Leata Mae The Well Being Doula, London (2025)

02/10/2023

*Insert caption about how good the sun feels on my skin*

23/09/2023

New season energy! 🍂🍁🍂

As we move from summer to winter, I’m reflecting on what I’m leaving behind,
and thinking about what I’m intentionally heading towards.

Autumn equinox is the time to honour our internal autumnal energy and go inwards. It’s the time to reflect, let go and self-study.
Both day and night are of equal length during this time, and I like to see that as a reminder for us to seek similar balance in our lives so that when winter arrives, we can welcome rest with an inner harmony that grounds our well-being.

Im thinking about ways to cultivate this by simply just slowing down and listening.

How about you?

01/09/2023

Back from a 5 day trip in Cornwall.
Full of new memories, new friends, love, food, nature, contemplation and baby piglets.
Doesn’t get much better.
And we are already planning our next trip to Cornwall because - wow.

01/09/2023

Back from a 5 day trip in Cornwall.
Full of new memories, new friends, love, food, nature, contemplation, and baby piglets.

We are already planning our next trip to Cornwall because wow.

24/08/2023

Virgo season is upon us!

And for my birth season, I'm giving 25% off my new digital download - The Pregnancy Support Guide!

Head to the website or hit the link in my bio to grab yours at this exclusive price for a limited time only.

21/08/2023

I get it. There is absolutely a need to recognise that we are all responsible for our own emotional management.
There is a need to unlearn and release the mental load of trying to manage other peoples emotions and there is a need to not seek our self worth from other people.

But the complete detachment we are encouraging with this, risks us disregarding and invalidating the experience of another human being and feeds into the culture of individualism.

There are many gentle parenting accounts that say we shouldn't force our kids to say sorry or that we should teach our children to believe they aren't responsible for other peoples feelings but I don’t teach my children this form of disconnection.
Instead, I teach them that we all have a responsibility of care and consideration to others. In our home and outside of it.

Emotional Intelligence and emotional
management are personal skills that help us be with and work through how we feel. And you are accountable for the choices you make. That includes the words you use and the actions you take and the impact of those regardless of intention.

Accountability also means to make room for apologies, in effort to repair the harm caused, because If there’s one thing none of us are above, it is the ability to cause harm.

I want us to be considerate of how our choices land with others. It doesn't mean to people please, it doesn't mean to dishonour ourselves and it doesn't mean we manage other peoples emotions, but it does mean we have an awareness of the collective. And that we have a responsibility to the collective if we are ever gunna make it.

What do you think?

13/08/2023

Things that are not spoiling your child:

Giving them (and yourself!) the space and safety to feel, express and process emotions

Picking up and comforting your child when they cry

Practicing compassion and patience

Treating them as fellow humans and not something you own or control.

Practising and teaching consent for all aspects of life

What things have you been told are ‘spoiling’ your child that are total BS?

11/08/2023

New & Improved! 🔅

When I was pregnant with my youngest back in 2020, I was getting deeper into my journaling practice and desired a guide or workbook that resonated with me and my pregnancy journey.
I couldn’t find what I wanted - so I created one!

Fast forward to now and this is the second edition new and improved!

Part guide, Part workbook - there are over 145 pages offering you connection based guidance & encouragement from the day you find out you’re pregnant to those first early postpartum weeks.

What's inside :
🔅Reflective journal prompts, scripted meditations & mindful practices
🔅Suggestions and support for common ailments
🔅Postpartum aftercare plan building
🔅Intentional tools for your pregnancy and postpartum well being

I am the writer, designer and producer 😰 this is all me, so thank you for supporting this one person small business! Every share, every like, every purchase means the world to me and my family and I hope you receive this with all the love intended 💛

06/08/2023

No small joy reel this week and that’s not because there hasn’t been any moments of joy or gratitude - there has been plenty.
I just haven’t got my phone out to record all or even most of them.

I realised this week that I’ve been ‘thinking in content’. Meaning, throughout my days I’ve been thinking about how whatever’s happened or whatever thought has crossed my mind, could somehow become content to share in this space or throughout my other offerings.

And it gave me the ick.

I enjoy creating, especially when it reaches who it’s intended for and makes an impact. I enjoy having an outlet for the things I want to share and topics I want to dive into, but I don’t wanna be thinking about everything from a possible content perspective. I don’t wanna be more consumed by my phone and ride the overwhelm wave of doing more than I have capacity for. This space may resonate for you, but it’s for me too. And I don’t want to be thinking about content creation at bedtime. I don’t want to set up my phone for every moment then spend hours creating and editing long after the moment.I don’t want to be researching, studying and expanding solely for the benefit of my offerings in service to others.

I know they say if you want to be successful and grow your business then you have to be consistent and build your social media. And while I get all that, and I’ve been trying, I’m more interested in authenticity and the reality of being, you know, a human.

And that means honouring the periods of time where I shift my focus or need a break or re-adjust my capacities.

With content - sometimes I’ll be consistent, sometimes I’ll be sporadic, but I’ll always honour the limits of my boundaries so that I can practice what I preach and be in a space with you that centers the humanity of us all.

Hope you’ve had a easeful weekend💛

29/07/2023

What if self care wasn’t a luxury?

Listen, I’m all for massages and pedicures I really am, but true self-care has been commercialised and re-packaged to us.

What’s even worse, is that as a parent, the idea of self care has been reduced down to meeting basic needs, personal hygiene and high productivity levels in between baby's sleep and wake up times.
No one told us that we can make choices as to whether self care is time away or time with our family. That It can be for our mental, physical or spiritual health, as personal as that is to us.
That it should be about whatever makes us - not others - feel good.
Whatever supports us to feel most like our best selves.

And it doesn't have to cost a thing.
And it doesn't have to be a treat.

Instead it could be a daily, monthly or seasonal practice - things so a part of our lives, that it's not something we have to book in or remember to do.

I want us to also reclaim self-care as the authentic concept - outside of the mainstream limitations that exist within the systems of oppression to uphold capitalism, supremacy and colonial notions of validation.

I see self care as the caring of the self.

Because true self care is about nurturing the foundations of our well being so that we can be well nourished. Not just in meeting basic human needs but in more intentional, holistic and tender ways.
Because It is from here that we will bloom. Hear that we can show up as our fullest and best selves.

So What’s self care to you?

17/07/2023

Childhood is made up from the sum of your experiences not just individual moments.
The way we feel for a lot of the time in those experiences can settle into our bodies.

Becoming stories.

Ones we tell about ourselves, ones we take on,ones we project, ones we recall, ones we forget.

Parenting with awareness often requires us to reflect on our own childhood and sum up parts of our experience.

So when it comes to thinking about our children and they childhood they are having now, we can sometimes feel worry or doubt as we wonder how we react, respond or behave is imprinting into our children’s bodies.

What is the sum of their experience?
What messages, signals or stories
do their bodies pick up and hold onto?
Will they reflect back on this moment in adulthood as significant?
Or will they forget by next month?

There may be times where you don’t show up in the way you’d expect or prefer or want or need to.
Most likely there will be times where you fall short and you make mistakes, because we all do.

It’s part of being human.

We give our best with what we have and that may not always be ‘right’.

But every effort counts.

Because your child’s nervous system will remember you showing up, even when you didn’t have all the answers.
Their body will undoubtedly know that you are there for them even if you, or them, are having a hard day.

You cultivating that feeling of safety in their body’s is what they will remember and hold on to.

12/07/2023

Sometimes no deep caption just a cute pic because IM FEELING MYSELF

28/06/2023

Who can relate?

I realise that for many years I’ve been over extending my capacity. Not honouring or even knowing my energy boundaries has meant that I’ve always positioned myself as the one who gives. But being the ‘strong one’ has left me with a tensed body, holding all of the emotions I haven’t shared with myself never mind others.
I’ve spent so much of my time being in a ‘ what about me?’ Place.

And now I’m prioritising my ‘this is for me’ space.

When you’ve spent so long tending to the needs of others, it can feel alien to prioritise yourself.

Nevertheless, do it anyway.
Make it a practice.

I’ve learned that nothing changes if nothing changes and it’s up to you to assert yourself.
It’s up to you to make space for the support that you need, because we are allowed to ask for what we want.

It’s okay to collapse into the vulnerability of your strength.

23/06/2023

Don’t confuse your purpose with your mission.

We at times often face the big question of ‘what is my purpose in life?’ a question I've come to understand, only ties our existence to productivity and worth.
We carry this belief that we have to make our lives mean something, rather than our lives inherently already meaning everything.

What if we understood that our purpose is just to exist. Would that release the pressure? Could we experience our daily lives with more presence? Could we come to understand that we are innately worthy?

Our mission is what we decide to do with our lives. It can be the goal, the focus and the grounding point we return to.

Our mission is what we feel called to do.
Our purpose is just to live.

Once we find the distinction between the two, we can redirect our energy to pursue our mission in life versus making our life a project to pursue.

16/06/2023

Not all of us feel we are allowed to express our full range of emotions, something that we most likely learned in our childhood through home life and/or society.
We have been fed messages of what emotions are strong and desired and congratulated and what are seen as weak and unwelcome and shamed.

These messages have become internalised and have crept into our subconscious, influencing how we show up for ourselves and others.

The emotions that have been sent to the made up ‘negative’ category, have become uncomfortable for us to feel.
We therefore haven’t learnt to feel okay when they present themselves. We haven’t learnt how to validate and hold space for them, meaning we dismiss and criticise instead. This all leads to an inner conflict that shows up as frustration, anger or irritability.

So how can we unlearn the suppression of our emotions?

We get curious, we get connected, we get compassionate and we get centered.

If we give messages to our children that all emotions are okay to feel. They will know that all parts of them are welcome and valid. This will be the grounding of nurturing a sense of belonging - a feeling of connection we all benefit from.

But first, we have to practice this care with ourselves until the practice becomes embodied. Only then can we truly pass on and model a different way.

07/06/2023

“How many dead things do you keep watering?“

I saw this quote recently and it’s been on my mind ever since.
How much do we hold on to when the signs have been there to let go?

How much are you doing out of habit? How much are you doing in denial?
How much are you doing out of hope?

Relationships, thoughts, ideas, patterns, behaviours… if it isn’t reciprocal, if it isn't generative, if it doesn’t bloom - Let it go.

Can we lean into watering what’s working for us instead?

Be mindful of how you spend your time and energy, both are so precious.

Pour into you.
Pour into your dreams.
Pour into your loved ones.
Pour into collective wellness.

Pour into life and watch what grows.

31/05/2023

Things I didn’t know where a part of healing in parenthood:

🌻Self-value & Self-esteem: making any effort to meet your needs is radical in a society that revolves around productivity, capitalism and other oppressions that seek to squash out the light that is you. The act of putting yourself first is the kind of caring that we all deserve. When given the space, respect and safety, our children will naturally make self honouring decisions -following their lead gives us permission to do the same.

🌳Decolonisation: Mainstream parenting culture upholds white supremacy and other oppressions. The impacts of which mean we take on beliefs and behaviours that center control rather than connection.
Noticing and practising how to unlearn those beliefs and behaviours is sometimes a daily exercise that both triggers and liberates you.

🌷Reparenting: Parenthood offers opportunities to care for our children in a way that is different than what we experienced or know of. Breaking generational cycles is a courageous and sometimes painful practice - yet our triggers reveal what is asking to be healed and when we do what we can, we also get to care for our inner child in a way that feels transformational.

15/05/2023

Anyone else been wanting to cry a lot lately?

Crying can be the result of many different emotions ranging from despair to euphoria, yet there’s this general attitude that crying is a weakness. That it’s a shameful act that needs privacy or controlling.
Culture shapes our crying behaviour, and we have a culture that doesn’t understand, respect or honour our nervous system and this natural human behaviour. Whether aware or not, most folks are uncomfortable with tears.

But crying isn’t a fragility, it’s the strength of our feelings. It’s a call for connection - to ourselves and to others.

Crying is seen as something that’s embarrassing, that makes other people feel awkward and for that sake should be restrained. How many times have you said ‘sorry!’ Or ‘ just ignore me’ When your tears fall?

Despite being told I was too much because of it - I have always been a crier.
At home that was always understood and validated by my parents, especially my mother. She knew that sometimes the best thing to do for the body and mind was to cry. I want to encourage a sense of strength and resilience in my children, and I want them to know that tears are a sign of that. To impart that wisdom means to honour that truth myself.

Tears are healing, therapeutic and compulsory. To get comfortable with crying is to develop a spiritual practice because crying is ceremonial.
I hope you feel safe to let your tears fall.

Need a place to cry? Let me sit with you.
Book a 1:1 conscious connection session where I hold space for whatever is coming up for you. Info to book in bio 💛

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