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Raven Starr Rains, Norwich (2025)

22/09/2025

Ipswich Half Marathon 2025 - 21/09/25

Strava time - 1:52:59
Chip time - 1:53:41
Gun time - 1:56:01

BEYOND pleased with the outcome of yesterday's run 🥹

I was aiming for sub 2, even if I was only scrapping it - but I ended up absolutely smashing my goal 💪🏼

Yet again, smiled the whole way through this run and had the absolute time of my life 🫶🏻✨

Onto the Porto, Portugal Marathon in November next 🤩🏃🏼‍♀️

15/09/2025

Self-care is so much more than a bubble bath and a cup of tea (if you know, you know 😅😂), so let me list some more versions of self-care you can do ✨

• Exercise - trust me, this is one I heavily ignored and neglected for yearsssss. I was convinced it was something people did purely for the aesthetics and not much else, when in reality - exercising can do SO much good for your mental health. It doesn't have to be anything drastic, even getting out for a half hour walk outside in the fresh air a day can do wonders

• Journaling/writing/painting/singing - something (anything) creative. Getting your thoughts written down on paper, your thoughts drawn, or your feelings sung out loud can all be forms of expressing yourself in healthy ways. Positive or negative emotions - having a healthy release of energy is good for the soul

• Controversial one maybe... But having some ✨ alone time ✨ to release some other forms of energy, is also something I think is necessary for a clearer mind. It's a stress reliever, and rebalances certain hormones when they're a bit out of wack

• Cooking/making yourself healthy food, and fueling it sufficiently each day. Your body is your vessel, and as nice as it is to feed it comfort food every now and then, treating it with kindness and giving it the nutrients it requires daily is such a good way to show yourself some self-love and care

The list could continue, but Instagram has a character cap so 😅

In short - today is the start of a new week, so why not start a new habit of showing yourself more self-care than usual? You might be surprised at how you begin to feel when you make these incremental changes to your routine 🫶🏻

08/09/2025

My 26th birthday was a big success 🥹

I literally cannot thank my friends and family enough for all of their effort in making it one of the best birthdays I've ever had 🫶🏻

Everyone went above and beyond for me and I feel SO overwhelmed with joy and gratitude for every single one of you 😭 I really am such a lucky gal to have such incredible people around me 🤍

Thank you again to everyone that made this year so special - it definitely will be one I'll always remember ✨

Blessed, grateful and happy 🫶🏻

23/08/2025

Solo Adventures - a topic I have talked about before, but not for a hot minute, so I'm here to reiterate it and it's importance (in my personal opinion)

Doing so many different things by myself this year has taught me SO much. Not only about myself, but also my perception of the world we live in, the people in it, and how we have a lot of control over how our experiences play out based on expectations and the actions we decide to make ourselves

For example - I've learnt how to be a more confident person. It's something I've been able to fake for years (a trained actor/performer and all that), but internally I've not really *felt* confident in myself - until I started doing many things alone, and learning how to overcome the anxiety that would build up in my head from overthinking

It's not even been in any big or drastic ways that I've built this confidence up; in fact, it's been quite the opposite. It's been the small interactions that have had the biggest impact on me, for example:

- Saying hello/good morning to strangers passing by
- Asking for directions from people local to the area I'm exploring, and cultivating conversation by asking their recommendations etc
- Having more of an interest in other people's lives, asking more questions and just generally engaging in more conversations that don't stick to the usual script we tend to have with people we've never met before
- Being more open. I'm now such an open book that you could ask me probably anything and I'd tell you, because I like to connect with others and have more meaningful and deep discussions

It's in all the little day-to-day interactions, where I've been alone - or with people I've only just met, that have grown my confidence atronmonically

You don't have to be big, bold and loud to be able to grow in confidence (but if that's your thing - you do you!! That's also amazing). There are so many things you can do and try, that will teach you so much about yourself. But you need to step out of your comfort zone in order to be able to get there

Spending time alone, and being comfortable in your own company is such a blessing. You'll learn so much more about yourself 🫶🏻

12/08/2025

As the saying goes, "you can't pour from an empty cup" - so make sure you're pouring energy into yourself BEFORE giving it to others

Burnout is sadly so common and normalised nowadays, and it really shouldn't be that way

Make sure you're giving yourself the love, care and appreciation that you give to your friends and family - to yourself too!

This means making time to do the things that give you energy, refuels you and makes you feel alive

For me, some of those things are:

• Running
• Walking/hiking
• Swimming (outside)
• Reading a book on self-development
• Spending quality time with loved ones
• Being in sunlight
• Going to the gym
• Grabbing a coffee
• Going to church

Along with other things, but these are my go-to's

Make sure you're doing the things that bring YOU joy, happiness and energy ✨✨✨

02/08/2025

Mindset is everythinggggg!! I can not and will not stress that enough

Recently I've had quite a few comments/questions/compliments on how I look, people asking what I do or what I did to get started on my journey to living a healthier lifestyle - and what do I tell them?

I started with my mindset. I started by working on creating mental wellness, eliminating various limiting beliefs, and shifting my views about physical fitness - BEFORE getting more serious with my goals etc

As a girlie who has suffered with various E.D's throughout her life, it was imperative that I fixed my mindset around exercise and food first. I needed to shift my mindset, before I could really start to take my next steps

Reading self-development books has helped me hugely. I had never read books before late last year, and now I'm obsessed with reading. I just love to learn more about myself, my behaviour patterns, what my triggers are, how to self-regulate, learning healthy coping mechanisms - and so on and so forth

Podcasts have also been so insightful, and I've learnt so much from various people on various podcasts. I've really listened to what these successful people have said to start implementing into your life, and remained consistent

I've done so many mindset exercises, breathwork techniques, I've challenged myself more intellectually - etc

And once I'd done all of that, and now it's a part of my routine? Then I started working on some physical goals I wanted to achieve

I won't lie, when I first started running, it was to get a bit fitter - but also subconsciously I just wanted to lose some weight. I was doing it for all the wrong reasons, and that's probably why I couldn't stay consistent with it for the first 6 months

Once I started to work on myself internally, and started to love myself and my body and became grateful for everything it can do for me - that's when the real changes started happening. That's where people (and myself) started seeing differences...

I'm no longer working out to lose weight - I'm working out because I LOVE myself. I want to treat my mind and my body with the love and care it deserves. And that's the mindset shift that changed everything ✨

21/07/2025

Regulating your nervous system is not an easy thing to be able to do, it takes a lot of self-awareness to be able to recognise where you may need to adjust yourself in certain areas

For me - I knew that I was heavily reliant on alcohol to 'give me a personality' and make me 'fun'. I always felt so anxious in social situations unless I was drinking. I had told my brain and my body that the only way to relieve that social anxiety was to get drunk. And eventually (a decade of binge-drinking later), I decided I needed to change the narrative and re-wire my brain and find other ways to regulate my nervous system and the way it reacts in certain scenarios

I am now 200 days alcohol-free ✨ and I've never felt more liberated in my life

I did need to put myself in some uncomfortable positions to be able to push through that stage, and into the place I'm at now. Don't get me wrong, I still get social anxiety at times around large groups of people - but I am a hell of a lot better at dealing with it now

For example:

• I take myself physically away from the situation if I begin to feel overwhelmed. Removing myself from the crowd for 10 minutes to have some quiet time to myself to re-centre and anchor myself works really well for me
• I focus on my breathing. I'll sit or stand somewhere I feel comfortable, and just breathe in through my nose, and out through my mouth. I'll usually count 4 deep breaths in, and 8 long breaths out. I don't make this obvious, and I doubt people even notice when I do it 9/10 times, but again - it just brings me back into the present moment and calms my heart rate down
• If I'm feeling jittery/restless or I'm overthinking - I'll do physical movement. I'll either go for a walk, run, swim or the gym. But this can be absolutely any physical activity that you enjoy
• Cold exposure therapy and wild swimming for me also helps massively. Exposing yourself to cold water, and overcoming that mental battle brings me a kind of focus I can't explain to you unless you've experienced it yourself. The clarity you feel afterwards is honestly unmatched to anything else

You can decide to change your nervous system whenever you choose to put in the work ✨

12/07/2025

"People don't change" is a saying I have really come to dislike

I dislike it because although in some aspects I understand why people say it, I've been guilty of saying it myself, it's quite simply not true. Not in all cases

We all come from different backgrounds and walks of life, have all had varying upbringings and been surrounded by different environments

But thinking that you have to remain the same person you've always been for the sake of comfort, familiarity or because it's what you've been told - is utter nonsense

I say this has someone who has changed quite drastically over the last 6 months

I am still me - but I am a better version
• I'm a more patient friend
• I'm a more understanding sister
• I'm a more empathetic daughter
• I choose my words more wisely
• I manage my thoughts better
• I can recognise and respond more appropriately when what I'm saying isn't correct
• I try to put myself in other people's shoes before assuming
• I try not to jump to conclusions
• I now look for the best in people, and not dwell on their flaws (because who tf am I to judge others?!)

My lifestyle habits have also changed (improved) quite dramatically

I've gone from drinking alcohol 3 or 4 times a week for no apparent reason - to cutting out alcohol completely

I've gone from being someone who didn't get out of bed until 10/11am - to someone who gets up at 7am to go for a run

I've gone from someone who ate whatever she wanted whenever she wanted - to someone who thinks more consciously about the meals she eats

I could honestly go on forever, but I won't

I just wanted to say that if you're not happy with who you are or how your life looks... Then YOU have the power and the ability to change that!

YOU are in control of YOUR own life - and you get to decide what kind of person you want to be 🫶🏻

02/07/2025

03/07/25 - I am officially ✨ 6 MONTHS SOBER ✨

I haven't touched a drop of alcohol for six consecutive months... And that is something I am incredibly proud of myself for. I have seen and felt so many changes in myself, not just physically but mentally too. The energy and mindset shift I've had is craaazy

Now, obviously these are progress pictures of my body and how I have physically changed; so I'll touch on that first

I haven't had drastic changes (aside from both my hair colour and skin colour getting far more orange😅😂), I've gotten more toned, less bloated and slightly thinner. I have also been running semi-regularly alongside going T-total, however my diet has changed all that much. But what has changed the most? The way I now FEEL about myself

I now feel sooo much more confidence in my own skin than ever before. I quite like how I look, and I also quite like who I am as a person - which is something I never thought I'd say. I've always been so critical of myself and have often mistreated myself because I didn't like "me". But today? Now? I can confidently say that I like myself... That I love myself. I love the woman I am turning into, because that person is taking better care of herself, of the people around her, and is always actively working on creating the best life possible for herself

Sobriety has taught me so very much. It's taught me a lot about myself. It's taught me a lot about control. It's taught me a lot about temptations. It's taught me a lot about family history. It's taught me a lot about addiction. It's taught me a lot about habits. It's taught me a lot about what I do and what I don't want in my life

I am now half way into my promise to myself. My promise to go one full year, 12 whole months of not drinking alcohol. I wanted to prove to myself that I could, and I also wanted to learn who I was outside of the fake confidence and inhibitions that alcohol gave me

I'm not sure if I'll be fully sober forever, or if I'll maybe one day resort to a "sober-ish" lifestyle, but I know for damn sure that I never want to be drunk again. I never want to feel the effects of a hangover. I never want to be out of control of my own actions. I want to live happily and healthier for as long as I can; and taking alcohol out of my life so far has brought in so much more good than I ever thought possible

Here's to the next 6 months - getting me to the big 365 days milestone 🫶🏻✨

Orange Juice - Noah Kahan
"You said my heart has changed and my soul has changed - and my heart, and my heart
That my face has changed, and I haven't drank in six months... on the dot"

01/07/2025

We're officially in month 7 of the year today (where has all that time gone?!) - so here's what the last 6 months have consisted of for me, and what I've focused my energy into:

My mental health - I have well and truly taken care of myself and my mind from the beginning of this year. I've done so much inner work on myself it's actually insane. I've read, a lot. I've listened to countless podcasters that talk about various areas I wanted to improve on. I've done lots of mind work and meditation practices. I've listened to my body when it's telling me I need to take better care of myself. I've made sure I am taking care of ME first, because only then are you able to take care of others in the deepest, purest form without draining yourself in the process

Sobriety - from midnight on 02/07/25 (so, 03/07/25)... I'll be SIX MONTHS SOBER 🥹 now that, is something I'd never, ever of thought I could do. It hasn't been a smooth ride in the slightest. The first 2 months? Bliss. Pure and utter euphoria. Month 3? Hell. Month 4? Also hell. It gradually got better, then I faced more challenges, and now I feel I've got a much better understanding of my brain, how to overcome the temptations and keep to my promise to myself. I'm very fortunate that I have the best support system around me too, and I'll always be thankful for you all

Running - did you guys know that I run?? I don't think I talk about it much... 🙈😅 But in all honestly, this is also something I never thought I would develop such a passion for. I've never had a hobby that I wanted to stick to other than dancing, and that turned into my career, and then I found my love for running. It's an ongoing journey that I just fall more and more in love with. Again, like with sobriety, it hasn't always been easy, and I haven't always loved it. But I now love myself enough to remain consistent and dedicated to the process

I've also focused a lot of my time and energy into practicing gratitude, building my future, and prioritising my closest friends and family.

All of these things have allowed me to live such a beautiful life over the last 6 months, and for anyone wanting more out of their own life... Drop me a message✨

01/07/2025

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24/06/2025

Today's ted talk is an uncomfortable subject

Taking accountability for your actions - means putting your ego to the side, and being able to admit when you're in the wrong/have done wrong

This is something I've had to work really hard on over the past year, because admitting that you're wrong instead and apologising is a lot harder than just making excuses for your behaviour and trying to justify yourself

It really is something that I believe takes a lot of courage, strength and skill to be able to recognise when actually; you did wrong. It is super uncomfortable to admit, and even more uncomfortable to try and reconcile - because sometimes you're not able to

Absolutely no human is perfect. No one's actions or words are correct 100% of the time. And that's okay - the important thing is being able to reflect and recognise when you've been the person in the wrong, and to try and make amends. Again, this doesn't mean the other person or people will forgive you - but you need to be able to be able to forgive yourself in order to move forward. The only thing you're able to control, are your own words, actions and responses; not other people's. So, if you've done wrong and you realise it - own your sh*t. Say sorry. And move past it

The ego is a terrible thing which will always fight to make you believe you're always in the right; but sometimes that just isn't the truth. Do the inner work. Learn how to be better. How to do better. Educate yourself, and you'll live a more authentic and peaceful life

A message to anyone in my past that I've ever hurt, intentionally or not - I am truly sorry. I've learnt a lot about myself this year; my triggers, my toxic behaviour patterns that I'm working incredibly hard to break, my childhood trauma that's followed me into adulthood - all of it has come out in different ways and to different people throughout the years, and I'm so sorry if you were someone I took it out on. 2025 has been astronomically life changing and eye opening for me, and I've done a lot of self-reflection and am working my absolute best to not affect other people with my own baggage anymore. I am learning, I am growing and again - I am sorry ❤️‍🩹

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