30/05/2026
If you marry a career woman, chances are she won't have the time to do all the things a full-time housewife does. Not because she's lazy or unwilling, but because there are only 24 hours in a day, and unfortunately, she has the same 24 hours as you.
She may not be available to rush into the kitchen at your command and produce a steaming pot of bitterleaf soup in 30 minutes. Even highly accomplished women like Madam Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala would struggle to balance global responsibilities and still be on standby as a personal chef.
On the other hand, if you marry a full-time housewife, she may not have the career status, influence, income, or public visibility of a corporate executive. That's not a flaw; it's simply a different life path.
The same applies to men.
If you marry a high-powered businessman or career-driven man, don't expect him to be available every minute of every day. He may miss some calls. He may forget some "good morning, my sunshine" messages. Sometimes he'll be in meetings while you're typing "Seen 2 hours ago."
It doesn't automatically mean he has stopped loving you. It simply means he's busy building the life he chose.
Likewise, if you marry a regular 9-to-5 man, don't compare him every day to billionaires, politicians, and business moguls on television. The man is already fighting traffic, fuel prices, and the economy. Allow him to breathe.
The problem starts when people marry a chicken and expect it to soar like an eagle, then marry an eagle and complain that it doesn't scratch the ground like a chicken.
Every lifestyle has benefits and sacrifices.
That's why many successful families hire cooks, cleaners, drivers, nannies, and assistants. Not because they are lazy, but because one human being cannot do everything perfectly all the time.
So before coming to social media to shout:
"My wife must cook three meals daily, build a career, raise the children, look like a beauty queen, and still have energy left!"
Or:
"My husband must be rich, always available, romantic 24/7, never travel, answer every call instantly, and still become a billionaire!"
Please sit down and be honest with yourself.
Decide what kind of partner you want.
More importantly, decide what you're willing to sacrifice.
Because marriage is not a buffet where you carry everything on the table. At some point, you must choose your plate and be content with it.
Nobody gets everything.
And that's perfectly okay.
-BENSONGz 🌹
