08/04/2025
I asked my wife for a divorce and she ab@nd0ned our 5 children with me. I r£gret marrying her.
My story is long but help read and post. I want to speak my mind on a public space. My wife is very irresp0nsible and I r£gret marrying her for this thing she did to me. Leaving 5 children with me and going to Nigeria because I asked her for a divorce. This is someone I payed for her masters and brought to the UK.
Her first time in the UK was because of me. Since we came to the UK, we have been having s£rious problems over and over. I didn't want it to result to something else so, some weeks ago, I sat her down like a man in our house, I told her that I wanted a divorce, that I had made up my mind and would be moving out that week. I made arrangements for money for the children. She didn't say anything, she said okay not a problem, she just nodded and said she understood like she has been planning this thing. I thought it would be a conversation or maybe she will say something, but it wasn't like that at all. She did not even beg. Without a single word, she packed her things the next morning, grabbed her phone, and texted me. "I'm going to Nigeria. l'm leaving the kids with you." That was it. We have 5 children together. She now carried their passports so I can't travel with them to Nigeria. How do you leave 5 children with me? For what?? Is she not the woman in the marriage to cater for the children. What p@ined me more is our twins, their birthday was the next week She didn't seem to care about what Would happen to me raising these children, and I was left here holding the responsibility of our 5 children by myself. As if nothing had ever mattered, I was stuck there by myself where I had to pick up the responsibilities of a broken family that she didn't seem to want to be a part of anymore. The calls I made to her family did not mean anything , only her mother even still pick my call, she left me with no support. Her family are useless like her. I have to apply for neW passports for our children. I swear she won't see these children again. I married a thïef and wïĉked soul. She st0le £3,000 from my account using my email to authorize it The first few days was overwhelming for me, I started to have temperature like l'm falling sick. It was like I didn't exst outside of being their father. I can't even watch ball or go out I could barely find a moment for myself. These children, it's Like my wife told them to frusrate me with tantrums, late night feedings, and constant messes. And every time I looked at them, I realized that she is not coming back. She wasn't coming back for them, to me, or to the life we had once tried to build. What type of woman does this? In the midst of it all, my sister has to stepped in. She started coming over to help me, picking up the slack when I was drowning. I don't know what I would have done without her. It wasn't fair to her, either, to be pulled into this wahala but she did it without question. She stayed up with the kids, cleaned the house when I couldn't, and gave me the space to catch up on some sleep. when my wife's phone is off and I wonder what she is doing, she dye her hair gold Now, it's been 16 days since she left. 16 days of taking care of these kids sent to punïsh me to hell. 16 days of wondering how she could leave without a second thought. Which woman does that? I still haven't heard from her, and it's Iike she never loved me or even cared about our children, her children keep crying and asking for her. She just disappeared into her own life. So me I can't have a life of my own? I don't know where she is or what she's doing, but it's clear now that she wasn't the wifel thought she was. Raising 5 kids by myself, I see that more than ever. Some day I'm angy and other days I miss my wife. God is on the throne. I have been reading Joel 2 :25-26 to restore my marriage. That's how a feel today, my feelings go from angry to missing her sometimes. What do you advise? It's like she never loved me or her children. What mother will do this? I will get the passports sOon and after Easter I will go to Nigeria