FallFwd

16/06/2026

A CRAZY 8 MONTHS

A little message from me, to all those out there that have shown me support and love over the coming 8 months.

And also just a word on struggle with one’s self belief I think it’s important to remember that we all have something to give even when we don’t believe it ourselves.

Hopefully this rings true for someone out there, it’s crazy times.

Always here for a chat

Much love

Phill

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01/06/2026

What is a FallFwd about -

FallFwd is designed to go beyond traditional mental health groups by exploring the possible root causes of our struggles rather than simply focusing on managing the symptoms. 🏹⏳

I like to explore what may be happening in our minds 🧠 — from neuroscience and subconscious conditioning to trauma, perception, and learned behavioural patterns. We’ll look at how our experiences shape the way we see ourselves, others, and the world around us.👀

The aim isn’t to provide answers, but to provide understanding. 🧐

Because when we begin to understand why we think, feel, and react the way we do, we create the opportunity to challenge old narratives, reframe our perceptions of life’s events, and move forward with greater awareness and intention.

FallFwd is about learning, growth, and self-discovery. 📈⛰️

It’s about equipping people with practical knowledge, perspectives, and tools that can support their own journey of reflection and inner work.🛠️

Ultimately, the goal is simple: to enspire curiosity in one’s mind, better understand ourselves, create meaningful change, and live more authentic and fulfilling lives.🙏

22/05/2026

The universe is a crazy and beautiful thing.

21/05/2026

21/05/2026

It’s quite a long video but I’m
So passionate about this subject and the postive change it can have

21/05/2026

Just wanted to say thankyou for all those that have reached out to offer their support on the FallFwd meetings up trying to set up.

The people with their own personal growth stories and also all the professionals out there offering their support 🙏.

I have many messages and I’m trying to get back to everyone in a half decent time , while working and family life etc so please bear with me.

But I think it’s fair to say there is a need for this and I’m totally taken back by the response.

Much love

Phill

22/04/2026

Most people don’t realise what’s actually stopping them.

It’s not laziness.
It’s not lack of discipline.

It’s something much deeper.

At some point growing up, something happened—
you got embarrassed, rejected, shut down…

And your brain went:
“Right. We’re not doing that again.”

So now?

You don’t speak up.
You don’t put yourself out there.
You hold back from things you actually care about.

And you think that’s just who you are.

It’s not.

It’s a protection mechanism you built years ago…
that’s now keeping you stuck.

I’ve felt it myself—even after 8 years of detailing, I still get anxious stepping into jobs sometimes.

Not because I can’t do it.
But because of what I used to believe about myself.

And here’s the truth:

If you don’t face it, it doesn’t go away.
It just quietly controls your life.

So next time something triggers you…

Don’t run from it.

Ask:
“Why does this affect me so much?”

That’s where the real work starts.

That’s where freedom starts.

01/03/2026

So we got there.

This post isn’t really about the house, it’s about all the people that supported us when it looked liked this would never happen.

I Thankyou, I love you and I forever grateful for your support, kindness and ongoing belief in my self worth and capabilities. jenniferami

But I also want this to be a sign to show all those out there that are struggling financially ( especially those fathers) that think it may never happen, that it can if you keep on battling and try and see every obstacle and set back as something that will make the reward that much more valuable.

It may not feel feel like your winning on the outside due to social expectations and systems , but that just means that life wants you to switch your perspective of what winning is.

Small steps are still steps, even when sometimes you take a stumble backwards as long as you have people around you to catch you, then it’s all growth.

4 years ago I honestly didn’t think this would happen, I thought I would be in a caravan on a holiday park.

No one would financially touch me, I was up to my eye balls in debt, and no one would let me borrow a penny and I was back in a single man cabin at 40 with not a lot to my name, my nippa was sleeping on a blow up mattress and I felt like a failure father.

And it seemed like society supported that fact.

Now we’re here together, and we finally made something our home, ( although we did learn as long as we’re together it’s really doesn’t matter )

I learnt nothing worth having ever comes easy, the people that love you and support you aren’t always the ones you expect, and not all growth can be seen on the outside.

So THANKYOU 🥲🥰🌅🙏again, you know who you are, words don’t do it justice.

Our home is your home and the kettle is always on and 100% the BBQ when the sun shows up. ☀️🍖🍔

17/01/2026

RECODING TRAUMA RESPONCES

Most of us carry some level of trauma coding we don’t want to live with.

Emotional triggers.
Automatic reactions.
Responses to people or situations that feel out of proportion—but hard to control.

If we’re honest, we all have work to do somewhere within our own mental makeup.

These responses can show up as:
• Trust issues
• People-pleasing
• Uncontrollable anger
• Shame and guilt

They’re all part of emotional coding created by the ego to protect us from past pain.

The ego is your best friend… and your worst ally.

It doesn’t work on logic.
It works on emotion.

“This happened. I didn’t like it. If I keep you away from anything like that again, you won’t be hurt.”

There’s a semi-truth in that.
But without change, there is no growth.

And what kind of life is that?

Many people try to rewire these behaviours with a sledgehammer—straight to the core.
It doesn’t work.

You can’t undo 30–40 years of compounded emotional coding in six months. Trying often pushes people deeper into frustration and rumination.

Self-compassion is your most powerful tool.

Sometimes you’re not just unraveling your own trauma—you’re untangling your parents’ trauma and the generations before them.

Start on the surface.
Look at your environment.

Even small inputs matter.
For me, it was caffeine.
Something I loved—but didn’t agree with me.

Removing it was brutal.
Seven relapses 😢🫠
Because caffeine is a drug, and I’d relied on it for a decade.

Trauma is layered.
Jobs. Relationships. Family.
Each one hiding another.

Change takes dedication—and some decisions won’t be comfortable.

Use the tools available:
• Supportive people
• Therapy
• Meditation
• Yoga
• Mindfulness

A problem spoken out loud and broken into parts is infinitely lighter than one carried alone.

Everything you need is available.
But you are the one who has to choose.

Life is just a series of choices that shape our path.

And it’s never too late to choose differently.

Just because you’ve lived one way for half your life doesn’t mean you have to continue.

You can change.
You can heal.
You can find freedom.

Much love 🥰

16/01/2026

Human Behaviour & the Illusion of Survival

Over the last decade, human behaviour has become a huge interest of mine.

It started as a way to better understand myself—where my emotions and reactions come from—and how to reduce the negative impact they can have on my life and on the people I care about.

One thing I’ve noticed more and more is how easily people slip into survival mode… even when survival isn’t actually required.

Take school drop-off in the rain.

It’s absolute chaos.

People behave as if they’re caught in some kind of acid storm, despite sitting comfortably in huge cars. Empathy disappears. I’ve stood on the pavement in the rain with my child while drivers fly past like they’re in the final stage of a rally—no regard for those actually exposed to the weather.

We saw the same divide during Covid.
Some people stepped up and supported others.
Some turned inward, focused solely on themselves.

That difference—how people behave under stress—has always been a fault line in society. And it’s something that genuinely concerns me when I think about keeping my family safe in any real crisis.

You can’t really blame people who aim for self-sufficiency when there’s so much evidence of how quickly compassion disappears.

This is exactly why adversity is used so heavily in military training. The physical side isn’t the real test—it’s secondary. Cold, fatigue, hunger, discomfort… they strip away the mask. Anyone can be kind and cooperative when they’re warm and comfortable. Take that away, and true character shows.

Resilience is becoming rare.

Yet adversity remains the only real way humans grow—physically, but more importantly, mentally.

And if you’re looking for evidence that our society doesn’t encourage resilience anymore, you don’t need to look far.

Sometimes, all it takes is a walk to school in the rain


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