01/08/2025
MY WIDOW SISTER
I want to speak to somebody right this moment. I don't know where you reading my post from but I call you my Widow Sister. You feel you are healed from your loss that almost destroyed you. Then you decide to open your heart to love again and remarry. Having been so careful not to be a victim to those who toil with the emotions of Widows, you find one special man. You have become happy and your world is almost complete. You start your "Lovengeities" with him. Start doing some things that you are not supposed to do. Gradually ingnoring God who is the best husband you have ever married in this journey. The only thing that matters to you is the "love" and "happiness" you are getting from your special man. His love is so real and you are already thanking God for giving you a second chance to enjoy love and remarry again . As you are waiting for the next level being marriage, lo and behold, he changes. Starts Making you understand by his words and actions that it has been all about s*x all these while. That he is not different from the others. Chai!! You feel bad, cheap, used, miserable, you blame yourself for everything. You remember the series of enjoyment he had on your body against the word of God. You remember so many of Ogechi Abiakam's posts against s*xual immorality which you red and ignored. Then you ask yourself, "How did I get here?.
You cry in French and Swahili, and also cry for Africa. You never believed you wouf fall. But looking at yourself right now, saying you have fallen is an understatement. You can't forgive the man,you can't forgive yourself and the guilt is killing you. And you are thinking of what to do.
At this point, the devil sets in to suggest to you. he suggests you continue by living a wayward life so that you can be making every man who come across you pay for the sins of that man. Or you fall into depression and kill yourself for God can never accept you again. Right there on the ground,you have become a shadow of yourself. You feel so awful and you are loosing it. And here comes Oge, talking to you right now. My dear young widow. You messed up. But get up. Yes hold my hand and get up. Now listen to me.
Many are the challenges of early widowhood. These challenges come in different ways and forms. Falling is part of it too. You are not the only Widow who fell in the journey of widowhood. Some great wives of God you cherish today still confess that they had their fall too. The only difference is that they got up and refused to fall again. "It is not a mistake to make a mistake. But a mistake to repeat a mistake. Don't make a mistake by repeating series of mistakes." My dear sister,get up and don't go back to that life again.
Now look at yourself on the mirror, look beyound the tears you are shedding now and see the greatness in you. Stop feeling cheap. Stop hating yourself. It's not your fault that you were a victim of fraudulent love. There are still good men out there. When God wants you to remarry, he will give you one. But for now, commit your self to the love of your present husband who is the king of Kings and the Lord of lords. He has accepted you back already. Get busy with your family and work or business. Your pride will return. I wish you grace in your journey of widowhood. From Ogechi Abiakam.
