Raven Starr Rains

04/01/2026

'Tis the year to make sure all my delulu visions become reality ✨✨✨

03/01/2026

365 days alcohol free - but what has this year of sobriety taught me?

It's taught me that I have more self-discipline than I ever thought was possible for myself

It's taught me how to have confidence in situations where I used to rely heavily on alcohol to give me that 'liquid courage'

It's taught me that I have so much personality on my own, without the use of any substances

It's taught me how to handle my emotions better. I have had some truly uncomfortable times this year. I've cried far more than previous years - despite this being one of my best years to date - because I've forced myself to actually feel my feelings. To sit down, allow my body and mind to fully engage in whatever emotions I need to feel and let go of; and then to do just that. So, there's been a lot of tears. A lot of healing. A lot of growth. And it's been eye opening (in the best way possible)

It's taught me that I really am as strong as people have been telling me I am all my life. I never used to believe people that told me how strong I am - but now I do. Because I've proven it to myself, I've lived it, I feel it now

It's taught me that life really can be SOOO beautiful all by itself. That you can choose to do whatever you want to do in life. That the possibilities are endless...

It's taught me that I am enough, as I am

It's taught me that my worth doesn't come from anything other than just being myself

It's taught me about a happiness I never knew existed

Sobriety isn't a forever journey for me, but this past year will forever hold a special place in my heart

And if I ever decide to come back to it one day, I know I can. Happily

Here's to the next 365 of having full control over my drinking habits - I may not drink much at all, but I now have the choice, and control, to choose whether or not to incorporate alcohol into my plans. It's no longer a "need"... It's now just simply an option

Thank you to each and every single person who has helped me along on this journey - I honestly couldn't have done it without the support from all of the INCREDIBLE people that I'm so blessed to be surrounded by. From the bottom of my heart - thank you, thank you, thank you 🤍

19/12/2025

Ways you can set HEALTHY boundaries with those around you ✨

This took me a good few years to get the hang of, but I think I've gotten pretty decent at it now 🤍

The relationships I hold now are all so strong, secure and filled with love and respect - and I couldn't be more thankful for past me putting in the work to learn how to communicate more efficiently to be able to put certain boundaries in place that benefit both myself, and the people I call my nearest and dearest 🫶🏻

09/12/2025

08 • 11 • 25 - Paige & Stuart's Wedding 💍

I was so honoured and proud to be a part of Paige's big day, and as one of her bridesmaids 🥹

What an absolutely gorgeous day it was - thank you for trusting me with the bridesmaid's duties I had, I hope I did you proud 🫶🏻 You made the most BEAUTIFUL bride 😍😍😍 A fairytale wedding for the Princess you are, I hope it was everything you ever dreamed of and more 🤍

Wishing the newly-wed couple nothing but the very best in their marriage ✨

05/12/2025

2025 Wrapped

This year has been the best year yet for me. My personal development journey this year has been incredible. I've learnt so much about myself, remained consistent with my new-found love for running, going to the gym and eating better, and I've created a life that I'm excited to live each and every day

What did I do differently compared to previous years?

📚 I've read multiple self-development books that have given me tools to help me heal my inner child, recognise my triggers and learn more about myself in general

🎙️ I've listened to soooo many podcasts, from some truly incredible people, that have given me a different outlook on life and shown me what's really possible

🏃🏼‍♀️ I've trained for multiple races. I've ran 4 half marathons - and 1 full marathon this year 🥹 This time last year, the most I had ever ran was 5k... Craaaazy

🫐 I've started eating better - I have by no means gone on any "diets" - I have just made more conscious decisions on what I've decided to put into my body as fuel

❤️ I've led with love. I've tried my absolute best to actively compliment people more, lift other people up when they're feeling down, let people know that I love and care about them - and have really worked on getting my own self-esteem up, so that I can really lead by example. If the girl who has been bullied her entire life for so many different reasons can learn to love herself - flaws and all - then so can you 🫶🏻

2025 has been a year of GROWTH and LEARNING. 2026 will be even more of that - but I also have other agendas I want to be working on too. I know what will be on my 2026 vision board that's for sure ✨

If all you've done this year is survive - just know that I am SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Some years are good. Some are great. And some are just utter crap. If you've had a sh*tty year, let this be your reminder that on NYE you get to leave all of those negative things behind - and focus on the new year ahead. You have a fresh beginning and a chance to start again. And if you've had an amazing year - it's a chance to take all of that positive energy into the new year to begin 2026 in the best way possible 🤍

Either way - I send you all my love 🫶🏻

30/11/2025

Merry Christmas from us - to you 🫶🏻 🎄 ✨

I've had the pleasure of working for since November 2023, and I'm so grateful I get to dance alongside such gorgeous voices 🎙️

It's even better that my dancing partner is my bestest friend too 🥹 💃🏼
What a beautiful thing it is to share the stage with you 🫶🏻🤍

29/11/2025

Norwich Half Marathon 2025

4th Half Marathon race of the year, and definitely the most difficult - but also the most fun!!

I ran the Ipswich Half Marathon two months ago on a whim, with just 4 days notice, and I'm SO glad I did... Because I met this absolute nutter there

We just so happened to stand in the same time wave at the start of the race, I was by myself and Daniel was next to me with one of his friends - and the two of them were absolutely cracking me up

My favourite thing was probably Dan saying "who's stupid idea was this then" at not even 2k into the 21k run ☠️☠️🤣 and me being the nosey person I am, overheard this and turned around to laugh at it and make some kind of sarcastic comment, I can't quite remember what I said though, but I know it was somewhat sassy

Dan ran ahead not long after that I believe, but I ended up running a good chunk of the race with his friend as we were running at a similar pace. After discovering that they were in fact, not a couple (oops😂), and Dan reaching out to me on social media to go for a run sometimes - I knew I had to meet this man again as his energy was just so infectious, and definitely somebody I wanted to get to know some more

Fast forward 2 months - and we decided to run the Norwich half mara together... Dressed up as flamingos 😅🦩 the reason? ✨ Vibes ✨

The run was very challenging for me - it was cold, pouring it down with rain for the first half hour, had to run through several puddles as some were completely unavoidable, lots of hills... But it was sooo much fun with this man next to me. Singing, encouraging and vibing alongside me the entire time. I genuinely don't think I could've got through that without him there, so Dan - thank you, you're an absolute star 🫶🏻

He's also running 300k this November in aid of Movember - as well as growing the signature Movember tash, giving up drinking for the month and not eating meat either. He's done so so well, and I couldn't be prouder. Any support would be greatly appreciated too as it's for a great cause 💙 All info is on his page

We'll probably end up doing more races together - so any fancy dress recommendations are so welcome!! 👇🏼

17/11/2025

Energy is something I've really honed in on this year, and it's drastically changed my life in all the best ways

Being able to pick up on not only someone's body language, facial expressions and other more easily accessible forms of communication - but learning how to read someone's energy, and detect whether or not their intentions are genuine and pure has been a whole other skillset I've slowly been learning about throughout the year

This year I've gone down a big ole rabbit hole of self development. The first 6 months I truly went all in - reading multiple self-help books, listening to every podcast under the sun, taking my physical health and mental health more seriously than ever before. I've tracked my cycle religiously, making notes of the way my body feels and reacts throughout the month, and getting a better understanding on how my mood and energy levels fluctuate week by week

The past 5 months I've been implementing the things I learnt about myself, my behaviour patterns and my triggers in order to be a better communicator. A more present friend/sibling/daughter/aunty. And just an all-round more pleasant person to be around

I've learnt how to slow down (believe it or not, I know I look so manic and busy 24/7 - but in terms of slowing down and taking things one step at a time, day by day, rather than trying to do everything at once - is something I've gotten much better at this year)

I now want nothing but stability and consistency in my life. I don't want chaos or drama. I just want to be happy and healthy, and to spend time with and make fun memories with the people I love and care about the most

I like to think I now project much nicer energy nowadays, and I try my best to stay away from anything or anyone that brings anything but peace and comfort to my life. I don't wish to be around low-vibe / low-energy people or places, therefore if I keep you close to me - just know that you're a safe space for me, and I don't say that lightly

Pre-2025 Raven was a different person. I am thankful for her for trying her best to protect us; but by using the wrong actions. Luckily, we've learnt, we've grown and we're always going to be evolving now ✨

14/11/2025

This year has been a huuuuuuge learning journey for me!
Learning about myself, about control, about discipline.
Learning about others, about empathy, about forgiveness.
Learning about other avenues you can walk down in life - and that there's so many more options out there than we were led to believe

11/11/2025