28/09/2025
My heart is heavy as I write this because I find myself caught between two people I care deeply about. A very close friend of mine has asked me to do something that troubles my spiritāhe wants me to test his wifeās faithfulness by flirting with her, to see if she would fall for my gestures. Sadly, this isnāt the first time he has involved me in such matters concerning his marriage.
From the very beginning, I was there. I knew them both before they married. He introduced her to me when they were dating, and along the way, I even tried helping her get a job. She is a beautiful womanāone of those women whose presence easily captures attention. When they finally tied the knot, I was right there too, even driving them on their big day.
But not long after, my friend traveled abroad, leaving his wife behind in Nigeria. For over two years, theyāve been apart, keeping their love alive through constant communication. Then, one evening, he called me with a troubled voice. He suspected she was cheating because she sometimes missed his evening calls and gave excuses that didnāt sit well with him. He wanted me to investigate her.
I couldnāt bring myself to betray her, so whenever he asked, I gave him harmless answers. Even when I discovered moments that could have raised suspicionālike the day she told him she was home cooking when her car wasnāt at the houseāI chose to cover for her. Not because I wanted to deceive him, but because I didnāt want to be the reason their marriage crumbled.
Things got heavier when he came back again with another disturbing request: āTry to seduce her, and see if she falls for it. If sheās cheating outside, itāll be easier for her to cheat with you.ā My heart sank. I asked him if he wanted a divorce, but he insisted he only wanted to know the truth. I refused. That line, I just could not cross.
Now, Iām torn. He hasnāt mentioned it again, maybe heās found someone else to carry out his plan, or maybe he has given up. But the question burning in my heart is thisāshould I find a way to warn his wife, without exposing him, so she stays alert? Deep down, I feel like my friend is no longer searching for answers, but rather a reason to end his marriage.
And so I askāwhat would you do if you were in my shoes? Would you keep silent, or would you find a way to protect her by telling her what's up without betraying him?