05/07/2026
What does bad parenting look like? It ends up reflecting on how you treat your other half and your children, without you even noticing it:
• They try to change you
• They ignore your boundaries
• They tease you regularly
• They make fun of your dreams
• They expect your attention whenever they want it
• They turn everything into a competition
• They get jealous of your success and never admit it—instead, they pour cold water on you with cold comments and harsh judgments
• They only show up when they need something
• They act differently in public vs. private
• They pressure you into things you don't want to do
These kinds of families often seem peaceful and polite on the surface, yet they hide unspoken layers of dialogue and repressed dynamics.
Family members cannot open up to clear the air; they are conditioned to only share the good news and hide the bad ones. In such an environment, you will feel unsafe to express your true emotions and needs to ur family and the other half.
This is not love. It is not a healthy kind of love—it is control and the projection of personal desires.
There is always a part of each of us that needs to be healed. We have all grown up deeply conditioned by negative environments (multimedia, political systems)—a reality that didn't just begin with the Industrial Age and World Wars I & II, but stems from a dysfunctional culture that has been breeding and passed down for decades, centuries, and ancient times.
Only when we begin to face and become aware of ourselves, only can we relearn how to truly love others. By learning to start truly see ourselves, accept who we really are, only can we genuinely see others for who they really are and empathize with everything they have been through and accept the world as it is.
糟糕的家庭教育究竟是什么样的？它最终会无形中映射到你对待另一半和孩子的方式上，而你甚至毫无察觉：
• 他们试图改变你
• 他们无视你的边界
• 他们经常有意无意间取笑你
• 他们嘲弄你的梦想
• 他们随心所欲，随时随地都索要你的关注
• 他们把万事万物都变成一场竞争
• 他们嫉妒你的成功却绝不承认——相反，他们会冷嘲热讽、盲目评判，给你泼冷水
• 他们只有在有所求时才会出现
• 他们在公开场合和私底下判若两人
• 他们强迫你做你不想做的事
这类家庭通常表面看似平静、客客气气，却暗藏着不为人知的细节对话与压抑的情节。他们无法彼此摊开心结、把话说清，习惯了报喜不报忧。在这样的环境里，表达真实的情绪和需求是不安全的。
这根本不是爱。这不是健康的爱——这是控制与欲望的投射。
我们每个人的内心，总有需要被治愈的一部分。我们都在深深的负面环境（多媒体、政治体系）影响中长大，这不仅始于工业时代和一战、二战，更源于古代几个世纪、几十年来不断滋生并代代相传的畸形文化。
开始正视与觉察自己，才能重新学会如何真正地去爱。唯有学会看见自己，真正接纳自己，我们才能真正去看见他人最真实的模样，并体谅他们所经历过的一切，并全然地接纳这个世界本来的样子。
