23/03/2026
4yrs ago..and it's still relevant till date.
No be today I begin dey make sense sha. E don tey. 😆
My country people have a weird way of either making comparisons or driving home a point.
There's this common tendency to downplay one point to elevate another that I've observed.
Have you not noticed that everytime entrepreneurship is preached, somehow, schooling or career is often scorned for emphasis? Same as faith and works, and character and virginity. Mostly oxymoronic concepts. One or the other is always taking the heat depending on which concept is projected.
"School is scam"
" Working for someone is scam"
"8-4pm JOB is Just Above Broke" and stuff like that.
But why?
Are there not people who have been in business all their life with little or nothing to show for it?
Are there not others excelling in the same business?
Are there not people excelling exceedingly in their careers? And are there not career people who also aren't doing so well?
Is the difference because it is entrepreneurship or career as a concept? No! The difference is in personal approach and level of dedication put in, in addition to some other important factors as environment, etc.
For people who judge career in Nigeria as a waste , is career limited to Nigeria? Have you seen doctors in the UK, scientists in Asia? Are there doing as badly as your analysis? Can you say same of their careers?
Schooling, career, entrepreneurship..etc, none of these is scam. Mrs Chioma Eze would say "these are valuable foundations of life".
I have also observed that everytime character/marriage is discussed, virginity is assassinated. The same pattern! And I can't seem to fathom why. Is the society no longer proud of virgins? 🤣 What is so lacking in virginity that it is now the new comparison and not only is it opposed to character , it is equated as not enough?
"Virginity is not enough. Gain character!" Great! And quite frankly I agree. But when they say character, what exactly are they referring to? What is character? What is chastity?
Because I'd like to think that it takes a certain level of character; principle and self discipline for either a man or woman to decide on s*xual purity. Except of course we are talking about virginity in the literal sense - the h***n. But if it's the context I think it is, then a person without character cannot keep it, not in this age especially. It's like a camel passing through the eye of a needle. As a matter of fact, besides character, there's no reason keeping it.
Character is an encompassing phenomenon; no one person is sufficient in all of its spheres, but we can improve on what we already have.
Some even use the ten virgins in the scripture as reference to try and justify this seeming antagonism between character and virginity. I think it's laughable. First using the "Five Foolish Virgin" thing as yardstick to drive home the virginity and character point, is simply quoting the scripture out of context. It had nothing to do with the physical marriage, nor character so to speak. The Ten Virgins in the scripture was a parable, and parables are often illustrations not to be taken literally. That parable clearly emphasized the place of "preparedness" for Christ's second coming(expected to happen but unannounced).
Jesus didn't call them foolish virgins because they lacked character nah! As a matter of fact I think all ten virgins had good character. None was poorly behaved! How do I know?
Read that Mattew 25 again and take note.
They all honoured the invite and SHOWED UP for the occasion. HONOUR!
Secondly, not only did they show up, they showed up ON TIME. That's PUNCTUALITY. Or you don't think it's an aspect of character? If there was anyone who lacked character in that description, it was the organizers of the show not the virgins. Who fixes a wedding ceremony for 5pm and begins at midnight? 🙄 Africans! (They really must be our brothers to exhibit African time. We should trace their roots.🤣🤣)
Thirdly, even though the virgins had arrived early and kept waiting, as the groom seemed to be taking his time, they didn't mind. They waited! One, two, three, four, five..hours gone who knows. Still they were there! That's PATIENCE!
Finally, at midnight, the cry rang out, "here's the bridegroom, come out and meet him"
Unfortunately, one half of the ten virgins still had oil whereas the others, theirs had gone down as a result of long hours of waiting (which wasn't their fault by the way). And even so, they quickly stepped out to go buy. They had money! They came prepared to some extent. They had got the oil but the organizers wouldn't let them in cos the door had been shut.
The Five Virgins' only fault was they lacked foresight. They hadn't kept watch enough. It wasn't a character problem; they hadn't made any plans for eventualities, hence they were called foolish.
Unlike our Nigeria (which is typically a land of unforeseen circumstances and we are almost ever ready for anything), I guess the virgins weren't used to surprises. 🤣🤣🤣
What am I saying, dears?
Character and Virginity(chastity) are not so far apart.
I understand people may lose virginity for a number of reasons beyond control. That's not a cause for condemnation at all, yeah. That's not what this post is for. No! But I'd like to think that an adult who intentionally reserves s*x for what it is meant for, cannot be completely character bankrupt, there could be areas needing improvement, yes! There always is, even for non-virgins. 😁
So we can talk about character without downplaying virginity. And we can talk about virginity without downplaying character, just as we can talk about faith without downplaying works and works without downplaying faith. These things can be discussed distinctively and the point still driven home.
You know why? There are people who would be quick to pick on the "Virginity line" to console, justify or excuse promiscuity.
Some brothers even opine that they cannot marry a virgin. According to them, they cannot be struggling with s*xual inexperience in matrimony. Which is totally cool! I mean everyone with their own choices right? Yet you'd find the same brothers looking for character as wife material. I don't understand! 😁
Where is this wife material going to get the s*xual experience from when she's not a harlot? And since you're looking for professional experience, why not go for those whose profession it is? You'd have all the truckload of s*xual experiences you need to last you a lifetime and extra. 🤷
Why searching for Mary Magdalene with a touch of Delilah? Isn't that confusion transmission? Are you not confused? Because I am, for you.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So hey, even though virginity is not a yardstick for marriage, I get that, it is also not a bad character indicator. It's awkward that everytime the issue of character in marriage is raised, discussed or written about, virginity is always at the receiving end. I just wonder...
I think maybe people are no longer happy with virgins.🤣🤣🤣🏃🏃🏃
Have a nice day! 🚶🚶♥️
Shalom!✌️
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