16/12/2024
Lesson in Self Development
Lesson 2: Practice Self-Compassion
Sometimes, you feel as if you’re not measuring up. You look at unmet expectations and unpaid bills and conclude that you are not doing well enough. You look through the window to see the green area in your neighbours court and automatically resolve that you’ve been left behind. Let me tell you something: I think you’re been too hard on yourself. It is not greener anywhere. Everyone is carrying a cross, seen or unseen. It is time to talk to yourself in compassion, in grace, and in dignity. Whatever you’re going through is working for your good. Don’t wish it were easier; develop more strength and skill to meet your challenges. You’re not inadequate. Don’t allow self-doubts, guilt, or regret to rob you of your self-esteem and self-confidence. Be kind towards yourself. You are often your own harshest critics. But in truth, you should be your own biggest fan. Talk to yourself fairly; treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding that you would offer to others. I repeat, give yourself a peck, a thumbs up, a pat on the back, a handshake. Buy yourself a bottle of drink. At the end of work today, lock yourself up in a room and dance in front of your mirror, *maka n’uwa bu ofu mbia.*