08/10/2026
9Tips to Ensure the Success of Your Marriage
By Sam Adeyemi Ministries
Marriage is not only important to those who participate; it’s important to God – so much so that there are hundreds of things God says about the sacred union in his Word. In fact, marriage, with all its rewards and challenges, is the very metaphor Christ often uses to describe our individual relationships with Him.
This month, we’re focused on providing practical and applicable ways for you to strengthen your marriage in our Marital Success sermon series. But, even if you are not married or are single and looking to get married one day, these tips will prove meaningful for you when the time is right!
Here are 12 Tips to Ensure the Success of Your Marriage:
1.Have a Plan
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It requires thoughtful planning. Take time out to review your plans for your family’s future. Set goals. Start planning your future today!
2.Quality time
Couples need to take time out to enjoy each other’s company. Make this a regular or twice-a-month, fixed night every month. Make sure this date is “unmovable” and is a priority above all else. Start today!
3.Quickly Forgive
Forgiveness is one of the foundations of building a successful marriage. There will be times when your mate makes mistakes, causes hurt feelings, and even frustration (and you will do the same!). JUST FORGIVE! Let go and let God!
Remember 1 Peter 3:7 says, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
4.Listen!
This is mostly for us men. We have a hard time listening to our partners sometimes. Make it a priority in your Marriage to not just hear your partner, but listen to what your partner is saying in an effort to understand. If you can listen you can communicate better. Listening to the needs of your partner will always keep communication open and will set the stage to help you both endure difficult times.
5.Be Sensitive and proactive
One of the results that married couples achieve with greater intimacy is greater sensitivity to one another’s needs. Being sensitive and tuned into your partner helps to make you proactive about fulfilling their needs, which then increases intimacy. It’s a cyclical effect that yields tremendous results!
6.Don’t Fall Into The “For Granted Effect”
Years of being in holy matrimony can sometimes make us comfortable. Still, it’s important to never take your partner for granted. Even though you have both promised to remain with one another for better or for worse, it’s necessary to understand that their presence is not guaranteed. Be respectful to one another both privately and publicly, cherish your partner, and treat them well every day.
7.Prayer Is Key
Ask the Holy Spirit for help in your Marriage. Take it seriously. Pray together always. Do not leave the Holy Spirit out of your Marriage. The Holy Spirit is your best ally in marriage and when you invite God into your union, you’re never alone! Remember, Matthew 18:20 says, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”
8.Grow together
In our series, we discussed the importance of growing together in Marriage. This is more about carrying each other along and ensuring that you are both headed in the same direction. The Bible says in Amos 3:3, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to meet?” The strength of your marriage depends on individual and collective growth. This tip is so important that we have a whole message on this in the Marital Success Series!
9.Value Leadership
Leadership is important to a successful Marriage. Excellent leadership skills are required – from both partners! Whether you know it or not, your union is an example for so many others in the world. What is your family’s mission statement? It’s surprising to know that most families don’t have one.
