18/03/2018
his first birthday
In the living room, having the big sofa all to himself, he continued with watching television. His favorite soaps were on. Absolutely nobody could ever have the audacity to disturb him during his TV time because he won’t give you the chance. “Now, is my TV time and you needn’t disturb me” retorted he.
“Oh! Do whatever you like” was my unsatisfied reply to that. And, I went into my bedroom. To catch some sleep. The TV volume was disturbing my peace of mind, so I had to close the door behind me.
Mother who was taking rest in her bedroom while these things happened was not amused by my behavior. She called me to her room. And, fittingly gave me an earful.
Mothers very well know what, how and exactly when to do it, in order to keep things in the balance.
I sheepishly looked at the clock. 11:45 PM it showed. My faint sleep disappeared in a second. Something struck me. Yes! Today, was the first of March and the second of it was approaching soon. It would be here in 15 minutes. Precisely. Yes!
The second of March! What’s it about? Prior to some days back, I never wondered about it ever in the whole of my life. I need not to do it. Some random day on the calendar. It will come, things will happen and it will go. It will make way for some other day. And, the process goes on. Why is it so hyped, then?
Nope. That day was different. For the whole world it may be just another day. But, for the people who have their birthdays on that day, it is a special one. The second of March. So, got your reason. Now focus.
I crawled to my mother’s room silently. Told her my master plan and asked her to join me. Although, she was a bit hesitant in the beginning, I literally pulled her out of the bed.
We entered the living room. The lights were off. It was pitch dark. Only the flickering light from the TV was lighting his face. He was fast asleep on the sofa itself. And was unaware of our presence.
I switched off the TV, Mother switched on the lights in the same instant. Both of us made a deafening noise simultaneously and started to sing, “…happy birthday to you! …happy birthday to you! …happy birthday dearest BABA! …happy birthday to you!” followed by loud claps and hearty giggles.
Unable to comprehend what had just happened, father was terrified at the abrupt celebration. And the surprised look on his face was the proof. He was pleasantly sleeping on his sofa, like the great King Robert seated on his iron throne but, in no time he was literally clinging on to one side of it.
He stabilized himself in some time and asked the obvious question, “How did you guys know?” I smiled at him from the side. “Oh! We just knew” mother and I spoke in unison.
And in no time the some random day had converted into the birthday of my beloved father.
Although, he laughed with us, I could notice a hint of a distress from the side of his face. I am not sure if mother noticed it or not. He wore glasses anyway, she may not have noticed. But, I’m too sharp about these things. You cannot fox me man.
I gave him a bear hug. Yes, it was necessary. To calm everything down.
Few months ago, I was speaking with him over telephone. He seemed fine. We had a good chat over the everyday happenings. We also had some idealistic discussions. Both of us are very good at that.
Out of nowhere, I started asking him about those times, when he still was a child. And, somehow he became candid and opened up about how he was in his childhood days.
How he would have friends who were smaller in age than him. How he enjoyed the big brother status at home. How happy he was in those days. He actually said, he enjoyed being himself at that point in time.
I was all ears. But, my next question was a serious contender of some kind of an award. It went like, “Father, were there no bad / sad memories then?”
And, after that silence, is what followed for some time.
***Spoiler Alert*** what a ruthless question!
I should be given 500 out of 100 to spoil the mood of a man who is merrily speaking of his childhood days.
We all know how our childhood went. How awesome it was. So was his too. And, I just killed it.
Nevertheless, he calmed himself soon and started speaking. I was overwhelmed, at his words.
He said, “Although I’m the eldest of all the siblings in the family, and everybody respects me for that but, there are many things that I missed. I always felt that I was suited enough for a sense of responsibility. I looked at all of them and was truly happy about life. But, there was this part of me which resented at times. Not at all times but, some of the times.”
He added with a smile, “People would take me for granted and expect the unexpected out of me. I was in charge of fulfilling their needs, happiness, tantrums etc. all the time. I couldn’t expect anything in return. But, then I don’t regret these things of the past.”
I was feeling curious by now and asked him the reason of his resent.
He promptly replied, “Every time if there would be anyone of the kids’ birthdays, I would be the first person to wish him / her, make all the preparations for celebration, take him / her to the temple, bring chocolates for them. Take him / her to the market for shopping. I loved it.”
“But, to my shock, nobody in the family did ever remember when my birthday was. It was disheartening.”
“I don’t ever know if people did not really remember it or they felt like what they could possibly do for an elder brother who is like a father figure to all of them. Nobody did wish me. I never have seen my birthday, my happiness, ever made a note of in this house.”
Enough said. I really felt for him. It would have hurt him badly. Keeping silent was all that I could do.
And that was it. It was enough for Sherlock “myself” Holmes to understand the scenario first hand and then devise the next plan of action. Something was about to change. Things were planned.
And, here today both I and Mother, executed our plan to somewhat moderate success.
Moderate because the celebration was far from over. Although, he thought that we are done, I had some evil plans in store. Even mother was unaware of it. No one but, me. The master planner.
On the evening, I came late from office. Deliberately. At around 08:30 PM. After a long day at work, I looked tired. Father sat there, in the living room sipping tea and looked into the newspaper. He noticed me and asked what happened. He seemed unaware of anything and I liked it.
I pulled the tea poi to the center of the room and kept the Chocó-Vanilla cake on the top of it. Brown colored cake with a happy birthday message. ‘BABA’ was scribbled on it in blue cream.
Father instantly knew that I was acting to be tired till now and he started to smile. He said, “I sensed that you are up to something. You crazy man.”
“Am I a two year old that you have brought me a cake?”
I said, “Oh! You just come over here. You don’t have to become a kid to celebrate your birthday.” Mother also came to the living room, to be part of the cake cutting. It was a pleasant surprise for her too.
I handed him the knife and started to sing the birthday song again. But, halfway through, I had to stop. Because father did not cut the cake. “What happened now?” I wondered. But, something was missing.
He asked me to call all the little kids in the colony so that they can also enjoy the party. How sweet of him. I went out and called all the 13 kids that lived there. I had no idea there was such a whooping number of kids in the neighborhood. But, father knew and that is what he was doing.
He called the smallest kid in the lot, Tiku who is barely 3 years and put him on his lap. Holding his tiny hands he cut the cake. Everyone on the top of their voices was singing the happy birthday song for him. He cut it into many pieces and distributed all of it to the kids.
To himself he licked his fingers. My GOD he was beaming with happiness. Well, after so many days, I was seeing him laugh like that. Enthusiastically. Like a child. And, I felt proud.
I never asked the Almighty ever to give me anything. HE still gave me too much for the day. Thank you.
The fun continued. And, after it ended, everybody went home smiling with his / her piece of cake.
But, the story didn’t end here my friends. When everybody was gone, I was still there. Father was still smiling with happiness and I thought it was the right time to crash his laughter.
I took out the keys of his brand new Hero Maestro scooter from my pocket and placed them on his palm.
“A birthday is far from over, until we have given the birthday present” said I.
Oh! My GOD! You should have taken a look at his face then. It was like lightning and thunderbolt striking at the same time. He was in a sense of shock and could barely speak anything. His swallowed everything minimum 2-3 times. And, made an awed gesture. He was taken aback by a pleasant surprise.
He couldn’t keep it any longer and went inside. Mother said, he went into the bathroom. It took a good 15 minutes for him to show up. He only came after he was normal. Too eager to do it, I finally showed him his new vehicle. We also took a ride together. And, funnily chatted along till late in the night.
Many days have passed since his birthday. He rides his scooter every day. He is happy. And, so am I.
Although, he never brought up this topic ever again in our discussion but, I still came to know about how he proudly told his friends and colleagues about how his son had celebrated his birthday and what gift he had given him. I didn’t need him to do that. But, I knew he felt so good about it.
We were happy. And, deep down inside, we both knew that we shared the deepest bond. That, of a father and his son. A simple, delicate and trustworthy relationship. We knew we were best friends. Forever.
And, that was how we celebrated his birthday. On some random date in March. And, made him smile.
And, more so, he won’t be resentful anymore. He will be grateful to his wife and kids for how they crashed his “first” birthday and gave him a lifetime worth of memories.
“In search of the Almighty, unaware, he roamed around from temple to mosque, church to gurudwara. But, couldn’t find HIM. Tired to the core and displeased from within, he returned to his parents.
Soon after that he realized, GOD in a tangible form resided in them.”
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