Christiana Acha Okoeguale, 7 frances Road, Bournemouth (2025)

18/11/2025

Ezra was raised in the Deeper Life Bible Church.

Read that again.

Ezra Olubi, Co-founder and CTO of Paystack, a multi-million-dollar tech company acquired by Stripe for 200 million USD, was raised in the Deeper Life Bible Church.

I am not surprised. You cannot pass through the rigorous discipline of being a Deeper Life kid, especially in my generation, and not have some form of thirst for godly success in your life.

In fact, our weekly Youth Bible Study was divided into two parts - Core Bible Study and Principles of Success.

You had all that it took to be a well-rounded, successful person drummed into your consciousness week in, week out, when you were between the ages of 11 and 17.

I jokingly told my friends last year that being raised in DLBC made it impossible for many of us to have any time left to commit sin. We were too busy with church and school activities. The DLBC youth program in my generation was tough, like the leadership believed they were raising soldiers for battle.

I do not even need to talk too much. Just take a look at the Deeper Life High School today. It would tell you all there is to know.

But, there is a but. And I hope we all learn from it.

Using Ezra as a case study, I would try to extract some lessons for youth ministers today.

Ezra has been in the news lately for high-level debauchery and degeneracy. The news began on Twitter and escalated to national headlines.

This again is not surprising. We have all known Ezra to be a core atheist, satanist, and with a q***r personality, not fitting into any of the known q***rs. He calls himself God with a Capital G, owns a cat called Lucifer, and wears an upside-down cross on his neck. Word on the street has it that he has a statue of satan in his house.

I took some time to watch some of his interviews to understand why Ezra moved from being a pastor's son to becoming a satanist. Ezra made it clear that, as a young person, he had many questions about his faith, but these questions were dismissed, and instead of answers, he received condemnation.

I can relate.

While the youth program in my generation, which is also Ezra’s, was tough on raising us to be godly, successful people, there was sadly very little love and not much room for questions. It was like a military barracks where you had to keep your mouth shut and obey the last command.

A lot of emphasis was placed on the performance of holiness and not much on the deep roots of it. You were more afraid of being caught doing something wrong by the leadership than being seen by God Himself. You dared not share your inner struggles, because you were very likely to be shamed for them than helped to overcome them. Many of us can relate.

Ezra spoke about his father speaking derogatorily to him about his struggle with his sexual identity, rather than guiding him to the truth. So, at a point, he chose to rebel.

And there was the Devil, waiting to fill him with a legion of demons, giving him such horrible desires from pe******ia to be******ty. Ezra is currently both HIV and likely Hepatitis B positive. And right now, has been suspended by Paystack; his reputation in tatters. Very, very sad.

Youth ministers must understand that the military barracks style will always be a recipe for disaster. While the standard of holiness must be maintained at all times, there must be room for answering questions, which youths always have in abundance; and lots of love.

Some of us survived the military barracks, finding a relationship with God in the midst of it, while remaining high-performing individuals in our fields of endeavor. Many didn’t, including many Nigerian celebrities whose names, if mentioned, would shock you to the marrow.

The sad story of Ezra made me read the Book of Ezra this morning, to understand the yearning in the heart of his parents when they gave him that name. The Ezra of the Bible was a priest in Israel who engaged and was respected by governments. A man, excellent in the marketplace and in the Kingdom.

This was the destiny of Ezra Olubi – An Apostle in the Tech Industry. But the Devil suspected it and made a mess of it.

It's not too late, Brother Ezra. Doesn't matter how far you have gone.

Jesus is calling you. Please come back home.

Thank you for reading.

As shared By

~’s Okorie

11/11/2025

I had two pregnancy losses before I finally had my baby.

Each time it happened, I cried till my eyes hurt. 💔
It wasn’t just physical pain — it was deep, and psychological.

My husband tried to console me, but I was inconsolable.
I kept hoping it was a mistake… that maybe, just maybe, the loss wasn’t real.
But it was.

Here’s the funny (and humbling) part —
Before it happened to me, I used to think people who cried over miscarriages were just… dramatic.

Like, “Why are you crying over something that wasn’t even a real baby yet?”

I remember once watching a YouTube video where a couple shared their miscarriage story.

The caption alone freaked me out — I clicked expecting some major tragedy —
only to see that it was “just a miscarriage.”

I rolled my eyes and thought, “Why so extra?

Why make a whole video about that?”

Fast forward to when it happened to me…
and I finally understood.

The pain. The disappointment. The emptiness. The confusion.

That loss is very real.

And that’s when life taught me this truth the hard way:
👉 Never judge a pain you’ve never experienced.

If you haven’t been in someone’s shoes, please — don’t tell them how to walk through their pain.

You don’t know. You can’t know.
Some things can’t be understood from the outside looking in.

Sometimes, silence and compassion speak louder than advice or judgment.

So before you label someone as “dramatic,” “weak,” or “attention-seeking,”
pause… and remember: you don’t know the weight they’re carrying.
Be kind. Always. 💛

17/10/2025

Like play, like play… 👀

We got our first paid TikTok brand collaboration! 🥳💃

And once again, I’m reminded of two powerful words: clarity and consistency.

When the brand first slid into my TikTok DMs, I honestly thought it was one of those “Hello dear” scams 😅 — but no o, it was the real deal!

Some time ago, I shared how I deleted all my old pages to start afresh.

Painful? Yes.

Necessary? Absolutely.

Because those pages lacked direction. I was just posting with no clear message.

This time, I started with clarity.
I know who I’m called to serve — people who’ve been beaten down by life but still have a flicker of hope left.

People who just need someone who’s been through the fire to say, “Hey, this isn’t the end.”

This collaboration means so much to me because my numbers aren’t huge yet.

Secondly, the brand aligns perfectly with our faith-based, inspirational message.

Before you dive into anything — a business, a brand, a ministry — get clear.

Crystal clear. The kind of clarity you can explain so well that someone else can carry your vision even when you’re not in the room.

And then… be consistent.
Show up even when it looks like no one is watching.
Because trust me — someone is. 👀

06/10/2025

SOME PEOPLE ARE WALKING AROUND WITH STROKE-LEVEL BLOOD PRESSURE AND DON’T KNOW IT.

Hypertension is not loud.
It doesn’t cause pain at first.
It just stays—quietly wearing you out from the inside.

You’ll still go to work.
Still gist with friends.
Still attend church.
Until one day, your body gives you a sign you can’t ignore.

— Headache that feels different.
— Sudden dizziness.
— Shortness of breath.
— Chest tightness.
— Or blurred vision.

That’s not “stress.”
That’s your blood vessels begging for help.

Here’s what’s happening:

Your heart pumps blood through your arteries.
That pressure keeps you alive.
But when the pressure stays high for too long, it starts breaking things—
Tiny tears in your blood vessels.
Hardened arteries.
Weakened heart muscles.
Damaged kidneys.

And guess what? You won’t feel it happening.

That’s why hypertension is called the silent killer.
Because by the time symptoms appear, damage has already started.

Now let’s correct what people get wrong:

Hypertension is not caused by salt.
It’s caused by imbalance of electrolytes in the blood stream.
Too much stress, not enough sleep.
Too much processed food, not enough real food.
Too much anger, not enough peace.

That’s why even people that claim to “eat right” still end up having BP.
Because the body doesn’t only respond to food.
It responds to rest, emotions, and habits too.

Here’s what raises your blood pressure quietly:
— Lack of sleep.
— Constant anxiety or overthinking.
— Alcohol and smoking.
— Sugary and processed foods.
— Sitting too long without movement.
— Unresolved anger or emotional stress.

And here’s what lowers it:
✅ Foods rich in potassium like avocado and vegetables.
✅ Quality sleep (your heart rests too).
✅ Walking daily, even 30 minutes.
✅ Managing stress instead of bottling it.
✅ Cutting off processed foods.
✅ Drinking enough water.

Normal blood pressure is 120/80 mmHg.
When it stays at 140/90 mmHg or above, that’s hypertension.
If it climbs to 180/110, that’s stroke territory.

Don’t wait until you collapse to take it seriously.
Buy a BP monitor. Check at least once a month.

You check your phone battery every day.
Do the same for your body.

Because the truth is—
You can pray for long life and still shorten it with poor habits.
Healing doesn’t start in the hospital.
It starts in your daily routine.

Eat right. Sleep well. Forgive quickly.
Your blood pressure listens to everything you do.

Don’t forget to reach out for a diet plan.
And share this post—someone needs to read it today.

03/10/2025

There’s a lady who comes over a few times a week to help us clean. She’s warm, sweet, and hardworking.

One day, as we chatted, I asked if she’d be travelling for Christmas. I only asked because the lady who worked with us before always travelled during the holidays.

She laughed and said, “No o, I no dey travel, e too cost. Even though e don reach like 7 years since I see my mama, we dey do video call sha."

I tried encouraging her to make plans to visit.

She went on to explain how tough it would be to travel with kids, plus the extra pressure of having to buy things for family and friends who would be expecting goodies and treats.

She’s from Benin Republic 🇧🇯 so truly, travelling with her kids would cost her a good amount of money.

We laughed about it, and I told her, “God will do it.”
She replied, “Amen — but make e do am on time o.”

At first, I said “Abi,” because I could relate. But then I quickly caught myself and said:

“No worry, God is never late. Anytime He shows up, na the perfect time.”

And she smiled in agreement.

Don’t we all feel this way sometimes?

Don’t we all have one or two challenges that we feel God is taking a little too long to attend to?

Like, “God, I hope you know what time it is, because I’m starting to get worried.”

I’m in my late 30s, and only two things are checked off my bucket list.

Dear God, what about financial freedom — will it ever come?

And the husband… should I be expecting him now, or is he still stuck in traffic?

If you’ve been feeling this way lately, I want to remind you today:
God is not late. He is the author of time, and whenever He shows up, it’s the perfect time.

By the way, this message is not by chance — it’s God’s gentle whisper saying:

💛 Be still, I’m in control. 🥰🥰🥰

02/10/2025

Dealing with anxiety? You’re not alone. Whenever I feel overwhelmed, these 3 things help me find peace:

1️⃣ Turning to Scripture — God’s Word reminds me I don’t have to carry my burdens alone.
2️⃣ Engaging with faith-filled activities — lately I’ve been enjoying the Selah Bible Game App, it’s such a refreshing way to stay rooted in scripture while having fun.
3️⃣ Worship — nothing shifts my heart faster than lifting my voice in praise.

Give these a try.

👉 You can download the Selah app here: https://selahapp.com/download

10/09/2025

Yesterday, I had a whole wrestling match with an onion. 🧅

I wanted to cook rice, so I picked the biggest one in my stash — only to cut it open and discover that right in the middle, it was rotten. Bad. Spoilt. Hidden.

I couldn’t throw it away because it wasn’t completely bad. So there I was, with onions induced tears in my eyes, trying to cut away the rot and save the good part.

It was frustrating!

But it made me reflect on how the enemy within works.

It wasn’t the outside of the onion that was the problem. It looked fine, fresh, and promising.

The danger was inside. Quiet, hidden, but already destroying from within.

That’s exactly how the enemy within operates. Subtle. Unsuspecting. But destructive.

For some, the enemy within looks like self-doubt, fear, or bad habits we keep excusing.

For others, it might be that one person close to us who wears the face of a friend but works as a silent destroyer.

David said in Psalm 55:12-13 — “If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend…”

See? The most painful battles are usually from within.

Because nothing destroys faster than the rot we ignore.

My prayer for you — is that whatever the enemy within looks like in your life, God will open your eyes and give you the wisdom and strategy to cut it off 🙏🏾

21/08/2025

Let me share a little secret about myself. 🤫

I'm super picky about the vibes I allow in my life!

If anything smells like negativity, I'm out of there! 😴

Because my peace of mind and joy are non-negotiable.

Life already comes with its own set of stressors, so why add more to the mix? 🤷‍♀️

We already have to deal with things like traffic, bills, and difficult people, so why tolerate drama or negativity?

Abeg oo 😩😩

Don't play with your peace! It's too precious. Learn to sieve out the negativity and hold on to what makes you happy.

Your mental health will thank you!

By the way, that was me some 5 years ago 😁😁

🥳🥳

18/08/2025

There’s this Facebook influencer I really enjoy following.
He writes the most wholesome posts about his wife, family life, and marriage.

The other day, he shared how a lot of men have been asking him:
"Bro, how can I find a wife like yours?"

And he started listing all the sacrifices he makes for his wife — the intentional things he does that make her go above and beyond in return.

And it hit me:

A lot of people want amazing results… with zero effort.

You want a beautiful, long-lasting, healthy marriage — but you’re not willing to sow anything into it.
No patience.
No sacrifice.
No intentionality.
No maturity.

Let me be the first to break it to you:

If you see anything that’s working — a business, a relationship, a career, a marriage — best, believe that something is going on behind the scenes.

People are making sacrifices, going out of their way to make it work.
Because nothing comes from nothing.

The question is, are you ready to pay the price to have the life that you so desire?

Now, back to our gist.

The influencer ended his post by telling the “good wife finders” that amongst the women they are ignoring — one of them is probably a wife material.

I mean, how can you be with 10 different girls and still say not find one who
is fit to be called a wife?

Even scientists make a breakthrough after 10 tries.

Maybe the real problem with all those men is that they are not ready to put in the work.

Because again — if anything is going to work, sacrifices must be made.
Efforts must be invested.

Take the lesson and apply where necessary!!

08/08/2025

I was chatting with my husband a few days ago — as usual, we can talk for Africa! 😄 Our conversations go from deep to random in seconds.

But somewhere in the middle of all that gist, I shared something that’s been on my heart lately… and I’d love to share it with you too.

I’ve heard people say things like:

“I just say my own hoo-haa, I don’t use to hide mouth. A.k.a. I don’t have filters — I am not diplomatic.”

Or

"Don't mind my tone, oh, I might sound harsh, but just listen to what I have to say."

But aunty, your shouting and rude delivery is getting in the way of my understanding. 🙍‍♀️

Honestly, your delivery matters.

It’s not enough to have good intentions — your mode of communication matters just as much as your motive.

You can’t speak harshly and expect people to applaud you. You can’t be reckless with your words and expect people to only see your heart.

Your motive and your mode need to align.
How you say something is just as powerful as what you’re trying to say.

Please, always pass your message with grace.

It matters.

08/08/2025

Before you judge someone who says, “I don’t do church anymore,” pause and ask:
Why? What happened?

You might be surprised by the answer.

You see, many are not running from God — they’re running from the trauma they experienced in His name, in the hands of religious people.

If you’ve never experienced it, thank God.
But please don’t dismiss it just because it’s not your story.

And if it is your story?
I'm truly sorry

You’re not crazy.
You’re not alone.
But here's the hard truth

Giving up on God because of people? That’s like giving up on food because you once got food poisoning.

Or refusing to love again because someone broke your heart.

The church is full of broken flawed people.
People who are healing, people who are hurting, and this runs from the pulpit to te pew.

God didn’t hurt you, people did, and people are not perfect but he is.

You don’t need to run away, you just need to heal, and draw the line between GOD and the ones who misrepresent him.

You are loved
You belong
And, God still wants you.

Now let’s talk — have you or someone you know experienced church hurt before?
Drop a comment. Your story could help someone else realize they’re not mad… they’re just healing. 👇💛

02/08/2025

It's 2025, and everybody is “doing something"

Somebody starts a YouTube channel today. Tomorrow, five people go and open theirs.

One person drops a song, and suddenly, everybody is a gospel artist.

You see someone’s business blowing, and you rush to copy without knowing the backstory.

Missy, before you jump into anything — business, relationship, career, even ministry — please calm down and ask yourself: Why am I doing this?

Because if your only motivation is money, fame, or validation…
You’ll burn out. You’ll get frustrated.

Results don’t come cheap, and life will test your determination and resilience.

So if your WHY is not strong enough, you’ll quit

That’s why before you start anything — business, ministry, relationship, brand, podcast, YouTube, whatever — you need to sit down and ask yourself:

Why am I doing this?

If your only answer is:
“I want to blow”
“I want them to see I’m doing something too”
“I want to pepper my ex”

Please… perish that idea.

You won’t stand the test of time.

Because the truth is, there’ll be seasons when nothing is working.

There’ll be days when no one claps.

There’ll be moments where giving up will look sweeter than consistency.

But your WHY — your deep, personal, purpose-driven reason — is what will keep you going when everything else says stop.

So take your time.
Before you launch, post, or start that thing… have a solid pep talk with yourself.

And if your answer doesn’t even convince you, don’t expect it to convince the rest of us. 😒😒

Christiana Acha Okoeguale

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