Split the Difference CIC

28/06/2024

Hi All,

I am a licensed Circle of Security Parenting Facilitator and want to make this available for groups to access (it is the cheapest way I can run it to make it as accessible as possible).

https://www.simplex-coaching.com/circle-of-security-parenting-cosp

This is a course focusing on 50 years attachment theory. I became accredited on the request of a solicitor and actually having a therapeutic background found this to be one of the best parenting courses I have ever been part of.

I didn't intend to deliver this again, did the training and run it one to one, for a dad who was looking for a non bias facilitator, but I can see the benefits for parents wrapped up in family court, children's services or mental health.

My research has shown that children's services, CAMHS, family court professionals and health, i.e. health visitors are referring to this 8 weeks program, Its online but I am thinking of running live groups also.

I can't ignore that this could really benefit mums, dads, caregivers and children. Can you share, there are elements that can also support reattachment if parents have been alienated and re-engaging.

Circle of Security Parenting Program There is a key to unlocking your child's potential for a bright and secure future. Every child deserves, and benefits from a foundation built on secure attachment and understanding. We know that a child's ability to thrive hinges on feeling connected to someone w...

16/01/2024

This needs to be signed and shared, the UK government has already been dragged into the UN court of human rights, put on sanctions that it refused to work to over the suicides of disability citizens left with no support.

From being taken back a second time it still seems to want to neglect the vulnerable.

Please share and sign.

The government has announced changes to disability benefits which will deny vital support to some people who become seriously ill or disabled from next year. They could also face sanctions if they do not comply with specific work-search expectations that could threaten their wellbeing. Working age d...

10/01/2024

Hello all,

Can I ask a favour please, the email below is an APPG group we are connected to and they are reaching out for help. They are asking people send an email into their MPs which they have prewritten, would you kindly have a read and share to as many people as you can.

The All-Party Parliamentary Group for Fatherhood faces removal from the APPG Register

Dear colleagues and friends of the All-Party Parliamentary Group for Fatherhood

I am writing to ask you to lend your support to the Fatherhood APPG in our hour of need. You may be aware that the APPG structure has been under review for some time, and that last year, a report was published suggesting a slimming down of current numbers. New rules have now been put in place requiring Groups to have a minimum of 20 registered members from across Parliament. We are also still in need of a Chair to replace Andrew Gwynne, who stepped down a few months ago. Additionally, restrictions on MPs mean they are now limited to a maximum of 6 APPG memberships.

Despite the importance of our subject and its far reach across society, and despite our best efforts to engage new members, the Fatherhood APPG is struggling to meet these new criteria, and we face deregistration at the end of March if we fail to become compliant by then.

How you can help!
We urge you to contact your own MP to ask them to consider joining our active, influential and topical group. You can find out the name of your MP, along with their contact details, here: https://futuremen.us20.list-manage.com/track/click?u=8a9b8be1ca2b461f7beed9706&id=373174d2ef&e=a3329b3ab1

You may find it helpful to use the following template:

Dear [MP’s name]
I am contacting you to ask you to lend your support to the All-Party Parliamentary Group for Fatherhood, which is seeking a new Chair, as well as to grow its membership in order to comply with the new APPG rules by the end of March 2024.
The Fatherhood agenda is very much on the electorate’s minds at present, with increased awareness of the impact of fathers’ presence on childhood development during the Early Years, a lively public debate ongoing about the division of domestic labour and childcare, and the campaign for extended paid paternity leave gaining traction. This is a vital area for consideration with regards to policy review and legislative progress.
Whilst I recognise your daunting workload, I urge you to add your voice, on behalf of your constituents, to this important and pressing conversation by joining the APPG for Fatherhood as a member, or even as Chair.
The Secretariat for the APPG for Fatherhood is Future Men, a medium-sized charity working with and advocating for boys and young men. You can find out more about them at www.futuremen.org or contact them via email: [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]) .
Many thanks
[Your name]

Thank you again for your interest in and support of the APPG for Fatherhood If you have any questions about this or any other APPG-related matter, please email [email protected].

Kind regards

Sally-anne Burris

INTERNATIONAL MEN’S DAY 2022 Research reveals more than half of UK men feel pressure and anxiety due to societal expectations. 19th November 2022 – Future Men today released the results of its Future Men Survey 2023. The survey reveals that over half (52%) of men in the UK feel pressured by soci...

08/12/2023

A lot of people have recovered or are recovering from childhood.

11/09/2023

Hello Unfortunately due to technical permissions we have to move the live discussion onto zoom for the Child Maintenance Services discussion on why we group litigation is the best way to challenge the CMS, you can find us here on zoom - [email protected] is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.

Topic: [email protected]'s Zoom Meeting
Time: Sep 11, 2023 07:00 PM London

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09/09/2023

I would like to expose a situation. If your children (or grandchildren) don’t learn to play with children with special needs at school, maybe you should spend 10 minutes tonight explaining it to them. Because, although they don't currently live with these children, at school they will find them in their lives for sure. In light of recent events regarding the exclusion of a child with autism from attending a school trip and a child with Down Syndrome being expelled from dance class because she couldn't keep up with it, I feel the need to share this. There are boys and girls that no one invites to birthday parties. There are special children who want to be part of a team but are not selected because it's more important to win than to include these children. Kids with special needs aren't weird, they just want what everyone wants: to be accepted!
Can I ask a question? Is there anyone willing to COPY AND PASTE this post on their wall for all the special children out there?
Please teach your children to be kind to these beautiful children!
Everyone needs love and kindness💙💛💙💛

12/07/2023

Wow

Check out cloudwatcher's video.

10/07/2023

Love this, got some great points about Parental Alienation ...

66 likes, 2 comments. “ ”

10/07/2023

Amazing day, amazing people, if you haven't already completed a CMS questionnaire to tell the government your experience of the child maintenance service please do, closing date is 31st of July https://www.split-the-difference.com/questionnaire

Check out Disqualified_dads's video.

07/07/2023

We did it, we took parents case studies, the stats on harm, fraud, the deaths the child maintenance service has caused and yet the Child Maintenance Services APPG cancelled our presentation to them twice, actually left us waiting online the second time for 40 minutes till I was emailing and ringing saying please can you let us know what's happening.

Was assured the next APPG meeting in June we would present the harm being done to paying parents, to then be told that gingerbread had taken over the secretariat's role, a massive conflict of interest as they are pushing through a private bill with members tied to this APPG, and the DWP select committee also to the private businesses that are most likely to get the contracts for the new Child Support Enforcement bill.....dig into the ministers involved and their links with serco etc, you will see.

Did you know APPGs are increasingly getting challenged because they are being used as private business and third sector lobby groups to facilitate the ground work to get money, contracts from public funds.

This private bill will literally enable the CMS to take passports, driving licences, lock people into paying money they don't owe not through a court but under the power of an administrator. This is in modern day slavery legislation, the CMS is being allowed to create modern day slaves. This APPG is nothing more than people who are aiming to milk parents and the government.

Disgusting....