21/12/2025
The young women would gather at one of the girls' homes. They’d approach one another, clasp hands, and ask forgiveness for any wrongs that had passed between them; once their reconciliation was completed, they’d embrace – much as on Yom Kippur. Then they’d exchange gifts and set aside a charity tithe for those in need.
Madame Cohen lived at the end of the street and had no children of her own. She’d open her house to all the unmarried girls for an evening of joy and thanksgiving, as was the custom on the night of Eid al-Banat. She liked to remind everyone that this celebration was a charm for a good match. Madame Cohen even allowed me to sneak into the singles’ party. I would sit in a corner, studying each girl – who was prettiest, what she wore. At first they danced indoors, but swept up in excitement they burst into the courtyard, while mothers and grandmothers watched from windows and balconies, accompanying them with ululations.
(Esther Dagan Kaniel, on Eid al-Banat celebrations in her hometown of Souk el-Khemis, Tunisia)
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Today, Rosh Chodesh Tevet, Jewish communities across North Africa celebrate the Festival of the Daughters – Eid al-Banat.
“Festival of the Daughters,” or “the girls’ Rosh Chodesh,” was an intimate, festive women’s holiday observed during Hanukka, devoted to women’s courage, wisdom, strength, and the special bond between them. 👭
In the communities of Tunisia, Djerba, Libya, Algeria and Morocco, women and girls gathered on this day to dance, sing and learn together.
Sometimes the celebration was especially for unmarried women, believed to be a charm for a swift and happy match.
Elsewhere, joint bat mitzvah festivities were held. Often the day functioned as a kind of women’s retreat: a time for reconciliation, shared prayer and communal meals – dairy foods in memory of the milk that Hanukka heroine Judith gave Holofernes, the Assyrian general, and wine recalling his drunken stupor.
The dances echoed the women’s joy at Judith’s safe return home.
Customs varied from place to place. In Tunisia, girls exchanged gift baskets and presents and refrained from work.
In Libya and Djerba, young women visited one another and hosted joyful gatherings. When an engagement was involved, the families of bride and groom swapped gifts, then shared a meal.
As in Tunisia, the Salonikan custom was for girls to ask one another for forgiveness, probably influenced by the penitential customs of the eve of Rosh Hodesh, often called a minor Yom Kippur.
Folklore scholar Dr. Yom-Tov Lewinsky, author of The Book of Festivals, suggested that the holiday’s ancient roots may reach back to the days of Ezra the Scribe. The Book of Ezra recounts that on the first of Tevet, Ezra began a campaign to separate his flock from their foreign, non-Jewish wives. Lewinsky proposed that the daughters of Israel marked this date for generations as a day of gathering and remembrance, when women stand together. This association also linked the festival with Queen Esther, who was taken to Ahasuerus’ royal palace in the month of Tevet – and with the legend of the “women’s banquet” held by her predecessor Vashti at the Persian court.
Photo: Jewish women in Algeria. Courtesy of the National Library of France.
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