Tova Leigh - My Thoughts about stuff

08/01/2026

They call it the “male loneliness epidemic” like it’s a mystery. Like it just happened out of nowhere. Meanwhile, the same grown men crying about isolation are online spitting hate at women… because women don’t want to date them?

I’m not talking about little boys here. I’m talking about full-grown adults throwing tantrums on podcasts, Reddit threads, and comment sections because women dare to have standards. Newsflash: Your loneliness isn’t women’s fault.
It’s the result of a system that told you to mock vulnerability, reject emotional depth, and treat women like accessories instead of people.

So no - I don’t feel bad for you.
Go to therapy. Call a friend. Journal. Touch grass.
Work on yourself instead of throwing your toys out of the pram like a man child 🤷‍♀️

08/01/2026

Not everyone deserves access to you…

08/01/2026

I said what I said… 🤪

07/01/2026

Waiting for the comments… 😉😂

07/01/2026

A little message for all the Chads out there who are wondering why so many young women are opting ti stay single… 🤪

Across the West, marriage rates have been falling steadily for decades, with fewer young people tying the knot than ever before.

Why? Because the world changed.

There was a time when marriage was a survival strategy for women - when women couldn’t earn, own property, or build independent security. It was the path to social and financial stability, the safety net. Today, for most women, that no longer needs to be the case. 

Young women now pursue education, careers, travel, creative lives, community, freedom, curiosity. They still want love - but they aren’t willing to accept anything that doesn’t enhance their lives. That’s part of why so many women say marriage isn’t essential to a fulfilling life anymore. 

And let’s be honest - many men still cling to the old provider narrative, while women are asking for emotional intelligence, partnership, shared growth, and self-work. When hearts and psyches aren’t equally ready for that level of intimacy and responsibility, marriage simply feels less relevant.

Women aren’t opting out of love - they’re opting in to connection that feels reciprocal, respectful, and life-enhancing.

And honestly? That feels like progress 🙌🏻

06/01/2026

Dear Predrag,

I read your comment and felt curious about the kind of person who would leave something so unkind. I went to your profile, hoping to understand more.

What I saw made me feel sad.

You were surrounded by your beautiful grandchildren - one of them a little girl. And I found myself wondering how she would feel, one day, if she knew this is how her grandfather speaks to people online. To women. To strangers.

I want to be clear: your words did not hurt me.

They didn’t hurt me because I don’t know you, and your opinion of me holds no weight in my life. They didn’t hurt me because I genuinely like who I am and the body I live in. And they didn’t hurt me because I’ve learned that cruelty rarely comes from strength - it usually reveals something unresolved within the person offering it.

But your comment did remind me of something important.

It reminded me why I do the work I do.

I am a mother of girls. And I never want my daughters to believe that a man’s opinion of their bodies, their age, or the way they choose to live should make them smaller - physically, emotionally, or otherwise. I never want them to shrink themselves to make others more comfortable.

So instead of hiding, I stand here - visible, unapologetic - celebrating the woman I am, in the body I have.

And in doing so, I hope my daughters, your granddaughter, and any woman who has ever been told to take up less space hears this clearly:

No.
Simply no.

I truly wish you well, sir. And for the sake of the women and girls in your life, I hope you choose to do better.

Much better.

Tova 🩷

05/01/2026

Only four spaces left for my upcoming retreat in Portugal this coming May 2026.

If you fancy five nights, six days in a stunning location on a mountain overlooking the ocean with all your needs met then carry on reading…

This will be my fifth female empowerment Retreat Over 70 women have already attended and you could be next. Imagine taking off for a few days, with nothing to think about except yourself.

The Retreat tackles topics like body image, needs, pleasure, boundaries, shame and so much more you’ll also be pampered and get a free massage, a boat trip, food cooked by a private chef, dance classes, and so much more.

But the best bit, you will make friends for life and I’m not just saying it. If you’d like to know more about what happens at the Retreat or what other women had to say about it, head over to my website to read all the testimonies.

Make sure you apply Via https://tovaleigh.com/retreat

I hope to see you there in May!

05/01/2026

You get what you give 🤷‍♀️

05/01/2026

Being middle-aged is so cool, LOL

04/01/2026

04/01/2026

one else suffer from this?! 🤪

01/01/2026

Let’s normalise sleeping in separate bedrooms… Anyone else prefer having the bed all to themselves?