Life And Relationship stories n Realities

09/11/2025

**USIUGUSE MWILI WA MWANAMKE K**A VILE UNAMINYA PARACHICHI**

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Wanaume wengi wanadhani tendo la ndoa ni nguvu pekee, lakini ukweli ni kwamba **mwanamke ni kiumbe wa hisia kabla ya kuwa mwili.**
Usiuguse mwili wake kwa haraka au kwa nguvu kana kwamba unaminya parachichi.

Mwanamke anahitaji **kuguswa kwa upole, utulivu, na hisia za kweli** — k**a vile unashika kitu laini chenye thamani kubwa usichotaka kukivunja.

Anapoguswa kwa upendo, akili yake, nafsi yake, na mwili wake vinaungana.
Hakuna uzuri wa mapenzi unaopita kuguswa kwa heshima na umakini.

Wanaume wengi hawajui siri hii: mwanamke akihisi salama na kupendwa, mwili wake unajibu kwa upendo wa ajabu. Lakini ukimgusa bila utulivu, bila maneno mazuri, bila maandalizi ya hisia, anahisi maumivu badala ya raha.



Kwa hiyo, kabla ya kumgusa, **mguse moyo wake kwanza.** Maneno yako, sauti yako, na tabia zako nje ya chumba ndizo zinazomjenga awe tayari kukukaribisha. Ukijifunza kumshika kwa upole k**a unavyoshika *sufi* laini, hutahitaji nguvu — upendo wako utamfanya ajiachie mwenyewe.
Na hapo ndipo mapenzi ya kweli yanapozaliwa: si kwenye nguvu, bali kwenye **hisia safi, upole, na heshima.**

09/11/2025

Mambo (3) ya Kufanya K**a Unataka Mwanaume Akupende Mpaka Watu Wahisi Umemloga

Wanawake wanapenda kutumia nguvu kubwa katika mahusiano, lakini nikikuambia huhitaji hiyo nguvu utaniamini?
(1) Mwanaume Akikuletea Zawadi, Shukuru na Furahia

Mwanaume akiamua kukuletea zawadi, hata k**a hujaipenda sana, shukuru na uifurahie. K**a ni chakula, pika siku hiyo hiyo au ifanye iwe siku maalum. K**a ni nguo, vaa siku hiyo hiyo au kesho yake na mwambie, "Nimeshindwa kuvumilia, imenipendeza sana!" Usifanye iwe k**a nguo ya kawaida, ifanye iwe spesho.

Mwanaume akiona unathamini zawadi zake, atazidi kukupenda na hata kukuletea zawadi mara kwa mara mpaka utashangaa. Lakini k**a huthamini sahu kabisa kukuletea chochote!

(2) Kabla ya Kuomba Pesa, Omba Ruhusa Kwanza

Hakuna kitu kinampa raha mwanaume k**a kuona mwanamke wake anamuheshimu hata kwa mambo madogo. Wanaume wanapenda kuhisi kuwa wao ni viongozi wa familia, na unavyomuomba ruhusa hata kwa vitu vidogo, anajisikia kuwa anaheshimiwa.

Badala ya kusema:

"Naomba pesa ya saluni,"
Sema: "Mpenzi, naomba ruhusa niende saluni."
Badala ya kusema:

"Naenda kwetu kusalimia,"
Sema: "Mama yangu anaumwa, naomba ruhusa nikaone hali yake."
Badala ya kusema:

"Nataka kesho tukale out,"
Sema: "Naomba kesho tukale out k**a utakuwa na nafasi."
Hii inamfanya mwanaume ajisikie wa thamani na hata ukimuomba kitu kikubwa atakupa.

(3) Acha Ubahili – Jua Kumpa Mume Wako Upendo Kabla Hajapotea

03/05/2024

KAKA HII NI YA LEO IJARIBU

Kaka mshike Sele wako mlaze juu ya Aisha uwe unajivuta juu na kushuka chini uume uteleze juu ya mashavu au mdomo wa uke yaani ukijivuta unatelezea unapita kwenye kisimi chake lazima achanganyikiwe

Au mshike Sele uwe unaapigapiga kwenye kisimi chako tapa tapa tapa au upapasie pale kwenye kisimi chake unakitandaza(unakuwa k**a unakipigapiga na kichwa cha mzee) unakuwa k**a unakibujua juu au kitandaza kwa kukisugua na kichwa cha mzee.

Valisha vidole vyenu, muweke Sele kisha hakikisha hujamalalia (hamgusani) engemea kikononyako yako, uwe unaipeleke yote kisha unaitoa inabaki kichwa tu kisha unairudisha tena yote utakuwa usikia tii tii k**a unakutana na vizigiti

Utaona anavyonyanyua kiuno kiifaata au kuziuma lips za midomo yake ishara ya inagusa kunako.

Kaka akiwa amelala chali hivyohivyo wewe lala mtengeneze alama ya V yaani wewe uelekee upande wako uguze kila kona za kuta za Aisha

Au anguka kubata (kiupende) kisha peleka taratibu yaani muwe k**a bata jike na dume wanavyooishanaga mwishoni viungane viuno tu

Style nzuri ni ile unapeleka sele mzima na unamtoa anabaki kichwa tu kisha unampeleka tena ukikaribia kukitupa ndipo uende pah pah pah mpaka ukitupe kisha uheme k**a unataka...

Yawezekana huwa unadondosha udanda (mate) yawezekana huwa ulalamika, unajilaumu au unahema tu kila mwanaume akikitupa huwa na mwitiko wake inategemea mtu na mtu

01/05/2024

15 RULES OF COURTSHIP...

1. Don't go into it if you are not ready for marriage in the next 2 or 5 years max!

2. End all relationships with all your EX and focus on your fiance/fiancee. If you can't end all past relationships then leave your partner alone and marry all your EX. Ex means extinct. Let your relationships with them especially if it had been s*xual/romantic go into extinction!

3. Talk, talk, talk! Courtship is for talking. Talk out your differences, marital expectations, vision, dreams, goals.

4. Know their weaknesses, see if you can cope with them in marriage.

5. Ladies, learn how to submit to his leadership.

6. Guys, learn how to lead with love and by example.

7. No romance is allowed, you are not yet married.

8. No s*x, unless you are looking for serious trouble.

9. Don't do his house chores, you are not yet his wife. Don't empty all your bank account to please her, you are not her Automated Teller Machine (ATM).

10. Always pray and study the word together, they help you grow spiritually.

11. Be proud of each other. Flaunt each other shamelessly. Celebrate, admire, praise and prize each other above others. No pet names please, they will turn you on.

12. No meeting in the dark or behind closed doors.

13. No clubbing and partying.

14. Avoid all form of sin in your courtship.

15. Stay holy, pure and heaven bound.

Remember: Readiness is a must in entering marriage life. I hope these will be helpful as a guide to our younger generation in preparing marriage life.May the Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless us all.

01/05/2024

YOU CANNOT TALK TO BREASTS OR A P***S

You cannot talk to a va**na.

You cannot talk to buttocks.

You cannot talk to a p***s.

You cannot talk to breasts.

You cannot talk to a c**t.

You cannot talk to a Prado, or a gold necklace.

Commitment is not about the above mentioned things. Commitment is about two human spirits walking together. That is why when you chase after butts, breasts, p***ses and va**nas; you end up feeling empty. After that heated s*x session you thought you really wanted, you lie naked with someone you don't connect with and you feel used; for some, they keep repeating this and dig themselves deeper in emptiness, they have more s*x to nurse the emptiness only to feel more used.

That's why when you chase after material things you end up feeling empty because they don't satisfy your inner being; gold, cars, expensive gifts don't impress the spirit. A human spirit understands the language of a human spirit, the language of love, not physical gratification.

Commitment is meant for companionship. Companionship needs your inner being connecting with another person's inner being. Where you two get to be real with each other, you get to have someone to talk to, someone who understands you, someone who cares for you, someone with your best interest at heart. Blessed are you if you have that someone. That someone to grow old with, that someone to talk with over the phone, to cuddle up on the sofa with, that someone to have pillow talks with, that someone who needs you, who longs to know what is on your mind, how is your spirit, that someone who gets you. The greatest human need is to have someone who makes you feel you belong. There are so many lonely people who wish to kiss loneliness goodbye, lonely people who are tired of heartless and loveless s*x and tired of material things that cannot be talked to or connected with.

Every day, billions of people log into social media looking for just someone to talk to. They look at their WhatsApp contacts, t

17/04/2024

**UMEHANGAIKA KUTAFUTA NA MUME WAKO ANAKUJA KULA MWANAMKE MWINGINE!**

Wakati ulipokutana na mume wako mlivyokuwa bado vijana, ndiyo mlikuwa mnaanza kazi au hata kazi alikuwa hana lakini kwa kifupi ni kwamba umehangaika naye kuanzia chini mpaka mnanunua gari la kwanza bado mlikuwa mnajibana. Baada ya miaka 12 na zaidi Mungu na wanawabariki mnakuwa na kila kitu mlichokiomba, kuna changamoto ya ndugu kuongea maneno mabaya kuhusu wewe lakini hiyo unashukuru Mungu unaweza kupambana nayo.

Siku moja mume wako kwenye gari lenu, nasema lenu kwa kuwa umechangia kuanzia shilingi mia ya kwanza katika kuitafuta, yaani pamoja na kwamba kaandika majina yake lakini hata yeye kwenye nafsi yake anajua bila wewe kusingekuwa na kitu, basi katika kufanya usafi unakuta chupi ya k**e ambayo ishavaliwa, unakasirika unamuuliza mwanamume anakwambia ni rafiki yangu nilimuazima gari.

Anampigia mpaka na simu anakuomba msamaha, lakini wewe si mjinga unajua kuwa rafiki yake hawezi kufanya hivyo, lakini kwa kuwa bado unampenda na ukikumbuka mlipotoka basi unajifanya mjinga kweli unakubali. Lakini haiishii hapo, unakuta kuna namba inampigia sana mume wako, haijasajiliwa au ina jina la kiume au la mtu unayemjua ila inampigia sana.

Ukiangalia meseji hakuna meseji hata moja ni k**a zimefutwa, lakini mume wako naye anakua bize sana kwenye simu, mwanzo simu mlikuwa mnashikiana ila sasa hivi hata ukiishika kwa bahati mbaya huchunguzi anakua makali sana. Unaichukua ile namba kuifuatilia jina mtandaoni unakuta ni kabinti kadogo ka miaka k**a 24 au 25 hivi, kila siku kanampost mume wako.

Mwanzo kalikuwa kanapost vipande vipande labda kwa nyuma kanapost mgongo, mara mkono wake kashikana na mume wako, hujakaa sawa kanapost miguu, au kanapost mume wako kageuka upande mwingine. Unamuuliza mume wako anakwambia acha wivu anakuwa mkali, yaani anataka kukufanya ujione chizi kwa kumfuatilia akisema kwamba huyo unayemuona si yeye.

Hujakaa sawa basi yule binti anajipost mzima yuko na mume wako, yaani ni kumsifia

03/04/2024

I walked in on my boyfriend kissing his best friend. I was in the house with them. I was in the kitchen cooking while they were in the hall watching a movie. I called his name thrice but there was no response. I thought he couldn’t hear me because of the sound of the movie. I came from across the room to see their lips locked up and their eyes closed.

For a second, I stood watching them without believing my eyes. I wanted to shout but my voice gave up on me. When they released their lips and saw me, they both collapsed into the Sofa. I screamed, “What!”

I quickly rushed into the washroom and started throwing up. I don’t know which part of my body was shocked, my eyes or my throat, so much so that it could throw up.

I heard footsteps approaching the washroom. I locked the door and asked him not to come in. He shouted, “It’s not what you think you saw. Open the door let me explain.” I screamed back, “Dear, you don’t have to explain anything. I knew long ago that you two were together. I’m not surprised. It’s my body that couldn’t stand to see you do what you were doing.”

He insisted that he wanted to come in. I told him to give me some alone time. I was scared. What if they hurt me for finding out? That was why I decided to play along. To make it safe.

I was in the washroom for over an hour thinking about all the things my boyfriend had done with his lips—the same lips he used to kiss me. I kept throwing up until I became lighter. I screamed for him to bring me water and he did. I drank the water while he stood there asking me why I didn’t talk about it all this while. I answered, “It wasn’t needed. Plus he isn’t another woman so I wasn’t jealous.”

He apologized and promised that it wouldn’t happen again. I nodded my head. I said, “Do it wherever but not in my presence.” His friend had left the house when I stepped out of the washroom.

When I left his place, I sent him a long message telling him his secret was safe with me but I couldn’t date him again. He came

03/04/2024

I've been dating this guy for the past four months. He's a cool guy, a lovely piece of art. He gives me daily chop money. He's not someone I hide so most of my colleagues at work know about our relationship.

Now here comes the issue, the problem that's making me rethink our relationship though it's as young as the morning dew. There's this lady colleague I run shift with. The day this lady got to know about our relationship, she asked me, "Are you the one he's dating now after I'd bounced him?"

I was at a loss and didn't know how to answer that. She continued, "He proposed to me six months ago and I said no. It means he came to you after I'd bounced him."

Six months ago I wasn't in the picture but I feel hurt and down. I feel like I'm an afterthought—the second choice when the first, the one he truly loved, said no. I haven't asked my boyfriend about it. I don't know if I should. Or I should quit the relationship and stay in my corner?

This lady will always see us together and have the last laugh. I hate it that I will always see her and feel I'm dating a man she rejected. I believe she will be telling other colleagues too and they'll see me as the second choice. I don't know. I don't really know what I should do, whether to stay or leave.

20/01/2024

13/01/2024

MCHEPUKO WANGU ULIFANYA NIMCHUKIE MUME WANGU
SEHEMU YA KUMI NA MBILI

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Nilitamani nitokee nje nijue nini kinaendelea ila nikashindwa derick alikuja na kunikumbatia kwa nyuma jambo lililonikera zaidi nikageuka kwa tabasamu la uongo

""Lilian mke wangu nifanye nini uamini nakupenda mama nikotayari kufanya chochote kwaajili yako
""Najua Hilo usijali
""Mbona kinyonge sana mke wangu
""Hamna ata

Alinisogeza kwake zaidi na kuanza kunibusu akili yangu walahaikua apo nilikua na mawazo kwanini Denis anafuraha wakati mimi siko vizuri Kwani ata asijaribu kunipigia ajue naendeleaje .

Nilishtuka na vitu vinamwagiga sehemu zangu kuangalia derick alishafika kilekeni nikashaangaa inamana tangu ameanza mpaka ananivua nguo nilikua sielewi kitu.

'""Asantee mke wangu
""Umeridhika sasa
""Kiasi lakini k**a haukua Sawa nini shida
Sikumjibu kitu nilitoka kitandani na kwenda bafuni kuoga niliona nimechafuliwa nikaoga na kujisugua mara kumi kumi tena kwa hasira .

Wakati namalizia mlango wa bafuni ukafunguliwa akaingia derick akiwa na taulo
""Tuoge wote basi mke wangu
""Nishamaliza mimi
Nilimjibu kwa hasira adi akashanga kisha nikatoka bafuni na kuvaa nguo haraka haraka nikatoka nikachukua gari safari ya kwenda kwa Denis ikaanza .

Nilifika na kupaki gari kisha nikaingia ndani nilimkuta kalala nikamwamsha
""Lilian unataka nini kwangu
""Denis Kwan ujui nakupenda
""Najua lakini mume wako kanipa onyo ataki niwe na wewe kwahiyo ondoka

""Naanzaje kuondoka mpenzi wangu
Nik**a nilichizika nikapanda na mimi kitandani nikamsogelea alikua akinitazama tu nikamshika mkono
""Nakupenda denis wangu siko tayari kukupoteza nitakupa unachotaka
""Sawa chochote
""Ndio
""Nashida na milioni 5
""Hizo tu
""Ndio
""Za kazi gani

""Mama anahitaji anadaiwa shamba kule kijijini
""Sawa
Bila kufikiria niliamisha pesa kwenye account yangu na kuamishia kwa Denis
""Umepata
""Asantee mpenzi wangu nakupenda sana akanibusu basi mim