24/12/2025
One thing I came to realise in my journey so far as a growing young little girl is that the typical Nigeria women were taught how to tolerate and endure abuse such as emotional abuse, financial abuse, physical abuse, cheating etc from the male counterpart because they were always taught to see themselves as the lesser being and because of that they fight themselves just to prove to be a "WIFE MATERIAL" for marriage...
The more reason many of these women see it as a normal thing even in a relationship, friendship and marriage especially when they are with the other gender.
They don't see abuse as abomination.
Most of these female genders will go as far to even protect the ABUSER just for them to be seen as WIFE MATERIALS who is loyal, that can endure, and be submissive no matter what.
Also, the typical Nigeria women can go as far as forgiving the male gender for cheating, and abuse of all sorts they inflict on them but will never forgive their fellow female gender if the reverse was done. You will see them fighting theirself just to be called "MRS"
These women were also taught that making money is for the male gender and should be seen as the only good character from them. That's why most of them will prefer a man with only money but with no good character. Because, the male gender were designed to be a provider but were not trained or taught to work on their character.
Before, making money or having money as a woman was a taboo. Why? Because they were designed to be a dependant to a man and their work was to be a house wife meant to be in the kitchen. To them, they believe that Making money as woman will make the men feel less of themselves. That's why we have lots of men who cannot afford to stand with a wealthy woman or fuel their women to grow higher because they were not taught to know how to control their self-esteem and to stay married to a powerful woman.
Is it this men fault? No
These made me to realise that it was a psychological work cajoled on their brain and a generational trauma caused and passed down by our great Ancestors (mothers).
Although, lots of the female genders are breaking free from such generational trauma and psychological work but will it be easy? No
Will they really break completely free from it? Absolutely YES. so long they are determined.
Are they still some that will be like that forever? Absolutely YES!! Because some people were born and made to carry on that trauma forever and no matter what you do to remove them from such myopic mindset, they will never change and will always be a carrier of it.
I always tell people this, that i am not a Typical Nigeria women. I was born different. The more reason I laugh at people who thinks they can humble me with whatever trauma or anything in any way. You will actually suffer if you end up allowing yourself to be used to inflict trauma just to subdue me that has no bad intentions against you. I ain't even a WIFE MATERIALS like the most of you explain or expect wife materials to be.
I am a water priestess who believes in TRUTH and TRANSPARENCY. I don't do evil and I don't protect evil and I don't pretend because if i do such i will definitely pay the price for it and the spirits surrounding me will fish it out at their own will when its time. I have been like this right from small. No matter how I try to change myself, it doesn't work instead it causes more pain to me. The more reason I have accepted my fate and also accept who I am.
In a nutshell!!
Only you women can break free from this trauma because it won't be funny for the next generations...
