17/09/2022
PAIN ON PAIN... TRAUMATIC PAIN... PSYCHO TRAUMATOLOGY ....
I am one person that I have always achieved greatness through PAIN on PAIN.
1. Because I was told by Ghana Lawyers that I will have to wait for 2 years before I can file my divorce, when the marriage was barely 3 months old, in 2004, I decided to read law and use that time to learn the law and file my own divorce, which I did in 2016 after several failed attempts. I also stayed in that toxic marriage while reading law. So dealing with a marital problem/ mental AGONIES whilst reading law was extremely challenging. On Christmas and Easter, you will find me reading at the School library throughout my legal education.
2. Unable to find jobs because of a book dedication to our current President on "The Fundamental Human Rights and Freedoms", in 2011/2012 to 2015, I went into more writings with my free time. Even that I already had my first book "Women Issues", then later I realised "Disability LAWS" and other unpublished writings.
3. I made a decision to settle with myself and with my daughter in December 2015 for the rest of our lives, just the two of us. I finally got my divorce in 2016 after specializing in divorce from 2012. I focused on Family Law. Even in PAINS of having gone through a solo divorce because 'a chick of it' this man wouldn't have any regard for appearing in court. All documents where served by substituted service. I only asked for the dissolution of the marriage, custody and reasonable access to him. I didn't need any other thing...just to free myself from the shackles of misery.
4. Helping all these women stuck in marital bo***ge was PAIN on PAIN as listening to all their stories only puts me in a flashback mode where it constantly reminded me of my own. Some days, I ask God why he had to take me through all these problems only to find a job for me. This led me to keep writing more books...'Laws on Domestic and Sexual VIOLENCE ', 'Cycle of Abuse', 'Marriage, Divorce and Property Settlement' and many video recordings on the subject matter. Everything is PAIN on PAIN.
5. Finally all these experiences, my own, others etc led be to one conclusion...the psychological consequences of Abuse... leading up to my new book 'The Laws and Psychology of Abuse'. Writing this book is and has been my biggest PAIN on PAIN... the PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA .... THE PAINFUL PAIN ... I call it. The pain that is felt all over the body especially the heart area....the neck, upper back, the chest.. etc. The pain that kept me in bed for 8months... the pain that made the whole year my visit to the hospital and doctors always attending to me... the INESCAPABLE, EXCRUCIATING PAIN. The PAIN that is felt even when you are doing nothing....the PAIN that I had no option than to read about it as a FULL COURSE thus stopping all my other activities just to understand PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA/ PSYCHO TRAUMATOLOGY.... it's a very dark place I will not even wish for my worse enemy.. no... not at all...
Editing my new book was even more painful as I edited over 10 times in soft copies and hard copy. Gosh! I cried, wept, mourned... many times. So difficult when my work has to do with my PAST and PRESENT PAINS.
Like I do as an Advocate, my only option was to expose an abuser. So one person can come into my life and use me to this extent...and even stop my work...I mean the whole Ohenewaa Advocacy brand was shut down because of a PAIN from one person. Little did I know it was that PAIN. I knew someone had hurt me so bad and I was PAINED because I couldn't also tell anyone because of the shame and embarrassment that came with it and because the abuser knew I could never tell anyone. Now I try my best to let it out and all he could do, in addition to causing me that MUCH PAIN was to now jubilate and tell the world that his company doesn't have an agreement with me...WOW...and even threaten to publish my nudes...huh! Oh God! Can people be that wicked?
6. Anyway, I am making new decisions in my life. I am currently tired of ALL MY PAINS. I know I never wished for a career like this. But I can't carry on as an Advocate in the strict sense of fighting for peoples rights anymore. I am only going into education. Just to educate people. If your rights are being violated or contravened in anyway, I can't help with my voice. Go to other Lawyers and pay legal fees. I can only teach people on preventive crime or give prior legal advice because the world out there is very cruel. People will hurt and abuse you and you try to seek justice then those people intensify their evil deeds on you more... these people can evil kill so that their evil deeds and demonic acts can be buried for good. Gosh am shocked... such evil people.
7. Infact I am still dealing with PAIN on PAIN. AND I AM STILL SICK. The NEW PAIN IS PAIN of an outcome of someone who has already caused me so much pain and his behaviours afterwards. Abusers don't really show remorse. They have all the personality traits or disorders in full display. Such a SADISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER.
I am still making new decisions for my life. I think am also considering relocating with my daughter to London. She's almost done with her exams. I am very sick and tired of my environment now.
So Nana Yaw Ampem-Darko can be this wicked? Oh no. So a big company like Ashfoam will think that a weakling like Mary Ohenewaa will just come to their Headoffice and offer free promotions for them. If not for the evil intentions of this their so called Marketing Manager Joe Darko right from the ONSET, how could he have led me to work for his company for free amidst SEXUAL ABUSE AND INCESSANT SEXUAL DEMANDS.
Y'all think this issue can just wipe outta my mind... Naaaa. This is a very serious issue and if I don't deal with it, am gonna go off and stop operating my Advocacy Programmes. Because this kind of PAIN IS TRAUMATIC. It is killing me...that N***a can't go scot free.... Abusers can change.... through penal consequences. And he's the biggest goat I have ever encountered in my entire life.... people will abuse you and will even make merry outta it.
'The chick of it' indeed...
Lawyer Mary Ohenewaa Afful
Harrowing Nightmares
Reading and Writing are my Psychotherapy ... my addiction and what have you.
Gosh! People can be this wicked.