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15/02/2026

Grief, something I have come to know very personally - especially over the past 7 years - seven relatively silent years.

I learned in that time that truth lives in silence.

The truth, for me, is that as long as there is a life well lived grief remains inevitable.

Because I dare to love, I have experienced grief through death - an inseparable element of evolution. I and persons I have shared and share the experience of love with have and will die, as we each grow and evolve until eventually physical death steps in.

Because I dare to dream and pursue said dreams, I have been forced to grieve aspects and versions of mysef that had to and have to die on my path to realising my dreams. I have als had to grieve and let go of some dreams along the way.

Because I dare to own my truth and live on my terms, I have had to grieve connections and reatins that couldn't and didn't rise above judgement, doubt and uncertainty.

Still, I stand - still undeterred, still inspired, stil committed to living fully and unapologetically.



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12/02/2026

Some see me as mean.

I am told by many who I'm a big softee - one with not even a sliver of a "gangster face".🤭🤭

The truth is that I am wonderfully complex and whole human being, seeking daily to own and live my truth while remaining at peace with self and others.

Some days that task is easier than others and different aspects of who I am are more dominant depending on the day. What remains persistent, regardless, is who I am and my commitment to honouring my Self and life.

That is one core element of my foundational truth.

11/02/2026

From a grounded place ome can objectively seek and appropriately receive truth.



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10/02/2026

As I sit with my cup of tea, at the end if the day, I am reminded of the importance of grounding AND being flexible and graceful to myself in this practice.

Today was long and full and the post I originally started to share thus morning was overwritten as this reminder presented itself.

While I normally have a cup f tea as part of my morning routine, this morning that was not the case. The lesson for me - "Stay grounded, even in flexibility. Don't allow your routines to become prisons. Don't allow adjustments and pivots in your day to overwhelm you."



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08/02/2026

One of the hardest parts being intentional and committed to personal growth, for me, has been letting go.

Here, I'm not talking about letting go of people or things.

I'm talking about perspectives. I HAD to learn to let go of perspectives daily so I can have new eyes, with which to see myself - past, present, and future and allow her to be and become. New eyes with which t see others so I can myself in them and extend empathy and grace.

When it is said 'the eyes are the window to the soul", to is absolutely true. Not your physical eyes but the "eyes" with which you look.

07/02/2026

None of us is perfect.

My task and mission is to allow myself to become as much of me as I can and live fully - in integrity while hopefully creating a positive impact.

I recognise that my emotions (be that happiness, joy, anger, sadness, disappointment, grief, relief, or any combination) are as much a part of that journey as anything else. Learning to feel, live with, and honour them has been AND remain a huge part of my journey of intentional growth and evolution.

This week, I feel proud because I acted in integrity, not self-betrayal.

I feel gracious because my strength didn’t require withholding my humanity, compassion or kindness.

Grateful because support showed up without me carrying it all alone.

06/02/2026

Pausing to observe my breath and consider that with the breaking f a new day, Life has once again chosen me, is humbling - grounding for me.

It forces me to also consider who it is I chose to be, who I am now choosing to be and whether and how I stay congruent with my choice and words:

Do I lead with love - for self and others?

Am I kind, without becoming entangled?

Am I supportive, yet not overly available or enabling?

Am I present, with performing or masks?

Am I allowing myself to be me in my full brilianc3 and magnificence?



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05/02/2026

05/02/2026

Grounding, for me, is about regrouping and resolidifying my essence and foundation for whatever season I'm about to enter.

It's what enables me to navigate, carry, and hold whatever comes in and with my next level of growth.

I nourish and fortify myself and my body with self-forgiveness, grace, patience,love and respect.

This nourishment keeps my root healthy, strong and resistant to the impact of circumstances.

02/02/2026

About a year into the Covid 19 pandemic, I started a personal journey, one I called R100.

It’s a 100-day personal practice, and since I first walked through it, I’ve shared privately with small groups a couple of times. While it remains a journey of reclaiming, resetting, and renewing, it has evolved with me.

As I walk it this time, I’ll be documenting what I’m learning as I move slowly, honestly, and without performance through this threshold and into the next chapter of my life.

It’s structured and intentional, - with weekly themes that move from grounding to becoming. Each day, I will share a fragment - a quote, a reflection, an epiphany, an integration, or stillness.

This isn’t meant as advice or content. It’s integration - a living record of my story and my journey as I write it and allow them to unfold.

If you’ve been navigating change, leadership, or identity shifts, this may speak to you.

If it resonates, you’re welcome to walk alongside me.



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