The Femme Realm, Delhi (2025)

28/07/2021

Watch, analyse and discuss these two amazing short films on cyber crime/ cyber bullying with us in a Movie Screening organised by PLC Naaz in collaboration with The Femme Realm. 🎥

Date: 30th July, 2021
Venue: Google Meets
Time: 5:30pm-6:30 pm

Only 2 days to go. Register now or DM us to enter the event!

(Link in Bio)

26/07/2021

We heartily congratulate Saikhom Mirabai Chanu who not only brought home the first olympic medal for India in the olympic games this year, but also won the hearts of many indians who erupted in a shower of love, support and appreciation for the silver medalist, some labeling her "the daughter of India".
The reality though, is that the daughters of north east india are harassed, abused(both verbally and physically),called racial slurs and constantly subjected to racial discrimination. North East indians are RARELY represented in media, television or films aside from small, stereotypical side characters. Is it because they did not do a ground breaking patriotic feat for the rest of the country to very conveniently label them "a matter of pride for the country" ?

North East Indians are not your pawns to claim only when it benefits you or your pride.

This post serves as a reminder to include north east indians in your conversations surrounding india/indians and treat them as one of your own even when they are not world champions or olympic medalists.

▪︎Caption and design by Aditya Thokchom▪︎

25/07/2021

“Many feel that woman have poor navigation skills and cannot judge the distances as well as men. Are all these allegations about woman drivers are true? Studies conducted by scientists in Germany show that Testosterone, a male hormone is responsible for spatial ability in a person. This spatial ability gives you the skills to assess spaces and judge distances which are essential for driving. Since the testosterone will be less in a woman, some of these may be true”, says an article by tutorialspoint.

Often this is used as a research paper to substantiate the conjecture that women are bad drivers by innumerable people. However, how much of it is true?

Find out in our blog page.
https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/25/women-are-bad-drivers/

▪︎Caption and Design by Ananta Dutta Choudhury ▪︎

23/07/2021

"If it's not intersectional, it's not feminism"
In this emerging era of wokeness and the youth wanting to be more politically and morally correct, feminism has been a very convenient movement for privileged people to hop on, without realising the need for it to be more inclusive to more marginalized communities.
"Intersectionality" is a term coined by Dr. Kimberlé Crenshaw who describes intersectionality as "A prism for seeing the way in which various forms of inequality often operate together and exacerbate each other."
Learn more about intersectional feminism in our blog. ( Link in Bio )
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21/07/2021

The Seed of Gender Disparity

‘’Well, his Maths teacher is a woman, you know? No wonder they didn‘t ace the quiz this year.’‘

‘’Did you hear? They hired a woman to teach the children cricket. Was she the only candidate or what?‘’

“Ha! They would be lucky if they don‘t resemble bleached whales by the end of the year, let alone win the championship.’‘

‘’Oh my god, did you hear? Her husband was at the cart today; buying vegetables. God knows what else she must make the poor fellow do at home.“

‘’Oh, when is she home anyways? Day and night, at her office. Now, we all know what she must be doing there, don‘t we?’‘

‘’Her son started crying at the football practice today. Imagine, started crying! Don‘t they teach the boy anything?’‘

‘’You should have seen the sight. Crying for his mummy, like a girl!‘’

‘’Jeez, what is he wearing? A pink shirt! Somebody should go and tell his parents that they have a son, not a daughter.‘’

Common, isn‘t it? For that kid holding on to his elder’s hand and staring up to that aunty at the tailor‘s shop, or that uncle at a house party, or his father, as he complains to his colleagues, or his mother, as she swears at what-the-world-is-coming-to-these-days, on phone with her friends.

For that kid, holding on to his elder‘s hand, and soaking up their words, quietly understanding that men aren’t supposed to wear pink shirts when outside, or cry when they get hurt, or step out to buy groceries. Women shouldn‘t spend hours working at the office, or try to teach Maths or Cricket; it would be their fault only if the trophy doesn’t come home.

Whenever we suggest that a person was not or will not be able to do a job, just because they were born as a man or as a woman, we create an environment where gender stereotyping becomes a living, breathing existence. The same environment, where our children shall grow to become a part of the never-ending oppressive cycle of gender disparity.

Continue reading: https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/21/the-seed-of-gender-disparity/

•Caption by Anantinee Mishra•
•Design by Ananta Dutta Choudhury•

20/07/2021

Is ignoring cyber crime / cyber bullying the only solution?🤔

Greetings from Pink Legal Naaz and The Femme Realm🙋‍♀️🙋‍♂️

We are thrilled to present to you our first collaborative event -”Movie Screening”📽

We heartily invite you to join us in the screening of the short films - ‘Naked’, directed by Rakesh Kumar & featuring Kalki Koechlin and ‘Locker Room’, directed by Greta Nash.

Both these short films compel us to think hard upon the inexplicable question -’Is ignoring cyber crime / cyber bullying the only solution?’
The screening will be followed by an engaging discussion on various aspects of cybercrime.

Let’s not be bystanders in this era of awareness !!

Book your seats here- https://forms.gle/L2c46M1mn7bUauXt8

(Find the link in our bio OR write "interested" in caption below and we will dm you the link)

Grab some popcorn and cold drinks and enjoy with us!🍿🍹😊

Date- 30th July 2021
Time- 5:30- 6:30PM
Venue- Google Meet

For any queries, DM us or ask away in the comments !

16/07/2021

Internalised Misogyny

“Misogyny (/mɪˈsɒdʒɪni/) is hatred or contempt for women or girls. It is a way of keeping women at a lower status than men. In other words, misogyny maintains and enforces sexism” ~Wikipedia

“Girls are not as good as boys when it comes to science”

“You should get a male physics teacher. The female ones aren’t worthy”

“What are you wearing oh my god?! I can see your stomach. You have no sense or what?”

“Stop staring at the mobile! No man wants to marry a blind girl!”

“Wear Shorts? You want to be a failure like other girls?”

“You won’t be able to do it. It’s a man’s job”

“Ew please shave your arms if you are wearing sleeveless”

Being a woman, I have had to face countless judgements like these in my real life. However, were you visualising rude sexist men in your head as you read through these phrases? If yes, then you’re wrong. It were women who passed these misogynistic statements to me over the course of my life.

I am certain numerous women have had similar experiences where they were subjected to misogyny and sexism by other fellow women. This is known as Internalised Misogyny : Misogyny emanating from within the women community (i.e. internal) and not from men. If you dig deep into your brain, you will realise that you too might have partaken in this, at least once in your life. Statements like “I am not like other girls”, “She wears so much makeup”, “I eat a lot, unlike other girls who don’t eat at all”, “You should have waxed, it looks hideous”, “I like to befriend boys because girls are so melodramatic”, “I believe in humanism, not feminism” and so on are commonly used by young women to bring down other women so as to elevate their individual stature.
But Why?

Continue reading: https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/16/internalised-misogyny/

•Caption by Ananta Dutta Choudhury•
•Design by Gautam Bisht•

10/07/2021

Toxic Masculinity- what an offensive term, ain’t it? These feminists I swear! All they want is to tear down men!

Wait wait wait…Hold your horses and hear me out, alright?

Have you ever heard these phrases?

“Abe ladki ki tarah kya bhaag raha hai be!”

“Strong boys don’t cry”

“Mard ko dard nahi hota”

“Abe Pink kyu pahana hai, ladki hai kya?”

If you have heard them and you still find nothing wrong with it, I want you to read them again. And again. Until you figure out what exactly is out of place.

These phrases are a manifestation of our society’s rigorous and extreme gender roles. Preventing boys from freely expressing themselves and chaining them to the shackles of sexism just to make them fit into the ‘masculine’ category is how we define Toxic Masculinity. Masculinity isn’t toxic in itself. It is one of the most wonderful and beautiful expressions out there. It is only when gender roles are enforced in the name of Masculinity that it becomes toxic and claustrophobic.

While in today’s day and age, at least in high societies, girls applying for leadership positions, wearing a pantsuit or having their hair cut short are acceptable activities but men opting for nurturing vocations like teaching and nursing,donning a beautiful ball gown or having long hair is demeaning, shameful, appalling and intolerable, to say the least. Men who try to break free from these invisible chains are constantly pushed back into the box until they themselves become regressive members of society who push forward the cycle of suppression.

Some common toxic masculinity traits perpetuated by the society include men trying to work things out on their own and not seeking help. Be honest, do you feel that asking your girlfriend or wife for financial assistance is embarrassing and shameful and that it should be your job to provide for her and not the other way around? Guess what, you are a victim. Everyone needs help sometimes. Exhibiting your vulnerability and asking for help will not make you any less of a man.

Continue reading: https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/10/toxic-masculinity/

•Content by Ananta Dutta Choudhury•
•Design by Aditya Thokchom•

10/07/2021

they’ll tell you
you’re fat
that you need to lose weight in order to fit in
that the weight of your own existence
is defined by the stretch marks
that steadily go across your arms.

they’ll tell you
your brows are bushy
that the tapestry of hair which joins the two ends,
the unibrow
is a manly gesture.

they’ll tell you
your dark circles look awful
that they resemble the eyes of a raccoon
that they are incapable of transmitting the light within.

they’ll make you believe that the sole purpose of your existence
is to thrive between the materialism of the world
that your eyes, your brows, your arms, your legs
define your nebula.

so you’ll run and you’ll push
and apply the defective cosmetics being sold
on amazon at $5.99
until you outrun yourself.

and then the world will applaud
the rain will feel hard-
the somber sunshine will dawn upon you.

so then you’ll blame it on constellations,
on the alignment of stars
that a particular moment
of a particular day
was doomed
which brought you to this
claustrophobic fate
you now call life.

and it’d be too late to realize-
you would’ve already lost yourself by then.

and then they’ll tell you to be fearless
to battle it out with the world
which subconsciously envies you
they’ll tell you to stand up for yourself
to scream, to shout
right into the void

until you’re heard
until you’re hurt.

so you’ll learn to be brave
stand up on your own feet
you’ll admire the twinkling stars
so bright, so blazing
as if they’ve got nothing to lose.

but you, my dear-
too, are set ablaze
you too, have nothing to lose,

because no one can ever do
worse
than what has already happened to you.

•Content by Kashish Nathani•
•Design by Aditya Thokchom•

Read more: https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/10/they-them/

06/07/2021

The mother to the child in the womb, woman.
The wife to the too naïve, subdued husband, woman.
The caring sister to the aggressive brother, woman.
The rebel daughter-in-law to the patriarchal family, woman.
The career oriented, zealous scholar: woman, is that you?

How could you even dare?

“I am not sorry.”

“keep me chained, bruise my heart;
make me cry, make me sob-
haunt my world through the darkest of nights,
make me drown while I’m grasping for breath,
and you can do anything,
anything, really
but I assure you-
I will make it to the shore.
I will strive my way out, I’ll drown, I’ll fear, I’ll fall apart-
But in the end,

I will fly.

I’ll fathom the depths
which the curious writer once left to muse-
that all your presumptuous beliefs
and the disguised scars you once left on me,
with the bruised faces and the broken bones–
the splintered selves and the shattered stones
will shimmer from a star which you thought
burnt out long ago, slowly and steadily.
but no, it didn’t.

it was biding its time, mapping out its existence
it was breathing, it was thriving-
it was creating a universe which the world was yet to behold
and now, it has been brought to existence.

to defy you.

so, then I will tame galaxies
cross time zones in a minute,
and love the sunlight like it’s my favorite song.

I will scream my name out into the void,
into those shallow waters
with those grayish blue pebbles, which you once threw on me.

and you know what else?

I will be heard.

and then my voice will echo from the sunshine you barely left
from the crippling window of that summer barn
where I wept until the rain fell down.

the things that you did, the things that you made me do
will look back and haunt you, one day
and you’ll be left wondering how you ever ignited that flame.

but that flame won’t burn me down, never me-
because this is what I always was,
and this is what I always will be-

Untamed.”

•Content by Kashish Nathani•
•Design by Aditya Thokchom and Gautam Bisht•

Read more:
https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/06/untamed/

06/07/2021

♪ ♬“Ghadeeeeeee, pehale istemaal kare phir vishwas kare” ♬ ♪

Did you sing along in your mind?

Did you visualise a woman wearing a white kurta and holding the Ghadi detergent pack in her hand? Guess what? I did too. And so did most of the people. Because that is what our society has made us believe- to associate the job of washing clothes with a woman.

Our society believes there are specific roles assigned to each gender due to their “physiological differences” and one mustn’t overstep the boundaries defined by those roles.

Housework, cooking, taking care of the children, being modest and soft spoken are the qualities we associate with a woman whereas working outside 9 to 5, fixing the tube light, changing tyres and receiving the door every time the mailman asks for the “head of the family” are attributes we associate with the men.

These are termed as gender roles. Isn’t it weird?

When did these rules get laid out? Who laid them? Why do we still continue to follow them?

Looking back, when humans were hunters and gatherers, these roles didn’t exist. Both men and women hunted, both fought the predators, both helped to build a shelter. However, as we moved towards the commencement of civilization, people started doing separate tasks to improve efficiency. Men started working on the fields and women stayed inside taking care of children.

This division of labour, over the years, transitioned into claustrophobic gender roles which defined not only what kind of jobs men and women could do, but also how they were supposed to act, think and behave.

Men are strong. They don’t exhibit emotions. They make practical, rational and logical decisions. Thus, they should take over leadership roles. Women are weak, emotional and are easily influenced. They should work inside the house and care for their children. Even if they want to take up jobs, they should pick up the ones which are considered feminine-Nursing, teaching, house help and so on.

Continue reading: https://thefemrealm.wordpress.com/2021/07/06/the-gender-roles/

•Content by Ananta Dutta Choudhury•
•Design by Aditya Thokchom and Gautam Bisht•

06/07/2021

“Talk slowly”, they say.”
Don’t even let your whispers be heard.”
“Get married, get settled;
learn to subordinate your heart to your mind.”

The reckoning memories of her bitter past came haunting,
the wilderness of her soul-caged and trapped like a wounded bird;
The debilitated pieces of her heart falling apart.
If the cure for all good and bad girls is to get married-
then what about the fearless, ambitious ones?

The light must shine in every home,
A ray of hope must pe*****te the darkest of walls,
The hidden, deepest scar must be embraced,
The depth of your belief must be unraveled,
To get back up; to rise again-
And you must find a way.

She broke away from the chains that bound her;
took a gentle leap of faith, freed her spirit from the reckless world,
braved her mind; and reconciled her heart.

This chapter ended. Her story didn’t.

And then she conquered all lands unexplored,
All empires that were wrecked,
All dreams once abandoned,
All skies she feared to fathom.

She became the girl of her dreams- Fierce.

Content by Kashish Nathani
Design by Aditya Thokchom and Gautam Bisht

06/07/2021

Meet our Head of Design

Aditya Thokchom is an 18 year old high school graduate, currently based in New Delhi. Creativity, music and passion flows through his bloodstreams which is pretty evident in the fact that he is a great admirer of art, every form of art, particularly visual storytelling and filmmaking. Being a keen learner, he never shies away from expanding his knowledge and skill set. Truly a connoisseur of music, his playlist mostly includes artists like Beyoncé, Sza, Doja Cat, Victoria Monét and Bruno Mars. He also likes to edit, design and sing in his freetime.

06/07/2021

Meet our Head of Content Writing

Ananta has always been an inquisitive person who pays heed to her surroundings and makes an effort to understand various mentalities. Learning about different opinions and ideas, developing broad knowledge and incorporating them in her life is an imperative for her. She has been questioning the unspoken rules of society since she was a child and is making an endeavour to seek the answers via The Femme Realm platform.

06/07/2021

Meet our Head of PR

Sana Srivastava is a 17 year old girl from New Delhi, India who is a dog lover. She is someone who has the ability to motivate people when they are at their lowest . She is a trustworthy friend who is empathetic and a good listener, someone you can talk your heart out to and certainly your secret will be safe with her. Despite having a sensitive personality she still knows how to handle a situation aptly. She is a foodie, who has recently developed an interest in cooking, and she loves to experiment with different recipes . A music lover who always has her earphones plugged in listening to bollywood songs, that’s Sana. Also if she is in a bad mood, watching harry potter can easily uplift her as she is a potterhead!

06/07/2021

Meet our Head of Logistics

A digital craver, martials artist and into professional gaming, yes a guy too busy being lazy and hyperactive (on coffee). Gautam Bisht is an 18 year old high school graduate, residing in New Delhi, India. He will make you see him as a shy and somewhat arrogant person, but don’t let this confuse you. Just as you start knowing him and bam, you see a completely different side of him.

06/07/2021

Meet our Founder

Kashish Nathani is a 17 year old girl from New Delhi, India. With strong oratory skills and deep-flowing creativity, she is analytical and convincing, but most of all- she is one of the kindest people you’ll ever come across. Having a brimming passion for both business and literature, she finds solace in penning down her thoughts and expressing her feelings through words. An extrovert by nature, she loves meeting new people and exploring different ideas. When not reading novels, or hanging out with her friends, you’ll find her jamming to Taylor Swift songs in her room.

06/07/2021

The Femme Realm is a blog promoting gender equality and shattering gender roles in society, focusing on women empowerment, tackling the issues of body shaming, overcoming domestic abuse and violence, and promoting self-love among women all over the world.

Our name- The Femme Realm proclaims our ideology and our beliefs. ‘Femme’ is a metaphor for females or the feminine qualities possessed by women, as perceived by the typical gender roles in the society, and ‘Realm’ is an archaic word for kingdom. This brings forth the idea of a kingdom run by women, battling it out with patriarchy and constantly rebelling against the gender roles assigned to them, until all that’s left of male chauvinism is mere nothingness.

We do believe that there is some kind of fierceness associated with being a strong, independent woman and living life on your own terms. And we’re here to promote that fierceness, the fire that runs deep within your soul- to be the woman you’ve always wanted to be.

With weekly posts on our blog and on our Instagram/Facebook/LinkedIn handles, we aim to bring a change in the mindset of the youth towards women and feminism in general. Everyone deserves a chance to be heard, and to express their stories, in turn enlightening and paving the way for others- describing their challenges, the victories, the pitfalls, but most of all we are keen on building a safe space and community for women, where we have each others’ backs.

The future is female, after all.

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