16/09/2025
From someone's story: I can't change him.😒
'I’ve been trying to help someone change his diet and lifestyle because his current habits are not healthy. He has diabetes and other related illnesses, but he still eats frequently and rarely moves. I keep reminding him about what he should eat, how much he should eat, and how often he should exercise. Every day I worry about him. I fear he sneaks in snacks whenever I’m not around.
I always tell him to avoid frequent snacking, as it’s bad for his health. Eating too often spikes his blood sugar levels. He knows this, but he can’t seem to control his hunger. I also remind him to exercise at least an hour a day since he is overweight. But he only walks slowly for about 30 minutes, saying he can’t do more because he feels dizzy.
I’m always anxious when I’m away from him, imagining that he’s overeating. Day by day, I feel drained from trying to control someone. He’s also tired of me constantly telling him what to do. I wish I could stop caring so much. Honestly, I don’t want to control anyone’s life—it takes too much of my time and energy.
I want to focus on myself, but I can’t, because I feel forced to focus on him. If I stop, he’ll eat whatever he wants and get sick again. In the end, I’m the one who has to look after him at the hospital. I wish it weren’t me. I feel exhausted paying the price for choices I didn’t make. I’m not the one careless with my health.'
You see? Changing someone is not easy. If a person never wants to understand or change, you’ll never succeed in changing them—no matter what you do. In the end, you’ll only wear yourself out and lose yourself.