14/09/2025
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Many people are in relationships with partners who claim they are not the โtalking type.โ At first, this may sound harmless, even like a personality trait you can overlook. But in reality, it is often a polite excuse for a serious communication problem, and the risks can be far-reaching.
Letโs be honest - everybody has the ability to talk, unless they were born dumb. And even in that case, people still find ways to communicate effectively, such as through sign language. So how is it that the person youโre considering as the will of God suddenly becomes โnot the talking type,โ and you are comfortable smiling, snapping pictures, and posting them online as though all is well?
Think about it. When you finally get married, how do you plan to keep the flames of your relationship burning without genuine conversation? How will you manage misunderstandings, disagreements, or those inevitable difficult seasons of life?
Iโve seen too many people hide behind this phrase โIโm not the talking type,โ only to make disastrous choices later on because they simply couldnโt open up or didnโt like talking to their partners.
What makes it even more troubling is the double standard. The same people who claim they are not the talking type often become the life of the party with their friends. They laugh, gist, and share endlessly with others, but when it comes to their partner, suddenly their lips are sealed. This is not about personality - it is about priority.
If your partner doesnโt enjoy talking with you, it is a clear sign they donโt find your company exciting. That is how some people end up preferring the company of friends over their own spouse.
The truth is, when you genuinely find love, the poet in you will awaken. Suddenly, youโll have endless gist to share. Screenshots, memes, random thoughts, and little details from your day will flow naturally because you want to carry your partner along. Even when youโre tired and mentally exhausted, your partner should feel safe being vulnerable with you, and you should feel the same. That is what builds intimacy. You are in a relationship, not a banquet of burdens.
If you struggle to keep communication alive in your relationship, it is time to pause and check it again. Donโt let the pressure of society or your friends rushing into marriage push you into ignoring this red flag. If he or she isnโt talking to you, rest assured they are talking to someone else. The real danger comes when that โsomeone elseโ turns out to be the wrong influence - what the Bible calls that โancient serpรชnt.โ
Please pay attention. This might just be the alarm you need to save yourself from an emotionally draining and potentially abusive relationship tomorrow. Do not ignore it. Do not convince yourself that it will magically change after the wedding.
There is no such thing as โI am not the talking typeโ for any adult who is ready for a serious relationship. If you want to build love that lasts, communication is not optional.
Otherwise, it is better you remain single - you wonโt need to explain yourself to anyone, and you wonโt risk breaking someone elseโs heart in the process.
Be wise and discerning!
ยฉ๏ธ Gobi Daniel
