17/12/2025
10 Parenting Mistakes That Turn Kids Against Their Parents -
Parenting is one of the greatest privileges God gives to us. It is also one of the heaviest responsibilities. Children do not come into the world with manuals, yet parents are expected to guide them, shape their character, and prepare them for life. Sadly, in the process of trying to do this, many parents make costly mistakes that push their children away instead of drawing them closer.
The painful truth is that children rarely forget how we made them feel. You may provide food, clothes, and school fees, but if you fail in the area of emotional connection, your child may grow up resentful, rebellious, or distant. Let us explore some of the mistakes parents unknowingly make that turn their children against them.
1. Harsh Words and Constant Criticism
Words are powerful. A child who constantly hears, “You are stupid!” or “You can never do anything right!” begins to believe it. Criticism without encouragement breaks their spirit.
Parents must correct, yes, but correction should come with love and guidance, not condemnation. A child who grows up under harsh words may obey on the outside but resent deeply on the inside.
2. Lack of Quality Time
Many parents are so busy chasing careers, business, or ministry that they have no time left for their children. A child does not just want your money. They want you.
When children feel ignored, they turn to television, social media, or friends for attention. Years later, parents wonder why their children no longer talk to them. It is simple: you didn’t give them your time when they needed it most.
3. Comparing Them With Others
Few things hurt a child’s heart,like being compared to siblings, cousins, or neighbour. “Why can’t you be like your brother?” “See how well your friend did in school.” These words crush confidence and breed bitterness.
Every child is unique. Celebrate their individuality. Help them discover their strengths.