Thandi Sambs

05/01/2026

Dear Auntie Thandi,
Please help me. I am feeling emotionally drained and confused.
I've been in a long-term relationship with a man I love deeply. We've been together for 6 years, i am 30 he is 36, bonded emotionally, and in many ways, we live like a married couple. The issue is he doesn’t believe in marriage.He says he's happy to live together, have children, and build a life, but without marriage—no lobola, no vows, no legal commitment—only "love and trust.”Initially, I convinced myself that marriage was just a piece of paper and love should suffice. But honestly, Auntie, that’s not enough for me.
I want marriage. I want to be openly, publicly, and permanently chosen. I seek the security, respect, and clarity that come with being a wife. I don’t want to beg for commitment or compromise my values just to keep him.
The difficult truth is he's not a bad man—he's consistent, kind, and present. Yet, whenever I bring up marriage, he shuts down or claims I’m pressuring him. He says if I truly loved him, I would accept his conditions.Now I feel stuck.
Should I stay and grow to resent him?Should I leave someone I love because our future visions clash?
How do I walk away from a relationship that isn’t abusive, but is incomplete?Auntie Thandi, how can I end this relationship with dignity, without bitterness, and without fearing I’m making a mistake?How do I let go of a man who wants everything but commitment?Please advise—I am weary, and my spirit knows this is not the life I prayed for.

05/01/2026

Hi Thandi, happy new year 🥳
Which ones are the best or expensive schools in Mutare please, both secondary and primary please? Please help asap.

05/01/2026

04/01/2026

I’m a 39-year-old single woman, originally Zimbabwean and currently based in the UK, working as a Support worker. I have no children, and I’m at a stage in life where I’m intentional about settling down with the right person.
I’m hoping to meet a single man between the ages of 40 and 46/47—someone faithful, emotionally available, and clear about what he wants. I value security, stability, and maturity, and I’m drawn to a man who is independent, responsible, and intentional about building a meaningful partnership. I don’t mind if he has children, as long as it’s no more than two and there is balance and clarity.
About me: I’m an honest, straightforward, and determined woman who values clarity and open communication. I believe in doing things properly and building something lasting, not complicated or unclear.
My Christian faith is very important to me. I’m a God-fearing woman, and I’m looking for a man who is also a Christian believer, with shared values and a genuine desire for a committed relationship.

04/01/2026

You don’t have to get burned to understand that fire is hot📌. I evaluate patterns, not individuals, and marriage should hold higher standards than simply saying, “at least I’m married.”

04/01/2026

Thandi @52 with standards, stories, and softness fans

04/01/2026

The Queen @52🎁🎊.

04/01/2026

Thank God for my birthday.
I am proof of mercy, growth, and divine protection.This life is not luck — it’s grace.🙏🏽

04/01/2026

Happy Birthday to a woman who knows her worth and won’t negotiate it❤️❤️
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04/01/2026

I’m not opposed to marriage. I oppose rushed, unplanned, struggling, and wishful marriages. Marriage isn't a TikTok trend; it's a lifelong commitment.

04/01/2026

Dear Single Men. Dating isn't a contest. It's not about impressing the most, spending the most, or dominating the rhythm. It's about character.