Meadows Counselling

23/09/2026

Keeping score is presented as a character flaw. It's usually a symptom, and it's what happens when someone has been carrying something unnamed for a long time.

Six ledgers people run.

The task tally is who did what this week. It goes quiet when the split feels fair and it gets very loud when it doesn't.

The initiation tally is who reaches out and who reaches for. Being the one who always starts things wears down in a way that's hard to explain.

The sacrifice ledger is what you gave up for this relationship and what they didn't. The city, the job, the friendships that thinned out.

The family tax is whose relatives get more of your weekends. It compounds over years and it almost never gets raised until it's a fight.

Crisis credit is who showed up when it was bad. This one earns real interest, and it also expires faster than people think.

The flexibility record is who bends. If you're always the adaptable one, you're being praised for something that's costing you.

Here's the part that matters. A score gets kept when something can't be said. The scorekeeping isn't the problem to solve. The unsayable thing is.

If you're counting, say it before the total gets big.

22/09/2026

09/07/2026

It may not be the immediate reaction,
But it is the baseline!

So very grateful for this journey!
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21/06/2026

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17/05/2026

Sometimes, regardless of who is right, the best thing to do is to lay down our weapons and make a truce. But when we get hooked on being right, we reignite the argument, moving closer to the conflict and farther away from the possibility of peace. Let go.

17/05/2026

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02/05/2026

Such a great poem for today ❤️

"Kinder"

02/05/2026

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You're an adult now. You know how to manage. How to survive. How to show up. But there's a part of you that's still 7 years old.

Still waiting for someone to say: "You matter. You're safe. I see you."

And when that inner child doesn't get what it needs, it shows up in your adult
life in ways you might not recognize.

WHAT YOUR INNER CHILD ACTUALLY NEEDED:

Safety. Consistency. Validation. To be seen. To be heard. To matter.

• But maybe your childhood couldn't provide those things.
• Maybe there was chaos instead of safety.
• Maybe there was criticism instead of validation.
• Maybe there was abandonment instead of consistency.
• So that young part of you learned: "I have to figure this out alone."

And now, decades later, you're still running that program.

That young part of you is just been waiting for someone to come back and say the things that were never said.

"You were worth protecting."

"Your needs mattered."

"What happened wasn't your fault."

Your inner child doesn't need you to fix your past.

She needs you to become the parent she never had. The parent who validates her. Who protects her now. Who tells her she matters. Who creates safety. Who says: "I'm here now. You're not alone anymore."

When you start parenting that young part of yourself, everything changes.