22/08/2025
How To Carry Your Spouse When They Are Too Weak To Fight For The Marriage
Marriage is not always two people fighting together at the same strength, at the same time. Life hits differently. Sometimes your spouse is the one who falls, grows weary, or becomes blind to what is happening in the marriage. When that happens, it is not the time to condemn, to compare, or to run. It is the time to carry.
Here are some ways to practically carry your spouse when they are too weak to fight for the marriage:
1. Stand in prayer when they cannot pray
There are seasons when your spouse is spiritually dry, distracted, or even deceived. This is where you lift them before God in intercession. You pray what they cannot utter. You cover them in warfare prayers when they are too weary to fight. Ephesians 6:18 says “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Your spouse is your first assignment in prayer.
2. Speak life when they are speaking death
A weak spouse may confess defeat. They may say “This marriage is over. I cannot do this anymore.” Instead of echoing despair, you counter with life. Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. You speak what God says, not what the circumstances scream. Call them who they are in Christ, not who they are in their weakness.
3. Guard the atmosphere of your home
When your spouse is down, the atmosphere in the house becomes even more critical. Do not allow bitterness, strife, or constant arguments to dominate. Sometimes carrying them means being the peacemaker, even if it feels one sided. Jesus said in Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” A peaceful atmosphere can heal a tired soul.
4. Carry the weight of responsibility for a season
If your spouse is emotionally overwhelmed, financially shaken, or spiritually unstable, you may need to shoulder more. This is not weakness. It is love. Galatians 6:2 says “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Marriage is about seasons, and sometimes one carries more until balance is restored.
5. Cover their weaknesses instead of exposing them
When your spouse is failing, the temptation is to complain to friends, family, or even social media. That is not carrying, that is exposing. Carrying means covering. 1 Peter 4:8 says “Love covers a multitude of sins.” It does not mean you enable sin or pretend everything is perfect. It means you protect their dignity while you fight for them in prayer and counsel.
6. Encourage their healing journey
Sometimes weakness comes from trauma, depression, or spiritual bo***ge. Carrying means encouraging counseling, therapy, or mentorship. It means standing with them as they seek help, not making them feel ashamed for needing it. Healing takes time, and your support makes recovery possible.
7. Remain faithful when they are faithless
2 Timothy 2:13 says “If we are faithless, he remains faithful, for he cannot disown himself.” You reflect God’s covenant love when you remain faithful in seasons where your spouse has grown cold. This does not mean tolerating abuse or enabling destruction, but it does mean honoring the covenant even in hard times. Sometimes your faithfulness is what pulls them back into the fight.
>Marriage is not about two perfect people always giving the same measure at the same time. It is about covenant. It is about carrying one another through weakness. Sometimes your spouse will be the one who carries you. Sometimes it will be you. That is what makes a godly marriage endure storms.
Ecclesiastes 4:10 says “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”
Marriage is not about giving up when your spouse is weak. It is about carrying them until they rise again. That is love. That is covenant. That is Christ in marriage.
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Rachael Mumo
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