07/09/2025
One of the easiest mistakes we make, especially when we’ve found some measure of success, is assuming our way is the way. We share our stories like they are a roadmap and forget that every human being is walking through a completely different terrain.
Sharing personal experience can be powerful. It can inspire, teach, and even save someone from costly mistakes. But the danger lies in presenting our story as a statutory, one-size-fits-all solution.
You see this everywhere, books and coaches telling us there are 10 principles of success, 6 steps to wealth, or 3 habits that will change your life forever. These lists can be helpful as guides, but they can also create pressure, making people feel that if they cannot follow every step exactly, they are doomed to fail.
Your journey worked because it was yours. It fit your timing, your upbringing, your network, your opportunities, your failures, and your resilience level. Another person may try to copy and paste it, only to get completely different results, or sometimes even the opposite.
Advice should be open, liberal, and humble enough to say:
“This worked for me, but your reality might require a different approach.”
When we insist that others follow some definite steps, we unknowingly take away their freedom to explore, make choices, and build their own story. We reduce them to passengers on our bus, when life has already given them the keys to their own.
You see...there is beauty in variety. There is strength in letting people take what resonates, discard what doesn’t, and shape a life that is uniquely theirs.
The best advice does not impose; it empowers.
The best guidance does not chain; it frees.
The best mentors do not create clones; they create thinkers.
So, bro… the next time you share your success story, or recommend a book full of “proven steps,” be sure to leave space for choice.
I take God beg you, give us permission to rewrite it in our own handwriting.
After all, the journey is what makes the destination meaningful.