09/04/2025
Losing a Parent While They’re Still Alive
There’s a special kind of pain that comes when you lose your relationship with a parent. Not because they passed— but because they chose to walk away. Or made it so toxic, you had no choice but to protect yourself and go.
It hits different.
Because that’s the person who created you.
The one who was supposed to love you more than life itself. The one who held you as a baby and promised things they never kept.
And when they turn their back on you?
When they lie, manipulate, hurt, or abandon?
It leaves a scar that trust struggles to grow around.
It makes you look at the world differently.
Because if your own parent doesn’t care… if the person who gave you life can treat you like you’re disposable— then who will protect you?
Who can you count on?
That kind of betrayal changes people.
You learn not to get too comfortable.
Not to believe words without action.
Not to fully trust—because even the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally might not.
And maybe that’s the most heartbreaking truth of all:
If the people who were supposed to love you first couldn’t… then you realize anyone is capable of leaving.
Anyone is capable of doing you dirty.
And that’s a hard, lonely reality to sit with.
But you know what else it shows you?
Your strength.
Your ability to protect yourself.
To walk away even when it hurts.
To break cycles.
To give your own child a love you never got.
Because while their absence changed you,
your healing will redefine you.
And that is where your power lives now.
