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09/10/2020

08/10/2020

The need to control each and every outcome can cause friction between couples. Lets take chores for example. While its justified to expect the other to contribute, how to complete the task should be left to the doer. Its simply about the learning curve sometimes. Since you have done the task a thousand times you probably know the optimum way to get it done. On the other hand when someone does it for the first time they will surely take a route that logically makes sense to them and probably tangential to yours. It will take a few iterations for them to get it right which still may not be to your level of perfection.
What to do now? Yell, Nag, belittle… probably!! Though that will get you nowhere but cause a rift in your relation.
True, it is easer to do the task yourself but then how many of those will you do by yourself? And should you?
Once the task has be assigned let your partner figure it out. Openly share your views on how you feel the task should be done and then let them do it. Most importantly accept the task the way it is done by trusting your partners instincts and intentions.
If the diaper is one backwards, so be it!
Take your attention away from the quality of the task to building the quality of your relation. Everything will fall in place.

08/10/2020

The need to control each and every outcome can cause friction between couples. Lets take chores for example. While its justified to expect the other to contribute, how to complete the task should be left to the doer. Its simply about the learning curve sometimes. Since you have done the task a thousand times you probably know the optimum way to get it done. On the other hand when someone does it for the first time they will surely take a route that logically makes sense to them and probably tangential to yours. It will take a few iterations for them to get it right which still may not be to your level of perfection.
What to do now? Yell, Nag, belittle… probably!! Though that will get you nowhere but cause a rift in your relation.
True, it is easer to do the task yourself but then how many of those will you do by yourself? And should you?
Once the task has be assigned let your partner figure it out. Openly share your views on how you feel the task should be done and then let them do it. Most importantly accept the task the way it is done by trusting your partners instincts and intentions.
If the diaper is one backwards, so be it!
Take your attention away from the quality of the task to building the quality of your relation. Everything will fall in place

05/10/2020

03/12/2019

The most important lesson of them all!!

In the second episode of Twice as Wise, Deepak shares a life lesson he received in a hostel where people check-in to die! Watch. Reflect. Share.

30/04/2019

Conflict is often seen as mutually opposite desires of parties where the perception is if one side gets what they want other will remain unfulfilled. This causes anxiety and tends towards altercation. This perception of 0 or 100 is our biggest failure. There are 99 other numbers between 0-100 where the solution to our conflict lies.

20/01/2018

Divorced Couples committed parents