04/09/2025
Rita’s Musing
Nobody Owes You Anything. Please Read This Over And Over Again
One of the hardest but most liberating truths in life is this: nobody owes you anything. Not your parents, not your friends, not your relatives, not your government, not even the people you have helped in the past. It sounds harsh, but once you understand and accept this truth, your life becomes easier, and your peace of mind grows. Too many people live with silent expectations, waiting for others to rescue them, remember them, or reward them. When those expectations are not met, bitterness sets in. But the truth is that everyone is fighting their own battles, carrying their own burdens, and trying to survive in their own way.
You may feel that because you once sacrificed for someone, they must reciprocate. Or because you showed kindness, you deserve kindness back. In a perfect world, yes, that would be fair. But life doesn’t always operate on fairness, it operates on responsibility and choices. The moment you free yourself from waiting for others to complete you, you become responsible for your own happiness. You learn to create, to build, and to grow without waiting for applause. Gratitude is beautiful when it comes, but entitlement is poison when you expect it.
Understanding that nobody owes you anything shifts your mindset from dependency to self-reliance. Instead of asking, “Why didn’t they help me?” you begin to ask, “What can I do for myself?” Instead of being angry that a relative or friend ignored your struggles, you start channeling that energy into solutions. You stop begging for validation and start building confidence from within. This does not mean you should close your heart to love or refuse help when it is offered, it only means you should not demand it as if it is your right.
This truth also frees you from unnecessary disappointment. When you stop expecting others to constantly show up for you, you appreciate them more when they actually do. You understand that kindness is a gift, not a debt. You start valuing relationships for what they are, not for what you can take from them. You realize that growth comes from taking ownership of your life, not from waiting for others to carry you forward. In fact, most people are not wicked; they are just occupied with their own realities.
So, read this again and again until it sinks deep: nobody owes you anything. Life is yours to live, yours to shape, and yours to be accountable for. The day you stop holding others responsible for your progress is the day you step into real freedom. Focus on your goals, work hard for your dreams, and be grateful for every bit of support you get but never depend on it. When you master this principle, you will stop resenting, stop comparing, and start thriving.
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4/8/2025
Benin City
