Helen Bryer - Mindset and Life Coach, Winchester (2025)

01/09/2025

Well… it’s not been the most productive or fun summer in some ways (if I could have written my ideal summer, there’s definitely some things I’d have skipped or added 😅), but in some ways it‘s also been EXACTLY what I needed.

This summer, I really managed to focus in on ME. Not above anyone else, just consistently putting what I needed and wanted on the table alongside everything and everyone else.

I stayed more present through some of the rough bits - feeling my feelings and listening for the messages in them instead of frantically trying to fix or numb, which has definitely been my pattern in the past.

And I‘ve trusted myself to really go for what matters to me.

That‘s looked like 👇🏻

✨ Major decluttering, organising and creating space at home
✨ Pretty impulsively starting a big gardening project (thanks for all your help, mum!)
✨ Having a well-considered balance of sociability time seeing friends but also time to ourselves to reset
✨ Finding ways to work despite having no childcare, which means I‘m really excited about some upcoming events and projects 🙌🏻

… and so actually, I‘m going into the autumn feeling like I DID choose me this summer, exactly as I intended.

I‘d love to know, what did your summer teach you? What do you want to take into autumn, or what are you ready to leave behind? 🍂

01/08/2025

Poor baby! She’s all patched up now 🤕💛

That kind of ask would have felt HUGE to me in the past. Heavy. Awkward. Imbalanced. Like a favour I could never repay. Like I was being too much. Maybe even impossible - 5 years ago I probably would have just (very badly) juggled everything myself in her place.

These days, I know different.

And still, days like today serve as such good reminders for my brain, they reinforcement my new beliefs.

Because I didn’t think twice. I wanted to help! I felt so honoured and trusted.

And it struck me how when there’s love, support comes from generosity can care (not obligation).

So these everyday moments continue rewiring my brain. Asking for help isn’t selfish. It’s human. It’s interdependence. It builds connection, not erodes it.

You deserve to feel safe in asking, too.

Not just when you’re desperate. Not just when you feel it’s ‘justified’. But just because your needs matter and we were never meant to do life all by herself.

Know someone who finds it hard to ask for help? Send this their way and make sure they know you’d feel honoured to support them (and if it’s you - follow for more reminders and unlearning!) 💛

01/08/2025

5 years ago I wouldn’t have.

I’d have just pushed through work and the tiredness.

I’d have spent a week worrying about my clashing appointments and tried any way I could to fit in the original therapy and vaccination appointments, even though it was going to make life really difficult.

I’d have drafted a message to my coach but never sent it, telling myself it was a silly question.

I’d have squeezed in an extra shopping trip, never daring to ‘burden’ my friend.

But… life is so much easier now that I don’t have to figure everything out by myself 😮‍💨

It’s so freeing to be able to just ask - not overthink it, not feel consumed by awkwardness or tension or guilt afterwards. And (said with love not shame - I’ve been there, too!): not waste time worrying about things that are really such a non-issue.

And the most beautiful thing of all:

Most people want to help.
Most people will happily accommodate you if they can.
Most people will feel honoured you trusted them… and know that this means their real self is welcome and safe with you, too.

(And those times when people haven’t wanted to or been able to do what I asked - I‘ve survived those moments, too! And I can show you how.)

What help would you ask for if you knew it was freely available, without an judgment?

… and if you feel like you could NEVER ask for this kind of help, stick around and I‘ll teach you how 💛

Tag a friend who might need this reminder!

30/07/2025

I’d have scoffed at this a few years ago… what kind of difference is that going to make?! 🙄

But isn’t it also kind of a relief?

You don’t need to become some sort of badass boundary queen overnight. You don’t need to change everything about your life

You can start with something as tiny as noticing yourself again after all these years of being on autopilot, just doing what needs to be done.

Let’s just start with noticing what quietly comes up in those moments when you check-in with yourself.

… then we can take it from there ☺️

25/07/2025

This week, life has felt like… a lot 😮‍💨

No childcare. Mostly solo parenting during the week (although my husband has been home more than expected, because he was feeling poorly, too). A sickness bug. My husband’s stolen motorbike. Making time to work (which I adore!). An A&E trip. And this morning another viral rash to keep an eye on 🫠 Keeping everything at home (kind of) afloat.

But still, I know what happens when I put everything I need on pause and decide to ‘just get through it’. And I know exactly how that ends: depletion, resentment, disconnection. It’s not good for anyone.

So messy moment by messy moment, even weeks like this week I’m still claiming the space I need and sharing it with you, too.

Tell me how you’ve considered yourself this week? Or one small shift you really wish you could make? I’d love to hear 👇🏻

03/07/2024

Do you relate? I’d love to know which one resonates the most - leave a comment or drop me a DM ☺️💛

28/06/2024

Here are 2 mistakes I made 👇🏻

Any kind of personal development or healing journey isn’t without its complications. Sometimes there’s a really tough period before things start falling into place.

It’s SO easy at that point to decide that it’s too tricky and give up (which is why l’ve found it’s in that messy middle that my clients need the closest support!), which is what I did several times in the past before finally having my breakthrough moments 💪🏻

The second thing...

We all like to focus on what’s not working, don’t we? 🙈

So easy to keep feeling like there’s more work to do and we’re some sort of ‘incomplete project’.

On a journey like this, sometimes the results can be less tangible if we don’t take the time to notice them 👇🏻

So what are all those little moments that are different?

Because if any of these signs sound familiar, you’re probably doing far better than you think - so let’s celebrate and see HOW FAR YOU’VE COME! 🎉🥳

And if that feels totally unachievable right now and you want a guide, a cheerleader, a safe place? Drop me a DM with the word COACHING and let’s do this!✨

02/06/2024

That‘s it, that‘s the post: if you needed a sign, here it is!

11/05/2024

It was 2021 when I realised it was time. I’d been doing so much personal development for myself, and I kept coming back to this calling of wanting to take a coaching certification… so I trusted that calling.

That feels like a lifetime ago, because since then, I‘ve learned SO much. I‘ve watched countless videos, read so many books, listened endlessly to podcasts. I practiced and reflected and sought feedback and practiced some more. I provided hours of free and low cost coaching and just kept learning (that won’t ever stop!).

But this week, I‘m celebrating! 🥂

I‘m now a fully certified NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) Practitioner and am so pleased and excited about all the new knowledge and techniques I’ve added to my toolkit to support my clients 🥳🎉🍾

In case you’re new here:

I’m a Mindset and Life Coach with one mission: to help you ditch people-pleasing and instead, live a self-directed, peaceful life.

If you’re ready to:

✨ Create more freedom in your life, and know exactly what it is you want
✨ Bring more peacefulness into your life and truly know your worth
✨ Declare once and for all that you deserve more and take solid action to make it happen

Then you’re the type of person I love to help achieve amazing results.

If you’re ready for a massive change, send me a message saying “I’m ready” and I’ll show you how we can work together!

I only have a limited number of spaces, so message me now, and get started changing your life ☺️

I‘m excited you‘re here - thank you for being on this journey with me! 💛

06/05/2024

When I first started coaching, I worked with anyone and everyone. And that was SO important for me to develop my skills and adaptability.

But I noticed that some people’s results were better than others AND that I enjoyed working with some people more than others.

Unsurprisingly, those two things seemed to coincide - not because I enjoyed it more when they got better results (although of course that’s always amazing 🙌🏻), but because there were certain ways those clients approached coaching and their life in general that seemed more aligned with my skill set and approach.

Some clients scoffed at using techniques like meditation, visualisation, tapping and other body-based practices as part of coaching… so I used more traditional goal setting approaches to support them.

But I happen to ADORE those practices and find that using them really supports my clients getting results and integrating changes.

Some clients preferred a very structured approach, so I provided that.

But whilst I do plan my sessions, I love being responsive and meeting you where you’re at in the process. Sometimes, that looks like scrapping any plans and focusing on a particular challenge.

Some clients were very uncomfortable with looking more deeply at their beliefs and patterns (side note: your safety is ALWAYS my priority, so there’s never any pressure). So instead, we focused on strategy and action planning.

But I happen to believe that its our deeply engrained beliefs and habitual patterns that are KEY to creating sustainable change.

And so I’ve decided that it’s time to be completely clear and transparent about how I work at my best and how I approach coaching - because if that aligns with you, if that sounds exciting to you…

That’s when you’re going to get the best results! ✨

It’s a win win! 🪩

If you’re feeling the pull to work together, comment or DM me “COACHING” and let’s chat about next steps ☺️💛

22/04/2024

I turned 34 last week and it’s just put me in such a reflective, grateful mood!

In case you’re new here, I also thought it would be fun to do a little reintroduction ☺️

✨ I live near Wi******er, Hampshire (UK) with my husband, our toddler and our pup Barley. Barley is quite well known in our village, so much so that random people sometimes speak to me like we’re friends 😆

✨ I was a MASSIVE people-pleaser, chronic overthinker and full-time anxiety-riddled worrier for the biggest part of my life. If you knew me then, you probably wouldn’t have known. It didn’t stop me from getting things done like getting through school or university, but the constant stress was slowly eroding me.

✨ I was a social worker for 10 years but became interested in personal development mainly as a way to support myself with my anxiety and people-pleasing. When I went on maternity leave, I took the opportunity to start a coaching certification.

✨ I struggled as a new mum, so initially decided to work with mums… but quite quickly realised that helping women release people-pleasing patterns is my ultimate passion 🔥 I feel so strongly that it affects us in all areas of life from our relationships to parenting to our work and just our general well-being… so it’s my mission to help you set yourself free 🌬️

✨ When I met my husband, I was obsessed with pole dancing and aerial hoop, but a hip injury meant I had to take a break. My husband got me into cycling and we used to go on long (our max was 70 miles) tandem rides. After our wedding, we started ballroom dancing which we LOVED. The pandemic and then our little one arriving put a halt on that, but (for now) we’re bringing back at home dancing date nights 💃🏼🕺🏻

✨ At the moment, I work evenings/weekends because I’m with my little boy in the day. That’s why I work with only few clients at a time to make sure they get my fullest capacity 💛

I’d love to hear about you! Feel free to leave me a comment or my DMs are open, too.

Wherever you are in the world, whatever’s brought you here - I’m sure that was meant to be and I’m grateful for you! 💛

Helen Bryer - Mindset and Life Coach

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