23/03/2026
GBV is a common word on the internet today. The three letters are an abbreviation for Gender Based Violence. The question is, are all fights between a man and a woman GBV? My answer is no, not every fight or conflict between a man and a woman constitutes Gender-Based Violence (GBV). While all GBV involves some form of conflict or harm, I believe the "line" is usually drawn based on power, intent, and the underlying cause of the friction.
Some conflicts are Situational and not necessarily GBV. At times conflicts and disagreements are over specific issues; finances, chores, parenting, or differing opinions. I am of the opinion that in these cases, where both parties typically feel safe to express their views, and the "win" is usually about the topic at hand rather than one person exerting dominance over the other.
Why do I feel the need to bring up this conversation? The lack of linguistic and legal precision is a significant barrier to eradicating Gender-Based Violence. When the definition of a problem is fluid, the solutions naturally become inconsistent. If you indulge me …
Technically, Gender-Based Violence (GBV) refers to harmful acts directed at an individual based on their gender, rooted in structural inequality and the abuse of power. It encompasses physical, sexual, mental, or economic harm. Unlike a general conflict or a "random" fight, GBV is specifically motivated by the desire to enforce gender roles or maintain a power imbalance.
Ordinarily, the term is often conflated only with "violence against women," but technically, it includes any violence, including that against men or gender-nonconforming individuals, that is driven by the victim's perceived gender identity or role. It is the motive of gendered oppression that separates it from common assault.
If the definition remains nebulous, "spotting" the problem becomes a subjective exercise. In a courtroom or a community setting, if we cannot clearly distinguish between a high-conflict argument between equals and a systemic act of gendered oppression, legal remedies, such as those found in the Protection Against Domestic Violence Act, risk being under-applied or misapplied.
To "win" this fight, the definition must shift from a vague social concept to a functional legal standard. Clearer labeling and a more rigid technical definition are required to ensure that we are working toward the eradication of the issue, rather than just its management.
By Koech K. Kalya