07/01/2026
This circulating video of a woman being stopped from shaking hands with a king has sparked emotional reactions, but beyond sentiment, it raises important cultural and societal questions, especially within the African and Nigerian context.
Traditionally, African kingship is deeply rooted in customs, taboos, and symbolic boundaries. In many Nigerian cultures, physical contact with a king, particularly across gender lines is regulated. These rules are not necessarily about gender discrimination but about preserving the sacredness of the throne, which is viewed as an institution rather than a mere individual. The intervention seen in this video likely reflects adherence to long-standing palace protocols meant to uphold royal dignity.
Similarly, In many Nigerian societies, it is culturally improper for a woman or a younger person to initiate a handshake with an older man or a notable figure. Respect is demonstrated through restraint, body language, and patience. The elder or dignitary determines the level of physical interaction. When the elder extends his hand first, the handshake becomes acceptable; without that gesture, initiating contact is seen as overfamiliarity.
However, the incident also exposes a cultural tension. Nigeria today operates at the intersection of tradition and modernity. While customs demand reverence and distance, contemporary society emphasizes equality, openness, and global etiquette. A public setting, especially one captured on this video, transforms a cultural norm into a national and international debate, sometimes stripping it of its original context.
The broader concern is perception. When such moments are not properly explained, they risk portraying African traditions as rigid, hostile, or outdated, particularly to younger generations and external observers. This can weaken cultural pride rather than strengthen it.
Ultimately, this incident highlights the need for balance. Cultural institutions must preserve tradition while adapting their public engagements to modern sensibilities through clear communication and education. Likewise, the public must understand that respect for African culture requires learning its rules, not judging them solely through Western social norms.
