25/09/2026
One of the hardest things to learn in your career is that not all criticism deserves the same weight, especially when it comes from someone senior to you.
When you respect someone, admire their career or simply know they have more power and experience than you, it’s so easy to assume their opinion of you MUST BE accurate.
And sometimes it is.
Sometimes the feedback is uncomfortable because there’s something in it you GENUINELY need to hear. Being able to recognise that without becoming defensive is part of growing.
But sometimes it isn’t constructive feedback at all, sometimes it’s somebody’s frustration, insecurity, personal dislike being given to you as though it’s an objective assessment of who you are.
And learning to tell the DIFFERENCE is a skill in itself.
Listen to criticism, interrogate it, look for the evidence (!) and take what’s useful.
But don’t automatically turn someone else’s opinion of you into your opinion of yourself, especially just because they’re more senior than you.
Follow for the career lessons nobody teaches you until you’ve already learned them the hard way 🫠
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