28/11/2023
TELL ME WHAT YOUR SECOND WIFE IS BRINGING INTO THE MARRIAGE ASIDE S*X-Wife Questions Husband
Hello Mr Kosivi, I have been quite worried for about two weeks now. Reason being that, my husband for some time has been telling me something that I find quite weird.
We’ve been married for three years and two months now. I am 33 and he’s 38. We have been blessed with two children and I am currently pregnant with the third born.
So far our marriage has been good and although we have had issues it has not been quite serious to the extent that external people must come in.
I am forced to have this conversation because I need an honest answer from you and your followers.
I am a business woman and I must say that I am successful and so is my husband. He is equally successful.
We have together achieved a lot in the last few years being together as a couple.
My husband married me at a time when I have come out of a very terrible relationship.
Sir, two months ago when we were clocked five years in marriage, the only thing my husband had to tell me was that, he wanted to add another wife.
He categorically said he wanted to add a second wife. I was taken aback by his decision. I thought it was a joke so I just laughed.
A week later, he came up with the conversation that he wanted to confess something to me and the confession was that, he has been cheating on me ever since we got married with a particular lady and that the lady is pregnant and the ladies family wants him to marry her.
I asked him what he really wants. Is it that he wants to marry the lady out of the love he has for her or he’s doing it to please the lady and her family.
He couldn’t answer that question immediately but he later came to tell me he feels he doesn’t need to cheat on me again and that he need the lady as a second wife so he can make everything official.
Mr Kosivi, I don’t know how I managed to catch some sleep that night. I cried my heart out throughout that night. I am six months pregnant and this whole thing is weighing on me.
I have loved my husband with everything in me and despite the money I have and the successes I have chalked, I have been very submissive to my husband. At a point when his business had a low turnout, I was there to cushion him back to his feet.
Why would he do this to me.
I asked my husband what the woman was bringing on board as a second wife and what she does for a living?
He rather got angry and started casting insinuations and telling me not to think low of people and a lot of distasteful words.
Am I not justified in asking what the lady is bringing into the marriage? You wanted a second wife and I want to know the contribution she would make in the marriage apart from s*x. Is it a bad question?
I am angry but I have been very calm in this matter since it started. I haven’t told any family member of mine.
I wouldn’t mind for him going in for the second wife but I want to know what the woman is bringing to spice the marriage.
I am an independent woman and aside that, I know how to keep myself well and treat my husband right but I am really surprised this man had to behave this way.
I feel this man doesn’t respect and value me as a wife. Perhaps he married me for convenience sake. Couldn’t it have been better if he had told me before thinking of dating the lady or even told me prior to us getting married so I know this was what my husband wanted?
Two things I have decided, either I move out from the house and seek for a temporal separation to enable me think through this whole thing or I divorce him and move on with my life.
I am not entirely against a man going in for second wife but the approach must come with respect.
Please help me out sir? What do you make of this second wife thing my husband is talking about and my position.