Breakthrough Mindfulness

22/01/2023

Just because you were told it as a child, doesn't necessarily make it so...

Brene Brown once said she went to see a therapist and said "I just want solutions, and I dont want any of that childhood bu****it..."

She was of course talking with tongue in cheek, as she knows very well that exploring your childhood blueprint is crucial to developing your psychological maturity and emotional wellbeing.

The emotional blueprint is passed down from generation to generation, and we rarely challenge it as adults.

Do you swayy towards a particular political or religious viewpoint because thats what you truly believe, or because you were told from birth (often by parents) that's just how it is?

Are your thoughts and inner critic your own or are they the voices of someone else?

Are your behaviours reflective of someone else?

Exploring your blueprint is an important part of psychological development as an adult.

Question everything...💚🌌✌

21/01/2023

Some silent reflection and downtime in nature.

I spend a lot of time writing and working to help other people take better care of their emotional wellbeing. Today I remembered I need to drink my own coolade sometimes...

A nice afternoon at Bempton nature reserve which gave us a stunning sunset.

There is nothing better for getting out of your own head than silence in nature.

Somehow all your troubles dissolve, even if just for a while.

🌲🐦🦅🌅

21/01/2023

20/01/2023

As someone who recovered from a 7 year hell of addiction to the prescription drug Tramadol I understand only to well the challenges of overcoming addiction, whether that be drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, food, s*x or even social media.

Whilst some may seem more destructive than others, they all fall under the category of escapism, from pain. And in this way addiction is a maladaptive coping strategy that provides temporary relief from unhealed pain, often subconscious and regularly going all the way back to childhood. Addiction is rooted in pain.

I overcame my addiction to Tramadol through cold turkey, and I can tell you it was one of the most horrific times of my life, days of debilitating physical sickness, diarrhoea, cold sweats and insomnia was followed by weeks of dark depression as my brain some how tried to understand this sudden lack of a daily dose of chemically induced dopamine hit. I'd never felt so low in my life.

Of course I don't recommend this method to anyone, and with hindsight would have had a robust plan of recovery, and taken a more gradual and less painful route to letting go of the grip they held on me.

That said, I think someone can only free themselves from addiction when they are truly ready, and my time came , I was so tired of the hold on me, I decided even cold turkey wasn't as bed as being a prisoner to them for the rest of my life

In this way I have no regrets, one of the most difficult and painful times of my life turned out to the very thing that set me free. I had no choice but to face my own darkness, and I did seek help in the shape of therapy once I'd beaten the physical addiction.

This became invaluable as it was only in the space was I able to understand exactly 'why' I had spent most of my life grappling with some sort of addictive behaviour.

Now as I look back all my addictions were, was my running away from something I couldn't see, and I couldn't see it because it was inside me. I was running away from myself, from pain. The pain only healed when I started to walk back towards myself...

I hope you one day find the courage to walk back towards yourself too.

19/01/2023

There are lots of reasons why you should decide to take better care of your psychological and emotional wellbeing by getting to know yourself on a deeper level 💚🌌✌

19/01/2023

Don't believe the hype...

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18/01/2023

Make 2023 the year you work on your emotional wellbeing as well as your physical health 🧠💪💚

Personal rewards

Solid inner emotional stability

A profound sense of your own essence

A sense of what it feels like to be you

Deeper connection to yourself

An inner knowing of why people love you

Deeper connection with loved ones

Ability to truly celebrate being loved rather than questioning it

Ability to utilise your gifts and talents

External world mirroring your internal happiness

Increased self-esteem & self-worth

Healthy, stable relationships

Sense of purpose & belonging

Connection to the present moment

Sharper focus

Newfound energy

Better personal boundaries

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18/01/2023

Ever have that feeling that you just keep going sideways in life 🤔

In your career. Your relationships. Your personal development?

You’ve changed your job several times but you’re still doing the same depressing role you were doing years ago, you might even be getting paid a little bit more, but it’s the same role, just for a different employer. It pays ok, you have your financial bases covered but your miserable, and are not quite able to answer the question, is this all there is?

Maybe you are looking for that right person, the one who will light you up. You make yourself available and meet someone new, only to find the same old patterns soon start to emerge before the inevitable breakdown of yet another failed relationship.

Every year on January the 1st you make a load of resolutions, and set about them with gusto, for about a week, before those sneaky old patterns of behaviour start to creep in…and you find yourself 365 days later in the same mental space you were a year ago. Resolutions in tatters.

This is sidestepping, and it’s the safe bet. And if your not aware it, you could spend a lifetime doing up. Always moving, but never forward. Just sideways.

You’re not going ‘backwards’ per se, so it feels like progression, but that feeling is temporary and fleeting. The euphoria of the new job or relationship soon wears off and you find yourself asking the same questions. You have that same feeling that this wasn’t quite what you were looking for.

To stop side stepping and take strides forward we must first stop moving at all, it’s very difficult to change direction, after years of doing the same things, these behaviours and patterns of thinking can’t be changed overnight.

Think of it as a mental pitstop. Before you can plan the next move, and choose the road less travelled, it’s time for a mental service. Before we go for the next job or relationship, we are going to make sure the vehicle we are travelling in is fit for purpose...

Much love 💚🌌✌