17/04/2022
Easter is the time when we stop to think, look back, appreciate what we have and what we've been through. We rarely really give ourselves credit for it all.
Even worse when others don't allow us to take that credit, saying things that make us feel less about ourselves and our achievements.
I was once told that "my childhood and all I've been through over the years was not that bad" like I didn't deserve to complain or feel bad about myself because million of people around the world have to go through a lot more.
At first I said "true, my life is not as bad" and the moment I said that I thought, so why aren't I 100% happy? Can't I simply enjoy my life, appreciate what I have? Am I just acting like a spoiled child?
No, not even close!!!
Looking back at that situation, I feel really bad for me but also for others who fall into the same trap.
I probably had nice time as a child, I had roof over my head, food on the table and clothes to wear. So I can't really compare my life to current situation in Ukraine or people starving in Africa or terror they live in North Korea. It's not the point to compare yourself, why?
Because my childhood, things I was missing shaped me, and only me. And they are an important part of my life, so nobody really gets the power to make it feel less impactful to me.
If I say I wish I was or had something - I can and should do it and I should be aware of what happened to me over the years and how in influenced my behaviour and my values.
Have you ever need in similar situation? When you opened up about something and in return you heard that dreadful line " it's not so based, what are you complaining about!"
If it hurt you, it left a scar - and only by speaking about it, you get closer to removing it โค๏ธ