24/08/2026
Always a fear of mine. Bethany is extremely independent for an eight year old girl. But she has very little safety awareness. Only last week she ran into a main road without checking for safety and I had to run and grab her.
This morning, Stalen went to the bathroom by himself, just like he usually does. Independence and personal autonomy are so important. I can usually hear him, and I often walk to the bathroom to check on him.
But in between those check-ins, there was too much quiet.
I didn’t hear him unlock the house door. I didn’t hear the usual squeak of the door opening.
In a matter of seconds, he was quickly gone.
But he didn’t know that my husband was on the other side of the house door, in our garage. He was able to intercept him. Stalen was in his underwear, carrying his iPad, and heading out in the pouring rain.
I explained to him as best as I could why it wasn’t safe and why he can’t go outside without an adult. I’m not sure how much he understood in that moment.
But I’m sure he recognized the concerned, serious tone in my voice.
He went to his AAC device and typed, “sorry mom.”
My heart broke.
We have had so many close calls lately with elopement. It is one of my greatest fears, and lately, it has been weighing heavily on me.
Independence is important. Personal autonomy is important. But so is safety. Sometimes, as parents and caregivers, we are constantly trying to find that balance between giving our loved ones freedom and independence while also making sure they are safe.
And every close call is a reminder of just how quickly everything can change.
This is why elopement safety matters.
This is why families need every layer of protection available to them.