Fierce AF Counsellors & Coaches

04/10/2026

Therapeutic work could quietly become very therapist-centred rather than client-centred.

Our interpretation.
Our intervention.
Our favourite model.
Our expertise.
Our wish to get somewhere.
Our need to feel useful.

Anxiety can make us perform.
Inexperience can make us perform.

Sometimes even training cultures encourage us to ‘perform competence’.

But the client did not come into the room so that we could prove we know how to be a therapist.

Sometimes the most skilful thing we can do is;

Wait. Wonder.
Stay. Notice.
Admit we don’t know yet.

Let them lead us somewhere we weren’t expecting.

For me, therapeutic maturity is not accumulating more and more interventions.

It is developing the discernment to know what belongs here and what doesn’t.

Maybe the question isn’t only:
“What can I do?”

Perhaps it is:
“What does this person actually need from me?”

And perhaps:
“did she leave with more of herself?”

I offer conversation for therapists and practitioners who want somewhere to bring the things they’re thinking about in their work without having to perform with me either.

👑Kas
♥️Fierce as F**k

04/10/2026

👑THERAPY FOR THERAPISTS🔥

If you’re a therapist and would like somewhere to bring what YOU are carrying, you’re welcome to come and work with me.

I offer therapy to those who are just starting out, and to those who have been doing this work for decades.

You might be finding your feet and wondering whether everyone else feels more confident than you do.

Or you might be very experienced, with people looking to you for all the answers, while privately wondering where YOU can take the things you’re carrying.

We can begin with whatever is true for you.

The love you have for your clients.
The tricky dynamic in your workplace.
The doubts.
The anger.
The exhaustion.
The things happening in your own life.
The things that make you question your capacity as a therapist.

You don’t have to arrive knowing exactly what you need. You definitely do not have to perform around me.

👑Kas
♥️ fierce as f**k counsellors

03/10/2026

If you’re an experienced counsellor or psychotherapist and you’ve ever found yourself struggling with issues of power, hierarchy, organisational culture, speaking up - or perhaps feeling unable to speak at all - I’d love to offer you a conversation.

I’m not gathering evidence, conducting research or building cases about organisations.

I’m simply interested in creating opportunities for like-minded therapists to have real conversations about some of the things we encounter in our professional lives - particularly the things that can be difficult to say out loud especially around “those” tables.

If you’d like to have a conversation with me on Zoom, you’re very welcome.

No agenda. Nothing to prepare. Nothing being sold.

Just two practitioners having a real conversation.

🌟Kas

28/09/2026

♥️ Power 👑

Sometimes things flow beautifully between us and our clients.

We feel connected. They feel understood.
We seem to be seeing something together and all feels well in the therapeutic world.

But what happens when they disagree with us?

Can we remain just as open?

Or do we suddenly begin to believe they’re being resistant?
Wrong?
In denial?
Defensive?
Avoidant?

This really interests me.

Because if our client agrees with our understanding of her, perhaps we decide “we’re right”.

But what happens if she says:
“No. That isn’t what’s happening for me.”

Can we shift gear?
Can we get alongside her again?

Can we become genuinely curious about the possibility that Our understanding doesn’t resonate?

Can we let go of where are without needing to persuade her towards it?

Because if we continue to believe we are “right”, despite the person in front of us telling us that we are not, something important begins to happen.

The relationship changes.

She is no longer the authority on her own experience.

And this is fertile ground for rupture.

Perhaps she begins explaining herself harder.

Perhaps she goes quiet.

Perhaps she agrees because disagreeing feels pointless.

Perhaps she begins doubting what she knows.

Perhaps she decides she will never come back.

Or perhaps she becomes angry and pushes back - a wonderful breakthrough for her - if we can allow space for her to have her feelings…

Our theories need to remain something we hold lightly enough to put down.

They can help us become curious about the person, but I believe it is vital we never become more authoritative than the person herself.

Sometimes the most important thing I can do as a therapist when somebody says, “No, that isn’t it,” is not search for another way to explain why I think it IS.

It is to say:
“Thank you for saying. Please let me know how it is for you.”

And get back alongside her.

Because this is the point for me:

A woman needs to be able to disagree with me and discover that I am still right there.

Still interested.
Still listening.
Still willing to be changed by what she tells me.

That, for me, is part of holding therapeutic power responsibly.

Kas

27/09/2026

👑 THE PERSON BEFORE THE MODEL 🔥

One of the things I became increasingly wary of during my TA psychotherapy training was watching therapists learn a new model on Friday and be desperate to use it with clients on Monday.

A new set of circles.
A new triangle.
A new intervention.
A new formulation.

And suddenly everyone seems to fit it!
(Quite harmful imo)

I’m not against models.
I’ve trained in plenty of them.
But I think the order matters.

I don’t want to begin with:

“What model fits this person?”

I want to begin with:
Who is this person?
What is happening here?
What is emerging between us?
What might they need?

And only then:
Does anything I know have something useful to offer?

Because knowing how to do something is not the same as having a reason to do it.

The person does not exist so that I can demonstrate my training.

The person is the point.

Everything else is in service of them.

I offer a one-off conversation for therapists and practitioners who may be struggling with complexity, or want somewhere to think freely about their work, a client, a dilemma, themselves, or something they can’t quite get hold of.

Warmly
Kas

27/09/2026

🔥 PERHAPS YOU DON’T HAVE TO FIND THE NEXT THING…

What happens inside YOU when your client isn’t “getting better?”

When you’ve listened.
Wondered.
Read.
Taken it to supervision.
Tried what you know.

Perhaps introduced something experiential, somatic or creative.

And still they arrive next week in the same level of distress.

Do you start searching?
Another technique.
Another training.
Another intervention.
Another referral on?
Another thing you haven’t thought of yet.

And underneath all of that might be a frightened little question:

What am I missing?
Or an even more frightening one:
What if I’m not helping?
Not good enough…?

I understand that impulse enormously.
We care.

We Want the person sitting opposite us to suffer less.

But I think there is something really important for us to notice...

Our understandable desire to help can begin to create pressure for something to Happen or Change in our client.

And our client can feel it.

Perhaps they have already spent years feeling that they are:
Too difficult.
Too complicated.
Too damaged.
Too much.

The one who doesn’t respond properly.
The one who disappoints people.
The one nobody knows what to do with.

And now you are searching too.
A parallel process may be happening…

I wonder sometimes whether the most therapeutic thing we can do is stop searching for a moment.

Not stop caring.
Not stop thinking.
Not ignore risk.

Not abandon appropriate referral, medical treatment, supervision or professional responsibility.

But stop treating this human being as a problem for which we have not yet discovered the correct solution.

Perhaps you don’t have to find the next thing.

Perhaps something is already happening.

She stayed.
She told you something she has never told anyone else before.
She got angry with you.
She disagreed.
She cried and didn’t immediately apologise.
She laughed.
She asked for something.
She said no.
She noticed what happened in her body.

She wondered what SHE wanted rather than what everybody else needed from her.

She risked letting you matter.

These things may look small if we are searching for an OUTCOME.

Developmentally, they can be enormous.

I think sometimes we need enough confidence as therapists to tolerate the client’s pace.

To remain curious when we don’t know.

To resist making our client demonstrate that our therapy is working.

And to continue being deeply interested in the human being sitting opposite us.

Perhaps the question isn’t always:

“What else can I DO?”

Perhaps sometimes it is:

“What is already beginning to happen here that I might miss if I’m looking for something bigger?”

👑Kas
♥️Fierce as f**k for therapists

27/09/2026

👑THERAPY FOR THERAPISTS🔥

I offer therapy to those who are just starting out, and to those who have been doing this work for decades.

You might be finding your feet and wondering whether everyone else feels more confident than you do.

Or you might be very experienced, with people looking to you for all the answers, while privately wondering where YOU can take the things you’re carrying.

We can begin with whatever is true for you.

The love you have for your clients.
The tricky dynamic in your workplace.
The doubts.
The anger.
The exhaustion.
The things happening in your own life that make you question your own capacity as a therapist.

You don’t have to perform around me.

You can read about how I work here:
https://fierceasf.uk/therapy-for-therapists

Kas
fierce as f**k

Deeply relational therapy for women who are counsellors, psychotherapists or supervisors and need somewhere they do not have to perform professional competence.

26/09/2026

👑 Therapy For Therapists 🔥

Being a therapist can be a very lonely job.

We spend so much of our working lives listening, noticing, holding complexity and staying present with other people’s pain.

But where do YOU go with your own?

Perhaps you love your work yet you may also feel exhausted.

Perhaps you’re furious about something that’s happened.

Perhaps you’re doubting yourself, grieving, feeling ashamed, or struggling with something you can’t yet put into words.

You don’t have to arrive knowing...

You don’t have to perform professional competence with me.

And you do not have to make yourself smaller in order to be met.

I’ve been a therapist for 27 years, and I offer deeply relational, experiential therapy for counsellors, psychotherapists, supervisors and other therapeutic practitioners.

We begin exactly where you are.

You can read more here:

https://fierceasf.uk/therapy-for-therapists

Kas
Fierce as F**k Practitioners

Deeply relational therapy for women who are counsellors, psychotherapists or supervisors and need somewhere they do not have to perform professional competence.

24/09/2026

Therapy for Therapists

Deeply relational therapy for women who are counsellors, psychotherapists or supervisors and need somewhere they do not have to perform professional competence.