made.

So choose wisely.

You’ve got this — and God’s got you.

30/04/2025

There’s a LOT of pressure these days—especially on young people—to look like you’ve “made it” before you’ve even had time to figure things out.

In a world that’s always shouting “do more,” “be more,” “have more,” I want to remind you that contentment is not laziness. It's wisdom.

Being content doesn’t mean you don’t have goals or dreams—it means you’re not destroying your peace trying to keep up with a timeline that’s not yours.

Too many young people are under pressure to “make it” overnight… but what’s the point of getting everything quickly if you lose yourself in the process?

You see all these people on social media looking like they’ve got it all together ?—don’t fall for it...

Social media will have you thinking everyone is living a soft life, travelling the world, and cashing out... but can I remind you? People only show you what they want you to see.

You don’t know the sacrifices, the struggles, or the truth behind that “perfect” lifestyle.

Sometimes, what you envy is borrowed, staged, or even deeply unfulfilling.

So don’t be fooled, and don’t let comparison steal your joy.

Be content! Content is.....

✨ knowing you’re enough even while you’re still growing.

✨Being at peace even when things aren’t perfect.

✨ Knowing God is working, even in the waiting.

When you’re content, you stop chasing validation.
You stop rushing to fit in and start standing firm in who you are.

So take a moment today to pause… breathe… and remind yourself:

I don’t need to have it all right now. I just need to trust God, stay faithful, and enjoy the process.

You’re not behind. You’re in preparation 💛